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Hi Wendy,
Here are some refs that may be
helpful:
A Harvard study suggests the link between stress
disorders and leaving babies to Cry -it is
Powell, Alvin, "researchers Say Children Need Touch
and Attention" in Harvard University Gazette. Cambridge: April 1998
There was an article in a weekend newspaper
mag (Saturday or Sunday Age??) that came out after my Crying Book had gone to
the printers I cant lay my hands on it right now (in a pile somewhere??)
that had more about this early stress research being carried out I think at an
Australian University -I will try to find it but am a bit flat out right at the
moment.
The book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Golman(?)
(mine never came back when I lent it - the best ones dont) explains about
neuro-physiology re trauma and I expect it is a similar process if babies are
traumatised by the stress of being left to cry it out - I suppose nobody can
really say how long is too long to leave any baby -why would we leave them to
cry anyway ??-I dont know why we need research to tell us what should be common
sense - but we all need "ammo" to defend natural ways whether it is birthing or
breastfeeding or nurturing
Mind you I am amazed every time i talk to parents
-had a real "doozy" of a mother today -"put a snib/lock 'outside' toddlers
bedroom door to stop him coming out while we were watching TV"
"He got sick of crying and went to sleep on the
floor behind the door a few nights and now he doesnt get out of
bed!!"
Poor little thing!! But at least she bought both of
my books so maybe she will gently get the message that her child is a real
person with feelings.
Another pregnant mum was wondering which book to
buy -I asked her how her birth was last time - "Great" she said, I had an
elective caesar -that was what I wanted. Apparently IVF then
elective caesar then did the whole sleep settling technique / controlled
crying thing - now reckons that was a waste of time and awful so is looking at
other ways . This time she conceived
naturally between IVF treatments -I said isnt that wonderful -hormones are
amazing how they can kick in etc etc -maybe you will be able to consider a
natural birthing experience this time too -can only sow the seeds gently but the
spiral of disempowerment/ disconnection is so obvious.
Infant depression / shut down is mentioned at Sears
William . Fussy Baby. www.askdrsears.com
Another nice one about brain development - How Love
Boosts Brainpower - Greenspan, Stanley and lieff Benderly, Beryl, Parents New
York, Feb 1997,
Parent Directed Feeding is linked to Failure to
thrive -
This site leads to many more
interesting articles:
An attachment one that is
interesting:
Pinky
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, September 19, 2002 2:03
PM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Pinky, unfortunately I'm in South Australia and
not able to make it to your talk, however I am intrigued by your comment that
there is emerging evidence that practices such as controlled crying and
parent-directed feeding could be linked to neurophysiological changes that may predispose children to stress disorders such as panic,
anxiety and depression in later life. Would you be able to post some
references so I can read further into the matter?
Many thanks,
Wendy Hosking
B.Mid. student, Flinders University
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2002 9:05
AM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Hi Joy
I will be speaking informally to mums with bubs
only at 2.30pm after a babies GymbarOO class on the afternoon of 26 Sept
(just in case later nights arent easy and it can be more specifically to
needs of newer mums) This is no charge and wont be promoted openly, although
if you know some mums who would like to attend this will be
fine.
I am giving an evening talk 'Parenting By
Heart' - at 7.30 pm. -Venue :CWA hall, 561 Kiewa St. Albury (next to council
building).
The blurb is :
Pinky McKay, author of the popular Parenting By
Heart and 100 Ways to Calm the Crying - the ONLY Australian book about
infant crying (with a foreword by Sheila Kitzinger) - will be
visiting Albury on 26 Sept.
Pinky offers a gentle perspective on
parenting, without power struggles. She is passionate about how the
prevalence of methods such as controlled crying and behaviour
management can have adverse affects on both the parent/ child relationship,
infant health and well-being, and parental confidence.
She says, "at any age, parent/child
relationships should be based on mutual respect and trust, rather than
issues of control , yet power struggles are beginning with infants as young
as just a few weeks old over basic needs such as feeding and
sleeping."
Pinky's stance against practices such as
controlled crying and parent directed feeding is based on emerging
evidence that these practices can be associated with:
*Failure to thrive,
*infant depression,
*changes to the physiology of the brain that
may predispose children to stress disorders such as panic, anxiety and
depression in later life.
Pinky will be
speaking to parents at Albury GymbaROO centre 7.30 pm Thursday 26
Sept.Her talk "Parenting By Heart" will encourage parents to take charge by
becoming informed, then listening to their child and trusting their own
instincts, rather than handing over their power to a myriad of expert
advice which may be confusing, or irrelevant to an individual
situation.
Cost $5 - bookings PH> Helen - (02) 6024
4464
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, September 11, 2002
4:29 PM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Hi Pinky,
Could I have details of your workshop/talk in Albury
please? Thanks,
Joy
Joy Cocks RN (Div 1) RM CBE IBCLC
BRIGHT Vic 3741
email:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, 11 September 2002
14:32
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Hi Megan,
So far,
I am heading to talk in Albury on 26
sept.
Am getting quite a few invites and
referring some to my agent as lots of time organising required
-travel is tricky among mothering/
working etc but I will consider if there is a group of interested
mums and expenses covered.
Pinky
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Sunday, September 08, 2002
4:18 PM
Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Hi Pinky,
do you ever travel with your workshops. I'm in Adelaide and
would love to take part in one.
Megan.
Hi
After all the talk of public liabilityI
now find myself being asked to provide public liability coverage for
workshops !! I need to do this to use the venue - has brought home
how accepted is seems to be for people not to accept personal
responsibility for their choices/ actions.
Will be putting the full outline on my
website in a few days, but am holding a toddler wweekend workshop
and a series of Gentle Beginnings as follows:
Gentle
Beginnings
Discover gentle parenting
options including how to calm and connect with your baby and enhance
infant development naturally without pressure, as well as how to
nurture yourself and your partner relationship. Gentle Beginnings, a
series of six weekly workshops for parents or parents-to-be with
Pinky McKay , author of ‘Parenting By Heart’ and ‘100 Ways to Calm
the Crying’ commences
10.30am Tuesday 15
October at Wyreena Community Arts Centre, Croydon. Cost $80 (incl
GST). No extra charge
for partners.
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