sorry that should be "now will you give him all your love" Pinky ----- Original Message ----- From: "Pinky McKay" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Thursday, March 20, 2003 12:23 PM Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] When birth and death come together
> Hi Lieve, > You are an angel to this family. I have a wee story that may be of comfort - > it was read at my brothers second child's funeral -their first baby died > suddenly (misdiagnosed > intersuception) at 6 months and their second child (born the same hour as my > daughter) was tragically killed at twenty. > My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family of wee Lars. > > The Child God Lent > "I'll lend you for a little time a child of mine," God said, > For you to love the while he lives, and mourn for when he's dead. > It may be six or seven years, or twentytwo or three, but will you til I call > him back, take care of him for me? > He'll bring his charms to gladden you and should his stay be brief, you'll > have his lovely memories as solace for your grief. > > "I cannot promise he will stay, since all from earth return, > But there are lessons taught down there I wish this child to learn. > And, from the throngs that crowd lifes lanes I have selected you, > I've looked the wide world over in my search for teachers true, > Nor, will you give him all your love, nor think the labour vain, > Nor hate me when I come to call to take him back again?" > > "I fancied that I heard them say, "Dear Lord, Thy will be done; > For all the joy Thy child shall bring, the risk of grief we'll run, > We'll shelter him with tenderness; we'll love him while we may, > And, for the happiness we've known, forever grateful stay, > But should the angels call for him much sooner than we've planned, > We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand. > > Love and hugs to you all, > Pinky > > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Julie Clarke" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > Sent: Thursday, March 20, 2003 11:13 AM > Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] When birth and death come together > > > > Dear Lieve > > It seems to me that you are being a wonderful support to the parents. > > They are very fortunate to have such a wonderfully caring and sensitive > > midwife. > > The uncertainty mixed with heartache must be very difficult for you all > > and I imagine entertaining fantasies that the diagnosis could somehow be > > wrong, but the ultrasound has re-confirmed the diagnosis for you. > > From what you have described there is no hope for this baby to live a > > long and happy future - staying in the moment with the parents and > > gently supporting them as they gradually say goodbye to their baby is > > the only answer I can come up with for you for your question of what > > will become in the future. > > I hope this helps you Lieve - does it? > > A warm hug to you as you walk this sad pathway with the parents - > > Julie Clarke > > Childbirth and Parenting Educator > > Transition into Parenthood > > 9 Withybrook Pl > > Sylvania NSW 2224 > > T. (02) 9544 6441 > > F (02) 9544 9257 > > M. 0401 265 530 > > email [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Marilyn > > Kleidon > > Sent: Friday, 21 March 2003 3:44 AM > > To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] When birth and death come together > > > > Dear Lieve: I am wordless, but my heart goes out to you and Lars and > > his > > family. > > marilyn > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: "Lieve Huybrechts" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > Sent: Wednesday, March 19, 2003 2:48 PM > > Subject: [ozmidwifery] When birth and death come together > > > > > > > Dear friends, > > > > > > Thank you all for the nice replys and warmfull thoughts for me and the > > > family. > > > I will tell you now what followed. > > > > > > Monday morning Lars was still very alive and alert. He drank several > > times > > > during the night, pied, made stools, had the hickup, was sneezing, in > > one > > > word, he did all a healthy child does. > > > The mother hardly dared to close her eyes to sleep, afraid of missing > > some > > > moments. The baby never left the arms of his parents. > > > So in the morning we had a talk. We all had questions about how it > > will > > > continue, how much time do we have, how will he die... > > > So the parents decided to go to the university hospital to have an > > > ultrasound of the heart. They made clear to the docter that they just > > wanted > > > an ultrasound and then return home to decide what options were for > > them. > > > The ultrasound confirmed the previous diagnosis: no left part of the > > heart, > > > severe of the aorta and when the ductus of Botalli closes, the baby > > will > > go > > > in acidosis, coma and die. They predicted 24 to 48 hours to live. > > > The familie came home again. They made pictures and video of the baby. > > Lars > > > never left their arms. They called some friends and told them about > > the > > > birth and had visitors. But also we did a lot of talking, laughing and > > > crying. > > > 24 hours passed, 48 hours passed. Lars is now more then 72 hours and > > still > > a > > > perfect child. He had his first bath today together with his mother > > and > > > enjoyed it a lot. He is feeding well, has already breastfeeding stools > > and > > > is very alert. > > > He beated all the prognoses about lifetime. So we don't know anything > > about > > > how long. > > > > > > Emotions are strange, we know there is no hope for long time, but we > > don't > > > know how long. The parents enjoy the baby, but also fear the moment > > they > > > have to let him go. > > > We are prepared, but it's so absurd when you see Lars, he is so alive. > > > The parents hoped that he would live long enough to see his eyes open, > > the > > > mother hoped for some moments on the breast. Now they got already so > > much. > > > They feel privileged and very happy, but grieve is so close. Laughter > > and > > > tears go hand in hand. > > > What will the futur bring??? > > > > > > Warm greetings > > > Lieve > > > > > > -- > > > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > > > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > > > > > > > > > -- > > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > > > > > > -- > > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
