On Fri, Oct 15, 2010 at 12:47:31PM -0700, Steve Jenkins wrote:
> 2) My server (familyname.com) accepts the message because mya...@familyname
> is a valid recipient that appears in my virtual aliases file, then forwards
> the message (based on the info in that virtual aliases file) to my aunt's
> actual email address of [email protected]
>
> 3) Cox.net rejects the mail because it's SPAM and sends it back to the
> spoofed "sender": [email protected], basically saying "your message to
> [email protected] was rejected because of xyz reason"
No, when they REJECT a message, your server is left with the hot-potato,
and sends the bounce. Bounces are sent by REJECTED MTAs not REJECTING
MTAs, the latter never accept responsibility for the message.
--
Viktor.
