Apakah betul-betul malang? Anda harus ingat sebagian besar wanita-wanita itu sudah tua
dan menjanda, sudah beranak lagi. Istri pertama pun janda berusia 40 thn. JAdi
terlihat motif perkawinan Nabi Muhammad SAW ini.
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http://www.answering-islam.com/islam_polygamy.htm
POLYGAMY
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Polygamy was practised in its worst form before the emergence of Islam. It imposed no
limit on number of wives a man could have. Many men had over one hundred wives. There
was no law to restrict the number. These women had no rights to food, love, clothes,
protection and inheritance. At a time like this when such practices were deep rooted
in the customs of the nations, the MessangerB.A.P.U.H of Allah brought gradual and
smooth order into this practice. HeB.A.P.U.H bore great hardship and personal
sacrifice upon himself by supporting multiple needy and impoverished women.
Those who assess and judge this practice in the light of present day luxurious life
style where excess of wealth, drinking and adulterous behaviour is common, forget that
social advancement, sexual freedom and such rights of the women are the major factors
which are forcing them into prostitution hardship and frustration. The poor or modern
slaves and their spouses are more vulnerable to the great evil of adultery. Every day
we hear accusations of sexual harassment by head of state, ministers and members of
clergy, co-workers in factories and the public against women.
We all know why such things happen. It is the dual life style and character of these
people, which makes them indulge in such behaviour. They have invented their own
standards of morality, freedom and values of life. The Muslims with permission from
the Lord marry more women and take full responsibility of children and maintenance. On
the other hand his counterpart Western men in their free for all premarital and post
marital affairs are as a rule polygamous and take no responsibility.
The Holy ProphetB.A.P.U.H took eleven women into matrimonial bondage at different
times in different places under different circumstances. A brief account of his
marriages and its background is presented here. Some of these details will be a
repetition but it could not be avoided.
One must realise that it is during young age when the body is physically at its best.
The desire for opposite sex is also maximum. It is proven in science that anxiety or
over work reduces this urge. The ProphetB.A.P.U.H did not have the urge for another
woman while married to KhadijahR.A for 25 years. Multiple marriages contracted during
the period when he was old and under immense pressure with stress of wars, siege of
Medina and religious duties could not be to fulfil his worldly desire? He is known to
have kept himself awake in prayers night after night until Allah Subhan directed him
(Surah Muzzamil) that he must take rest during the night. How could he have time to
spare for human desire?
1.
O thou folded
In garments
2.
Stand (to prayers) by night,
But not all night,
3.
Half of it,
Or a little less,
4.
Or a little more;
And recite the Qur-an
In slow, measured rhythmic tones.
(Surah Muzzammil V-1-4)
His first wife KhadijahR.A was born in 556 AD i.e. 15 years before the year of the
elephant and the birth of our ProphetB.A.P.U.H. Her father Khawalid bin Asad belonged
to the famous tribe of Banu-Asad. Her first husband was Abu Hala bin Nias-Bin Zarara
Tamimi. She had two sons from this husband named Hind and Hala.
Her second husband was Attiq bin Ayed Mukhzoomi. She had one daughter from this
husband. Her both husbands died.
Once she dreamt that the sun had descended into her house and there was no house left
unlit in the city Makkah. When KhadijahR.A told this dream to her cousin Warqa bin
Noafal, he explained the dream as prediction to the sacred marriage of KhadijahR.A
with MuhammadB.A.P.U.H. He was 25 years old at that time while KhadijahR.A was a widow
and 40 years old.
Six children were born from this wedlock, two sons and four daughters i.e. Qasim,
ZainabR.A, RuqqayahR.A, KalsoomR.A and FatimaR.A were born before the Prophethood
while another son Abdullah was born after the Prophethood. He died at the age of two.
MuhammadB.A.P.U.H was 40 years old when Gabrael told him in the cave of Hira that he
was the messenger of God.
KhadijahR.A used to bring meals to the ProphetB.A.P.U.H herself inspite of the fact
that she had many servants. Once Gabrael told the ProphetB.A.P.U.H, that Allah has
granted a beautiful house of pearls to KhadijahR.A in heavens.
KhadijahR.A died at the age of 65 after having been happily married to the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H for 25 long years. The date she died was 10th of Ramadan.
The ProphetB.A.P.U.H showed great compassion and consideration for the character and
good nature of KhadijahR.A. The consideration of the ProphetB.A.P.U.H is altogether
different from the consideration of any young and handsome worldly man. He remained
devoted and loyal to his chosen wife and did not indulge in polygamy while KhadijahR.A
was alive.
His second wife SoudhaR.A bint Zumha belonged to the Quraysh family and the tribe of
Amer bin Loue. She was married to Sukran bin Umro and had the unique honour of being
the first lady of this tribe who embraced Islam. She had a son named Abdul Rehman from
this husband. Once SaudhaR.A dreamt that the ProphetB.A.P.U.H of Allah came to her
house and put his foot over her neck.
Her husband died when she was 50 years old. Khaulah bint Hakeem who used to look after
the Prophet’sB.A.P.U.H household asked for the marriage of SaudhaR.A to the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H. It was the month of Shawal in the 10th year of the Prophethood when
she got married. She joined the ProphetB.A.P.U.H seven months after he had reached
Medina. SaudhaR.A treated all fellow wives with love affection and without jealousy.
SaudhaR.A knew the craft of making leather goods. She was quite well off on account of
leather goods trade. She was a great Philanthropist person. She would distribute to
the poor whatever she earned.
She died in the 14th Hijra year at the ripe age of 72 years. She is buried in the
Baqee graveyard.
Her marriage to the ProphetB.A.P.U.H was primarily for looking after the day to day
responsibilities of the ProphetB.A.P.U.H where four small children had to be cared and
looked after by some body. The ProphetB.A.P.U.H married a fifty-year-old woman when he
could have married a younger woman. He was very busy and working hard for the spread
of the new religion. The Prophet’sB. A.P.U.H considerations for marriage are different
from ordinary man. His wife was so old that she voluntarily gave her matrimonial
rights to the fellow wives. The ProphetB.A.P.U.H never divorced her.
Women could freely meet and discuss personal and worldly matters without any veil or
reservation at that time like other women the ladies of the Prophet’sB. A.P.U.H house
also went out freely for business, visiting their relatives and to attend the matters
relating to natural call. Until such time (Surah Ahzab) Verses 32-33 were revealed.
32.
O Consorts of the Prophet!
Ye are not like any
Of the (other) women:
If ye do fear (God),
Be not too complaisant
Of speech, lest one
In whose heart is
A disease should be moved
With desire: but speak ye
A speech (that is) just.
33.
And stay quietly in
Your houses, and make not
A dazzling display, like
That of the former Times
Of ignorance; and establish
Regular Prayer, and give
Regular Charity; and obey
God and His Apostle.
And God only wishes
To remove all abomination
>From you, ye Members
Of the Family, and to make
You pure and spotless.
(Surah Ahzab, V-32-33)
His third wife AyeshaR.A bint Abu Bakr belonged to the tribe Tayem bin Mairah-Bin
Kaab. Her father was a cloth Merchant.
When the Messenger of Allah was born on first Rabi-ul-Awal. The year was named the
year of the Elephant. This year was also named as First Muhammedee year. On the first
Rabi-ul-Awal of the second Muhammadee year the ProphetB.A.P.U.H became one year old.
The ProphetB.A.P.U.H got married to KhadijahR.A on 26th Muhammadee year i.e. the age
of 25 years. He migrated to Medina in 54th Muhammadee year i.e. at 53 years of age and
died in 64th Muhammadee year i.e. at 63 years of age.
AyeshaR.A was born in the 26th Muhammadee year. She was five years old when
MuhammadB.A.P.U.H became ProphetB.A.P.U.H in 41 Muhammadee year i.e. at the age of 40.
She married the Messenger of Allah in 51 Muhammadee year i.e. at the age 15 and she
migrated to Medina in 54 Muhammadee year when she was 18 years. She moved into the
Prophet’sB. A.P.U.H house at the age of 19 years. When the ProphetB.A.P.U.H died in 64
Muhammadee year or 10th Hijra. AyeshaR.A had completed 28 years of age.
Ayesha’sR. A age is further confirmed by the Ahadees or practised traditions of the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H. All aspects of ProphetB.A.P.U.H life style become traditions and are
followed by his followers. Not a single example is available in Islamic history
amongst the four caliphs and many centuries after them where a true follower of Islam
married a 6-year or 9 year old. This is the reason why the age used in this book is 19
years. AyeshaR.A remained married to the ProphetB.A.P.U.H for 8 years.
The house where AyeshaR.A moved with her husband consisted of one room that was 15
feet wide and 12 feet long. Its walls were made from earthen bricks and its roof was
built with branches of date trees and their leaves. Blankets were placed over the roof
to prevent rain, water from entering the house. There was a room on the second story
adjacent to this house.
The furniture in the house consisted of a bed, a mat of palm leaves, one leather
pillow, filled with skin of the date leaves, two pots to store flour and dates one pot
for storage of water and a glass for drinking water.
Ayesha’sR.A position amongst other wives is unique as the angel Gabrael showed the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H her picture and gave Allah’s massage to marry her. The
ProphetB.A.P.U.H received Gabrael in her house with Surah’s of Quran. The
ProphetB.A.P.U.H died in this house and he is also buried there.
After the death of the ProphetB.A.P.U.H Ayesha’sR.A father Abu BakrR.A became the
Caliph. His Caliphhood remained for two years three months and ten days.
After the death of Abu BakrR.A, UmarR.A became the Caliph, he was stabbed and died.
Both close friends of the ProphetB.A.P.U.H are buried in Aysha’sR.A house. After Umar
UsmanR.A became the Caliph he was also martyred and AliR.A became the Caliph. After
AliR.A HassanR.A became the Caliph.
It was Caliph Ameer Moaivia bin Abi Sufyan who followed HassanR.A and brought all
factions of Muslims together. His caliphood started in 41st Hijrah in the month of
Rabi-ul-Awal.
In 57th Hijra year AyeshaR.A fell seriously ill and on 17th of Ramadan died at the age
of 73. She is buried in Baqee’s graveyard.
The ProphetB.A.P.U.H had no say in this marriage since Gabrael had showed him her
picture and told him that she is your bride. AyeshaR.A was such a special person that
Allah Subhan interfered to settle the intrigue created by some intrigures by revealing
her innocence.
11.
Those who brought forward the lie are a body
Among yourselves; think it not
To be an evil to you
On the contrary it is good
For you: to every man
Among them (will come The punishment) of the sin
That he earned, and to him
Who took on himself the lead
Among them, will be
A Penalty grievous.
(Surah Al-Nur; V-11)
Similarly in the verse 12 of the same Surah is given:
12.
Why did not the Believers---
Men and Women---When ye
Heard of the affair,---put
The best construction on it
In their own minds
And say, "This (charge)
Is an obvious lie"?
(Surah Al-Nur; V-12)
And in the verse 13 is said:
13.
Why did they not bring
Four witnesses to prove it?
When they have not brought
The witnesses, such men,
In the sight of God,
(Stand forth) themselves as liars!
(Surah Al-Nur; V-13)
All actions of the ProphetB.A.P.U.H are with Allah’s consent and there is no way out
for him His love, care and regard for AyeshaR.A can be explained for his obedience and
complete submission to Allah’s will.
His fourth wife HafsahR.A bint Umar belonged to the tribe of Bani Adi, and was
previously married to Khanais-bin-Hazafa, who died in the battle of Badr. HafsahR.A
was now a widow and only 21 years at this time.
She married the ProphetB.A.P.U.H of Allah in the month of Shahban in the third Hijrah
year. She was well-educated person. She used to record the Surah of the Holy Quran on
paper and keep in safety. She kept these pages with her throughout her life. When the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H died she was 24 years old she spent seven and a half years as
Prophet’sB. A.P.U.H companion. Writing and compilation of the Holy Quran was done with
Hafsah’sR.A help. She died at the age of 63 in 45th Hijrah year at the time of Caliph
Ameer Maavia.
She could read and write. Temperamentally she was hot tempered due to which people
were reluctant to marry her. She lost her husband in very young age. Her father a
close friend of the ProphetB.A.P.U.H was worried about her wellbeing. This marriage
helped Islam as it was Hafsah’sR.A efforts to write and save Quranic Surah which later
helped Caliph UsmanR.A to compile the first complete manuscript of written Quran. She
remained with the ProphetB.A.P.U.H for 7 years and six months only.
His fifth wife ZainabR.A bin Khizeemah was previously married to Ubaid bin Al-Haris
who died in the battle of Badr. She married again to Abdullah bin Hajush. He was also
killed in the war. She was a widow again. The ProphetB.A.P.U.H married her when she
was fifty. She lived only for eight months and died in the month of Rabi-ul-Akher in
the 4th Hijra year.
This marriage to a widow who was living in hardship having lost two previous husbands
in the war was on compassionate grounds only.
His sixth wife Ume-SalmaR.A bint Abi Umayyah was previously married to Abu Salma who
died because of a wound sustained in the battle of Uhud on the third Jamadi-ul-Sani in
fourth Hijra. She had four small children from this husband and no one to support. She
was only 30 years old at this time. She married the ProphetB.A.P.U.H in the month of
Shawal in the fourth Hijrah. After marriage she moved into the house vacated by
ZainabR.A, who had died six months ago. The ProphetB.A.P.U.H looked after four
children too. She died in 59th Hijrah year at the age of 80 years.
This marriage too was motivated by compassion where a young widow with four small
children and no one to look after got a home and sustenance for her and her children.
His seventh wife ZainabR.A bint Hajush was first cousin of the ProphetB.A.P.U.H and
quite beautiful. If the ProphetB.A.P.U.H had wished to marry her, he could have done
so without any difficulty. He requested her to consent for marriage to his adopted son
and freed slave Zayd with whom she got married but could not get along well. This
marriage ended in divorce. Her marriage to the ProphetB.A.P.U.H was motivated by
submitting to Allah’s will where in (Surah Ahzab) tradition to refuse marriage with
adopted son’s divorcee was rejected and to defy law of inheritance prevailing for
adopted son.
4.
God has not made
For any man two hearts
In his (one) body: nor has
He made your wives whom
Ye divorce by Zihar
Your mothers: nor has He
Made your adopted sons
Your sons. Such is (only)
Your (manner of) speech
By your mouths. But God
Tells (you) the Truth, and He
Shows the (right) Way
5.
Call them by (the names Of) their fathers: that is
Juster in the sight of God.
But if ye know not
Their father’s (names, call
Them) your Brothers in faith,
Or your Maulas.
But there is not blame
On you if ye make
A mistake therein:
(What counts is)
The intention of your hearts:
And God is Oft-Returning,
Most Merciful
(Surah Ahzab, V-4-5)
His eighth wife JavairiaR.A bint Haris was the daughter of Haris of Umro-bin-Amer who
belonged to Yemen where Queen Sabha ruled those days. Her father was settled in
Hajjaz. Haris was the leader of his tribe.
Her name given by her father was Burah. When she grew older, she married a man named
Musahfah. Her father Haris bin Abi Zarar and her husband Musahfah were deadly against
the Muslims and the ProphetB.A.P.U.H. Her husband was killed in the Battle of Bani
Mutlik but her father fled away from the scene. In this battle six hundred prisoners
were taken amongst whom was Burah the daughter of the Chief of the tribe. She was
given to Salit bin Qais Ansari as maid. She protested in front of the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H, and said, "She is daughter of a chief of the tribe, and not used to
being a slave and maid servant".
The ProphetB.A.P.U.H paid money for her freedom and set her free, she was so moved by
this noble gesture of the ProphetB.A.P.U.H that she refused to go to her father but to
stay in service of the ProphetB.A.P.U.H. The ProphetB.A.P.U.H asked her hand in
marriage and sent a massage to her father who happily agreed. When she married the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H, she was 20 years old. The ProphetB.A.P.U.H changed her name from
Burah to JavariaR.A. The father of Burah was so moved by these acts of the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H that he also embraced Islam. The ProphetB.A.P.U.H set free forty more
slaves of this tribe. When other Muslims came to know of this gesture, they all set
free their slaves and thus this great tribe embraced Islam and became a great source
of strength for the Muslims.
When the ProphetB.A.P.U.H died JavairiaR.A was 21 years old. She lived with the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H for one year only. She died at the age of 71 years in the 56th Hijrah
year. She is buried in the Baqee graveyard.
Javairia’sR.A family and her tribesmen were strong and deadly opponent of the Islam
and the ProphetB.A.P.U.H. Her marriage to the ProphetB.A.P.U.H helped conversion of
whole of this strong tribe. These new converts became a source of great strength for
future spread of Islam in the region.
His ninth wife Ume-HabibahR.A bint Abu Sufyan was named Rumla. She was married to
Ubaid Ullah. When atrocities of Quraysh of Makkah against Muslims increased, Rumla and
Ubaid Ullah migrated to Hubsha, where Najashi was the king. Ubaid Ullah impressed by
the wealthy way of life of Christians in the Kingdom, revoked his faith and became a
Christian. Rumla divorced him and started to live there as a widow.
The king of Hubsha embraced Islam in the sixth Hijrah year on the invitation of the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H. When the ProphetB.A.P.U.H learnt that Ume HabibahR.A was living in
Hubsha in great hardship, he sent a proposal to the king Najashi to ask her hand in
marriage. She happily agreed to this proposal. She had a daughter named Habibah from
her previous husband. Ume HabibahR.A was 36 years old when she married with the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H.
Her father was Abu Sufyan, the chief of Quraysh of Makkah. He once came to meet with
the ProphetB.A.P.U.H in Medina. He had met her daughter after 14 years. She refused
him the privilege to sit on the bed of the ProphetB.A.P.U.H, as he was non-Muslim and
unclean.
He was very upset on this behaviour of her daughter. He later embraced Islam, and took
part in the battle of Yarmouk in Caliph Usman’s time. He lost his second eye in this
battle. His first eye was lost in the Battle of Ta’if. He died in the third Hijrah
year at the age of 96 years. He is buried in the Baqee graveyard.
Ume HabibahR.A died at 74 years of age in the 44th Hijrah. She is buried in the house
of Caliph Ali’R.As house in Medina.
Abu Sufyan was chief of the Quraysh of Makkah. He was also a great opponent of the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H and Islam. His daughter, who had migrated to Hubsha along with other
Muslims, was divorced and living there in hardship. Her marriage to the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H relieved her hardship and brought her father and his relatives under
the umbrella of Islam. This marriage was motivated by political reasons and for the
cause of Islam.
His tenth wife SafiaR.A bint Haye was the daughter of Haye bint Akhtab who was a great
scholar of Taura and chief of Banu Naseer. He broke the pact reached between the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H and the Jews of the neighbouring tribes of Medina. When expelled from
Medina, he was accepted as chief of the Jews of Khyber. He was from amongst the direct
descendants of Prophet Haroon the real brother of the Prophet Moses.
SafiaR.A was married to Salam bint Mushkum who belonged to the Tribe of Banu Qareenta.
He was a great swordsman and a poet. There was great disparity amongst the views of
SafiaR.A and her husband. They were divorced soon after their marriage. Soon she
married again to Kunana bin Rabeeh bin Abi-Alhaqeeq.
Haye-Ibn-i-Akhtab broke his pledge for the third time and joined Quraysh of Makkah and
other tribes to attack Medina in the Battle of Moat. This was a sever violation of the
pledge where Jews had agreed not to fight against Muslims. When the siege of Medina
was broken and the Jews were forced to retreat, the ProphetB.A.P.U.H was informed
about the continuos intrigue of Banu Qareenta. The ProphetB.A.P.U.H perused and
surrounded their tribe to stop them from further intrigue. He rounded up their men and
killed them in the battle. Their women and children were taken captives.
After the death of Haye-Ibn-i-Akhtab, Kanana bin Rabee, the second husband of SafiaR.A
became the chief of Jews of Khyber and continued his intrigues against the Muslims.
The ProphetB.A.P.U.H attacked them in their fortresses in Khyber to put an end to
their intrigues forever.
The Jews of Khyber surrendered and accepted their defeat. The land confiscated from
Jews of Banu Naseer and other Jews of Medina was returned to the Jews of Khyber on the
condition that they would cultivate and give half of its yield to the Muslims. After
the Battle of Khyber ended, SafiaR.A whose husband had been killed in the battle was
taken captive.
She was brought before the ProphetB.A.P.U.H. As she was the daughter of the chief of
Banu Naseer and Banu Kareenta, the ProphetB.A.P.U.H paid money for her freedom and set
her free.
She accepted Islam instead of returning to her people. She decided to stay with the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H who married her in the month of Jamadi-ul-Awal in the seventh Hijra
year.
The ProphetB.A.P.U.H stayed in Khyber for few days where Jews invited him on a feast.
A Jewish woman added poison in the cooked meat and offered to the ProphetB.A.P.U.H.
When SafiaR.A married the ProphetB.A.P.U.H, she was 17 years old. She remained married
to the ProphetB.A.P.U.H for four years. She died at the age of 60 and is buried in the
Baqee graveyard.
She was Jewish by religion and daughter of a Jew scholar well respected in the Jewish
community of Arabia. Her marriage to the ProphetB.A.P.U.H put an end to the intrigues
of Jews and the relations between Muslims and Jews improved considerably. She remained
married to the ProphetB.A.P.U.H for four years only.
His eleventh wife MaimoonaR.A bint Haris was daughter of the Haris Ameria Hilalia of
the tribe of Qais-bin Eilan. Her given name was Burah. She was previously married to
Masood bin Umer bin Ameer, which soon ended in divorce. Burah married again to Abu
Duham bin Abdul Azee who also died soon. She had no children from these marriages.
She married the ProphetB.A.P.U.H while he was in Makkah performing Umra. The
ProphetB.A.P.U.H changed her name from Burah to MaimoonaR.A. He was 59 years old at
that time. She was the last woman whom he married. After this marriage all members of
the tribe of Halab bin Amer became close and faithful allies of the Muslims.
On 29th of the month of Sufar Almuzapher in the 11th Hijra year the ProphetB.A.P.U.H
got swear headache when he returned from a funeral. He was with Maimoona in her house
during this illness but later moved to the house of AyeshaR.A.
She remained married to the ProphetB.A.P.U.H for three years and three months only.
She was 39 years old when the ProphetB.A.P.U.H died. MaimoonaR.A died in the 51st
Hijrah year at the age of 81 years. She is buried near Makkah where she met the
ProphetB.A.P.U.H after marriage.
The timing of this marriage had great political benefit for Islam. MaimoonaR.A was
closely related to Prophet’sB. A.P.U.H uncle Abbas, Khalid bin Walid and many
important elders and leaders of Quraysh who were instrumental in sever opposition to
the ProphetB.A.P.U.H and his religion. This marriage helped in rekindling the old
Quraysh bondage’s and reconcile differences.
rm_danardono <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Lucu juga kalau ada wanita Kristen yang mau dimadu oleh suami Islam,
seperti terjadi pada nabi sendiri, atau wanita Yahudi...
Yang dimadu memang malang, yang merebut "kursi" isteri tua kelewatan,
si laki2 kan sekedar ter-sipu2 melihat ganasnya wanita merebut suami
orang... ya kan? apalagi kalau si wanita ini muda, segar,
menggiurkan, dan dan dan...
Orang Non Muslim seringkali buru2 menggebuk pria Muslim. Demi
solidaritas antar laki2 sedunia , saya protes. Mungkin wanita2 yang
fighting rebutan laki2 (apalagi yang punya bank account tebal,
Mercedes 3 buah, ruma di-mana2 dari Jakarta sampai Santa Barbara di
USA atau Monacco). Atau presiden dan wakil presiden (mantan2).
Kalau ada Emir dari salah satu emirat Arab jalan2 ke mari,
aduhaaaiii...panjangnya itu deretan wanita2 yang
dimilikinya...kadang2 saya hitung sampai 12.
--- In [EMAIL PROTECTED], Suhiro wrote:
>
> kalau ada lelaki yang mau...menurut saya boleh saja perempuan
bersuami
> banyak..apalagi kalo perempuannya yang menafkahi 4 lelaki tersebut
sebagai
> tanggung jawabnya, menafkahi lahir batin lho... :-)
>
> On Tue, 12 Oct 2004 [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
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> >
> >
> > poligamy is nothing but lust only.., there no such thing like win-
win
> > solution.., if every men agree with poligamy..married or single
men.., buat
> > apa komitmen.., utk perempuan komitment with such a men..it will
be
> > disastrous..,btw..kalo win win solution..perempuan jg bisa
bersuami bnyk
> > donk..that's what i called fair..
> >
> >
> >
>
>
> > RG Nur
Rahmat
> > [EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > Subject: Re:
[ppiindia] Re: Mengharamkan Poligami dan
> > 10/12/2004 02:14
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PM
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ppiindia
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> > tapi manusia selain nafsu ada juga emosi dan akal.
> > Mungkin juga berpoligami karena masih sayang terhadap pacar yg
lama? atau
> > kasihan karena masih sendirian, etc. nah ke-3 faktor ini bisa
bermain.
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> > Coba saja tanya suami anda jika dia melihat wanita seksi, apakah
dia suka,
> > sebagai lelaki tentu dia akan jawab suka. Tapi kalau
mempertimbangkan
> > cinta, penerimaan keluarga, keuangan, dsb, belum tentu dia mau
berpoligami.
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> > Dan, sekarang berapa persen dari seluruh umat Islam yg
berpoligami ? sangat
> > kcil, jgnkan di Indonesia, di Arab saja juga kecil.
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> > Lagipun ada syarat-syaratnya, jadi ini win-win solution.
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> > [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
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> > so that's the main argument.let me put it this way.., bcs of men
> > uncontrolled lust for women..they just dont get enough for only
one
> > women..they have 2 option..having affair or poligamy..,right? so
a loyal
> > and faithfull husband re only a dream that exist in ''alice
> > wonderland''...?
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> > RG Nur Rahmat
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> > Subject: Re: [ppiindia] Re: Mengharamkan Poligami dan
> > 10/12/2004 01:53 Menghalalkan
> > PM
> > Please respond to
> > ppiindia
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> > Lebih sakit mana jika si bapak simpan isteri muda atau punya anak
diluar
> > nikah? Atau malah si bapak lari dengan perempuan yg lebih muda?
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> > [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
> > realitanya..poligamy itu merugikan perempuan.., menyakitkan bagi
> > anak-anaknya,..mau dipoles dengan kata2 sedemikian bagus ato
indahnya..,
> > berbicara soal tanggung jawab..itu ironis.., mungkin kalo tg jwb
materi
> > bisa tp bgmn dengan tg jwb hati..?
> > man..come on.., it's impossible..
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> > Carla
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