A Soulfull Relationship
An African proverb states, "Before you get married,
keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close
one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to
someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,
ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-
esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep
your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you
can change someone or that what you see as
faults aren't really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time
their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet pee ves, and
differences will become more obvious. If you love
your mate and want the relationship to grow and
evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not
let every little thing bother you.
You and your mate have many different
expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams,
weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique
individuals who have decided to share a life
together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you
perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best of
each other? Do you compliment and compromise
with each other, or do you compete, compare, and
control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do
you bring past relationships, past hurt, past
mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or
her. You can't make someone love you or make
someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual
discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself
making someone else responsible for your
happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and
selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving,
healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the
wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps
a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy,
trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks,
some getaway time without business or children
and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a
hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message
on their voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing
common goals and interests.
Growth is important. Grow together, not away from
each other, giving each other space to grow without
feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside
interest. You can't always be together. Give each
other a sense of belonging and assurances of
commitment. Don't try to control one another.
Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or
her parents regardless.
Don't put pressure on each other for material
goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these
qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as
resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect,
dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
" Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will
never go any higher than you think." The grass
withers, the flowers fades, but the word of God
stands forever.
Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight?
Always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is
where you put the "i".
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we
take, but by the moments that take our breath
away.
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