Greetings Alan! I am sorry to hear you lost your wife. I could not imagine not having Lynda in my life. She is 10 years younger than I am, so the odds are good (bad <g>) that she will outlast me. She must have been quite a gal, having the courage to jump back at the one client. I agree with your "well placed punch" comment. Your statement, "I saw the bully rising", was very well put. It has become easier for me over time to read that Rising Bully more easily in folks. My more typical approach in the past 10 years is to pick my clients carefully. With a business model built on a recurring license revenue stream that is fairly easy to do. I guess I figure that if I have to push back pre-emptively I may still end up with more issues than I, the peace-maker, feel I ought to have to deal with. I had my share of grief years ago, now it is time for a smooth coast when it comes to dealing with clients.
Gil > -----Original Message----- > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Behalf Of Alan Lukachko > Sent: Tuesday, May 13, 2008 9:43 AM > To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > Subject: RE: [NF] Contract not renewed. I'm mad as hell and I'm not > gonnatakeit any more! > > > Hi Gil, > > I have an interesting parallel; perhaps not as involved, but the > same basic > "I don't take shit from nobody, no how !!" attitude. > > In grade school, my brother was being beaten up by the school yard bully > towards the end of recess one day at the end of winter. When I saw this, I > ran over and put the bully in a choke hold. He let go of my > brother and was > so shocked that I, the timid peaceful guy, beat him off my brother that he > never touched either of us for the rest of the the school year. And he > stayed clear of us the next year as well. I know the recess teacher saw > this, but never said anything to any of us. > > One of my first clients would "yell" at me and when he'd call my home, > "yell" at my wife if I wasn't there. Usually I'd quietly ask what > was wrong > and as quickly as possible fix the problem. One time, when I > wasn't home, he > got my wife and started "yelling" at her. She just "yelled" back > at him even > louder. He never "yelled" at her again and hasn't "yelled" at me since. > Although my wife died many years ago, the client is still my client and he > always talks to me in a reasonable civil manner. > > At a first meeting with another potential client, the owner started by > launching a lot of tough questions on my company's ability to provide the > solution they were looking for. I saw the bully rising and shot back with > the same degree of toughness. I finally said that I needed a retainer of > $5,000 to start. He told his comptroller to issue me a cheque and I walked > out with the $5,000 cheque in my hand. > > Violence is not the answer, but a single well placed and timed > "punch" does > wonders in dealing with bullies. > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf > > Of Gil Hale > > Sent: Monday, May 12, 2008 8:28 PM > > To: [email protected] > > Subject: RE: [NF] Contract not renewed. I'm mad as hell and I'm > not gonna > > takeit any more! > > > <snip> > > > So, in later years, as back then, I was well aware that I was not the > > toughest or best fighter in the area - never wanted to be, it is not my > > nature. Not by a long shot. But nobody fucked with me either, as I may > > not > > win a fight, but I sure wasn't going to let anyone get the better of me > > without losing some blood in the process. There were easier targets to > > pick > > on than me. And I suppose after a long look back as to why I > am the way I > > am now, it all makes sense in a strange way. I don't let > anyone bully me. > > Some folks may be wealthier and more powerful than me in absolute terms. > > But I am in a position where I can't get hurt easily - and I > simply refuse > > to take shit off anyone. > > > > Oh, the memories... > > > > > > > [excessive quoting removed by server] _______________________________________________ Post Messages to: [email protected] Subscription Maintenance: http://leafe.com/mailman/listinfo/profox OT-free version of this list: http://leafe.com/mailman/listinfo/profoxtech Searchable Archive: http://leafe.com/archives/search/profox This message: http://leafe.com/archives/byMID/profox/[EMAIL PROTECTED] ** All postings, unless explicitly stated otherwise, are the opinions of the author, and do not constitute legal or medical advice. This statement is added to the messages for those lawyers who are too stupid to see the obvious.
