Re: Need Advice - Concerning Fred [kind of long]
Belinda, I'm so sorry. I would be furious too. But as Kelly said, you need to try to control yourself. You don't want to piss them off. Your vets have always been so wonderful. I know this must have really thrown you for a loop. t Kelley Saveika [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: I don't blame you for being furious either. I have learned, though, that allowing your fury to show doesn't really help your animal in most cases. Remember that being calm (or at least pretending to be) is the best way to help Fred. I also would be looking for another vet as soon as he's through this - that's how I found my current great vet. On 3/23/07, Rosenfeldt, Diane [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Wow, Belinda. I don't blame you for being furious. You'd think that would be the first thing they'd check, wouldn't you? I don't have any advice for you about how to remain calm, since invariably in confrontations where I'm that angry, I end up bursting into tears...not helpful. I guess ideally, you let the fury rule rather than the worry and frustration, so you get that icy calm thing going. Tell them what the other vet said, what YOU found, and what you need done, stat. If the vet you're seeing does gain your trust, that's great, but if not, start looking as soon as Fred is past this. Apologize to Fred for all the extra stuff he's gone through, and tell him you're on the way to getting it fixed right. I'm sure he knows you've been trying to help, and that there was no way you could know a person you had put your trust in wouldn't be competent. Best of luck at the vet! Diane R. - From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto: [EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Belinda Sent: Friday, March 23, 2007 8:47 AM To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Subject: Need Advice - Concerning Fred [kind of long] Hi Guys, I'm really struggling to keep my anger under control. Fred as you know has not been doing well the last few days and I took him in Tuesday and found out his blood pressure is sky high again. Well while I was there I asked the vet if she had checked his tube entry site because for the last week there have been several occasions when I thought I felt some swelling again, but at other times I wasn't sure. Well she assured me she had and it was fine ... last night I was scratching him under his chin and found a huge lump under there again, NO mistaking it there was something there!!! Well I guess I know now part of the reason he is feeling so crappy and not bouncing back. Those who have read my last few messages about our situation know about us battling this infection for about a month and a half. They were giving me clavamox even though the second time it came back he had been on and still was on it for 2 weeks. I'm so upset and angry I am really going to be struggling to not go in there and start screaming at everyone! The vet I saw Tuesday obviously flat out lied to me, there is NO way she could have checked the site like she said and missed that. Fred has been miserable more often than not for over a month and a half because of this infection. He's very depressed now and it's going to make it that much harder to get him over this now. I have an appointment at 11:30 just to check his blood pressure, I made it before I found the lump, but am calling the second they open and telling them I want to see Dr. Munson the minute she walks in the door, her first appointment will have to wait, as far as I'm concerned this is an emergency and this time they are going to get it right The lump is three bigger than it has ever been and I know Fred is fed up and feeling pretty crappy, I hope he can find the fight to get over this hump, please, please send him prayers for strength and the will to keep fighting. My question, how do I go in there and remain sane, rational and control myself because I just want to go in there and tell everyone how incompetent I think they are but NOT before we get this infection dealt with and under control?? Please pray that I can control myself so I can get the care Fred needs. The vet I'm seeing today is one of two I haven't seen while we have been dealing with all this so hopefully she will earn my trust and know what the hell she is doing. Help me guys get my state of mind in a positive frame, it is going to be really hard this time! -- Belinda happiness is being owned by cats ...Be-Mi-Kitties http://bemikitties.com This electronic mail transmission and any attachments are confidential and may be privileged.They should be read or retained only by the intended recipient. If you have received this transmission in error, please notify the sender immediately and delete the transmission from your system. In addition, in order to comply with Treasury Circular 230, we are required to inform you that unless we have specifically stated
Need Advice - Concerning Fred [kind of long]
Hi Guys, I'm really struggling to keep my anger under control. Fred as you know has not been doing well the last few days and I took him in Tuesday and found out his blood pressure is sky high again. Well while I was there I asked the vet if she had checked his tube entry site because for the last week there have been several occasions when I thought I felt some swelling again, but at other times I wasn't sure. Well she assured me she had and it was fine ... last night I was scratching him under his chin and found a huge lump under there again, NO mistaking it there was something there!!! Well I guess I know now part of the reason he is feeling so crappy and not bouncing back. Those who have read my last few messages about our situation know about us battling this infection for about a month and a half. They were giving me clavamox even though the second time it came back he had been on and still was on it for 2 weeks. I'm so upset and angry I am really going to be struggling to not go in there and start screaming at everyone! *The vet I saw Tuesday obviously flat out lied to me, there is NO way she could have checked the site like she said and missed that.* Fred has been miserable more often than not for over a month and a half because of this infection. He's very depressed now and it's going to make it that much harder to get him over this now. I have an appointment at 11:30 just to check his blood pressure, I made it before I found the lump, but am calling the second they open and telling them I want to see Dr. Munson the minute she walks in the door, her first appointment will have to wait, as far as I'm concerned this is an emergency and this time they are going to get it right The lump is three bigger than it has ever been and I know Fred is fed up and feeling pretty crappy, I hope he can find the fight to get over this hump, please, please send him prayers for strength and the will to keep fighting. My question, how do I go in there and remain sane, rational and control myself because I just want to go in there and tell everyone how incompetent I think they are but NOT before we get this infection dealt with and under control?? Please pray that I can control myself so I can get the care Fred needs. The vet I'm seeing today is one of two I haven't seen while we have been dealing with all this so hopefully she will earn my trust and know what the hell she is doing. Help me guys get my state of mind in a positive frame, it is going to be really hard this time! -- Belinda happiness is being owned by cats ... Be-Mi-Kitties http://bemikitties.com
RE: Need Advice - Concerning Fred [kind of long]
Wow, Belinda. I don't blame you for being furious. You'd think that would be the first thing they'd check, wouldn't you? I don't have any advice for you about how to remain calm, since invariably in confrontations where I'm that angry, I end up bursting into tears...not helpful. I guess ideally, you let the fury rule rather than the worry and frustration, so you get that icy calm thing going. Tell them what the other vet said, what YOU found, and what you need done, stat. If the vet you're seeing does gain your trust, that's great, but if not, start looking as soon as Fred is past this. Apologize to Fred for all the extra stuff he's gone through, and tell him you're on the way to getting it fixed right. I'm sure he knows you've been trying to help, and that there was no way you could know a person you had put your trust in wouldn't be competent. Best of luck at the vet! Diane R. From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Belinda Sent: Friday, March 23, 2007 8:47 AM To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org Subject: Need Advice - Concerning Fred [kind of long] Hi Guys, I'm really struggling to keep my anger under control. Fred as you know has not been doing well the last few days and I took him in Tuesday and found out his blood pressure is sky high again. Well while I was there I asked the vet if she had checked his tube entry site because for the last week there have been several occasions when I thought I felt some swelling again, but at other times I wasn't sure. Well she assured me she had and it was fine ... last night I was scratching him under his chin and found a huge lump under there again, NO mistaking it there was something there!!! Well I guess I know now part of the reason he is feeling so crappy and not bouncing back. Those who have read my last few messages about our situation know about us battling this infection for about a month and a half. They were giving me clavamox even though the second time it came back he had been on and still was on it for 2 weeks. I'm so upset and angry I am really going to be struggling to not go in there and start screaming at everyone! The vet I saw Tuesday obviously flat out lied to me, there is NO way she could have checked the site like she said and missed that. Fred has been miserable more often than not for over a month and a half because of this infection. He's very depressed now and it's going to make it that much harder to get him over this now. I have an appointment at 11:30 just to check his blood pressure, I made it before I found the lump, but am calling the second they open and telling them I want to see Dr. Munson the minute she walks in the door, her first appointment will have to wait, as far as I'm concerned this is an emergency and this time they are going to get it right The lump is three bigger than it has ever been and I know Fred is fed up and feeling pretty crappy, I hope he can find the fight to get over this hump, please, please send him prayers for strength and the will to keep fighting. My question, how do I go in there and remain sane, rational and control myself because I just want to go in there and tell everyone how incompetent I think they are but NOT before we get this infection dealt with and under control?? Please pray that I can control myself so I can get the care Fred needs. The vet I'm seeing today is one of two I haven't seen while we have been dealing with all this so hopefully she will earn my trust and know what the hell she is doing. Help me guys get my state of mind in a positive frame, it is going to be really hard this time! -- Belinda happiness is being owned by cats ... Be-Mi-Kitties http://bemikitties.com This electronic mail transmission and any attachments are confidential and may be privileged. They should be read or retained only by the intended recipient. If you have received this transmission in error, please notify the sender immediately and delete the transmission from your system. In addition, in order to comply with Treasury Circular 230, we are required to inform you that unless we have specifically stated to the contrary in writing, any advice we provide in this email or any attachment concerning federal tax issues or submissions is not intended or written to be used, and cannot be used, to avoid federal tax penalties.
Re: Need Advice - Concerning Fred [kind of long]
I don't blame you for being furious either. I have learned, though, that allowing your fury to show doesn't really help your animal in most cases. Remember that being calm (or at least pretending to be) is the best way to help Fred. I also would be looking for another vet as soon as he's through this - that's how I found my current great vet. On 3/23/07, Rosenfeldt, Diane [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Wow, Belinda. I don't blame you for being furious. You'd think that would be the first thing they'd check, wouldn't you? I don't have any advice for you about how to remain calm, since invariably in confrontations where I'm that angry, I end up bursting into tears...not helpful. I guess ideally, you let the fury rule rather than the worry and frustration, so you get that icy calm thing going. Tell them what the other vet said, what YOU found, and what you need done, stat. If the vet you're seeing does gain your trust, that's great, but if not, start looking as soon as Fred is past this. Apologize to Fred for all the extra stuff he's gone through, and tell him you're on the way to getting it fixed right. I'm sure he knows you've been trying to help, and that there was no way you could know a person you had put your trust in wouldn't be competent. Best of luck at the vet! Diane R. -- *From:* [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto: [EMAIL PROTECTED] *On Behalf Of *Belinda *Sent:* Friday, March 23, 2007 8:47 AM *To:* felvtalk@felineleukemia.org *Subject:* Need Advice - Concerning Fred [kind of long] Hi Guys, I'm really struggling to keep my anger under control. Fred as you know has not been doing well the last few days and I took him in Tuesday and found out his blood pressure is sky high again. Well while I was there I asked the vet if she had checked his tube entry site because for the last week there have been several occasions when I thought I felt some swelling again, but at other times I wasn't sure. Well she assured me she had and it was fine ... last night I was scratching him under his chin and found a huge lump under there again, NO mistaking it there was something there!!! Well I guess I know now part of the reason he is feeling so crappy and not bouncing back. Those who have read my last few messages about our situation know about us battling this infection for about a month and a half. They were giving me clavamox even though the second time it came back he had been on and still was on it for 2 weeks. I'm so upset and angry I am really going to be struggling to not go in there and start screaming at everyone! *The vet I saw Tuesday obviously flat out lied to me, there is NO way she could have checked the site like she said and missed that.* Fred has been miserable more often than not for over a month and a half because of this infection. He's very depressed now and it's going to make it that much harder to get him over this now. I have an appointment at 11:30 just to check his blood pressure, I made it before I found the lump, but am calling the second they open and telling them I want to see Dr. Munson the minute she walks in the door, her first appointment will have to wait, as far as I'm concerned this is an emergency and this time they are going to get it right The lump is three bigger than it has ever been and I know Fred is fed up and feeling pretty crappy, I hope he can find the fight to get over this hump, please, please send him prayers for strength and the will to keep fighting. My question, how do I go in there and remain sane, rational and control myself because I just want to go in there and tell everyone how incompetent I think they are but NOT before we get this infection dealt with and under control?? Please pray that I can control myself so I can get the care Fred needs. The vet I'm seeing today is one of two I haven't seen while we have been dealing with all this so hopefully she will earn my trust and know what the hell she is doing. Help me guys get my state of mind in a positive frame, it is going to be really hard this time! -- Belinda happiness is being owned by cats ... Be-Mi-Kittieshttp://bemikitties.com This electronic mail transmission and any attachments are confidential and may be privileged. They should be read or retained only by the intended recipient. If you have received this transmission in error, please notify the sender immediately and delete the transmission from your system. In addition, in order to comply with Treasury Circular 230, we are required to inform you that unless we have specifically stated to the contrary in writing, any advice we provide in this email or any attachment concerning federal tax issues or submissions is not intended or written to be used, and cannot be used, to avoid federal tax penalties. -- Rescuties - Saving the world, one cat at a time. http://www.rescuties.org Vist the Rescuties store and save a kitty life! http://astore.amazon.com/rescuties-20
Re: Need Advice - Concerning Fred [kind of long]
Hi Belinda I am not sure how to tell you to deal with your vet and your anger. I have a hard time with these issues as well. I like Junior's vet Dr Staunton. It is just I am not always able to get into see her. Dr Larrick is a country vet doing what country vets do. He admistered first aid. He is not vaccination crazy so he does not push them. I get the feeling for the most part he does not thinkl annual vaccinations are neccessary. He is a better vet for well visits. After a week on Baytril Junior's appetite is returning. I had a pet communicator speak to him the other day and she said he was weak and hollow. He said his food tasted bland. She did not know I had bought different food bc I was not where I could get his regular food. Needless to say I went by Petsmart when I got off work and got his Natural Choice, not in the recall. He does not like chunks, thank God. This morning his appetite was back. He got his wet food with supplements and then went on to eat dry food. Which he has not done for a while. Keep the prayers and good vibes for Junior as I will do for Fred and all the rest of our precious cats in need. Good Luck with the visit. Sally and Junior On 3/23/07, Belinda [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: Hi Guys, I'm really struggling to keep my anger under control. Fred as you know has not been doing well the last few days and I took him in Tuesday and found out his blood pressure is sky high again. Well while I was there I asked the vet if she had checked his tube entry site because for the last week there have been several occasions when I thought I felt some swelling again, but at other times I wasn't sure. Well she assured me she had and it was fine ... last night I was scratching him under his chin and found a huge lump under there again, NO mistaking it there was something there!!! Well I guess I know now part of the reason he is feeling so crappy and not bouncing back. Those who have read my last few messages about our situation know about us battling this infection for about a month and a half. They were giving me clavamox even though the second time it came back he had been on and still was on it for 2 weeks. I'm so upset and angry I am really going to be struggling to not go in there and start screaming at everyone! *The vet I saw Tuesday obviously flat out lied to me, there is NO way she could have checked the site like she said and missed that.* Fred has been miserable more often than not for over a month and a half because of this infection. He's very depressed now and it's going to make it that much harder to get him over this now. I have an appointment at 11:30 just to check his blood pressure, I made it before I found the lump, but am calling the second they open and telling them I want to see Dr. Munson the minute she walks in the door, her first appointment will have to wait, as far as I'm concerned this is an emergency and this time they are going to get it right The lump is three bigger than it has ever been and I know Fred is fed up and feeling pretty crappy, I hope he can find the fight to get over this hump, please, please send him prayers for strength and the will to keep fighting. My question, how do I go in there and remain sane, rational and control myself because I just want to go in there and tell everyone how incompetent I think they are but NOT before we get this infection dealt with and under control?? Please pray that I can control myself so I can get the care Fred needs. The vet I'm seeing today is one of two I haven't seen while we have been dealing with all this so hopefully she will earn my trust and know what the hell she is doing. Help me guys get my state of mind in a positive frame, it is going to be really hard this time! -- Belinda happiness is being owned by cats ... Be-Mi-Kittieshttp://bemikitties.com
