I posit that there is a master plan, that is too awesome for our puny
brainboxes to comprehend, and that it's "all good".
Whatever will be, will be, and therefore was meant to happen. Even if
it wasn't meant to happen until it happened.
That makes things pretty easy. =)
Nature and nurture are
i so wish i had a phone to read this stuff at werk.
truly an amazing group of humans on this list.
i am afraid i will pass on my VERY dark view of the future to my daughter.
but also my wildly passionate view of the good that is opportune in all
things.
just hope she is not as bat shit crazy as i
Not really, I tend to follow Epicurus' teaching more.
(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epicurus). Its very akin to Stocism. The
Vulcan path is for wimps.
On Mon, Oct 4, 2010 at 4:11 PM, Scott Stewart wrote:
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> Are you sure you're not a Vulcan ? :)
>
>
> On Mon, Oct 4, 2010 at 4:04 PM, Larry C. L
Are you sure you're not a Vulcan ? :)
On Mon, Oct 4, 2010 at 4:04 PM, Larry C. Lyons wrote:
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> I prefer Stocism myself as a school of philosophy
> http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stoicism
>
> On Mon, Oct 4, 2010 at 3:31 PM, denstar wrote:
>>
>> On Mon, Oct 4, 2010 at 1:10 PM, Jerry Johnson wrote
I prefer Stocism myself as a school of philosophy
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stoicism
On Mon, Oct 4, 2010 at 3:31 PM, denstar wrote:
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> On Mon, Oct 4, 2010 at 1:10 PM, Jerry Johnson wrote:
>>
>> cynicism can be healthy.
>
> It's cool and all, but seems pretty hard core to me:
>
> http://en.wi
On Mon, Oct 4, 2010 at 1:10 PM, Jerry Johnson wrote:
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> cynicism can be healthy.
It's cool and all, but seems pretty hard core to me:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cynicism
;-)
> misanthopism or pessimism can be unhealthy.
>
> although they are similar, they are not the same.
I think critical
As far as my almost 4 year old (how the hell did that happen, btw?)
daughter goes, I try to teach her about consequences for her actions
but most everything else is unconditional love, support for her
choices, lots of telling her with no reservations how awesome she is
and what a wonderful place t
cynicism can be healthy.
misanthopism or pessimism can be unhealthy.
although they are similar, they are not the same.
On Mon, Oct 4, 2010 at 3:01 PM, denstar wrote:
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> It's a fine line to walk.
>
> My dad prefaced a lot of his stories with, "I probably shouldn't be
> telling you this...",
It's a fine line to walk.
My dad prefaced a lot of his stories with, "I probably shouldn't be
telling you this...", but I'm grateful he did.
It didn't stop me from making some of the same stupid mistakes, and
everyone's path in life is different, but it was still helpful. He's
a very positive p
That's what were trying to do... I don't want her to become the cynic
that I've become
It's going to be hard to balance, I don't want her to become jaded and
cynical, but at the same time I want her to be street smart
On Mon, Oct 4, 2010 at 2:05 PM, denstar wrote:
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> Kids are probably the r
Kids are probably the reason why, when I have to boil away all the
gray and say, "good" or "bad", that I go with "good".
People are good.
"We" are good.
Even the bad is part of the good. Now, one could just as easily turn
that around, and say the good is part of the bad, and I think choosing
h
e end of my rope, she'd
> smile as if to say "Daddy I'm happy, it's gonna be OK"
>
> -Original Message-
> From: denstar [mailto:valliants...@gmail.com]
> Sent: Sunday, October 03, 2010 3:47 PM
> To: cf-community
> Subject: Re: so much crying
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From: denstar [mailto:valliants...@gmail.com]
Sent: Sunday, October 03, 2010 3:47 PM
To: cf-community
Subject: Re: so much crying.
I have enjoyed every moment, even if some of the moments haven't been
super-cool.
Even in the hospital, time and again, I was like, "how freaking l
I have enjoyed every moment, even if some of the moments haven't been
super-cool.
Even in the hospital, time and again, I was like, "how freaking lucky I am".
But I can rationalize like crazy, so it's easy for me to think, "it
can always be worse".
Thus I'm always grateful, even when things suc
On Fri, Oct 1, 2010 at 8:59 AM, Sisk, Kris wrote:
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> I dunno about that. That phase where they decide to test their limits
> constantly is the most trying in my opinion. It usually happens between
> the time they turn 2 and 4ish. Newborns require a lot of attention, but
> a toddler who's learne
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Sent: Friday, October 01, 2010 7:46 AM
To: cf-community
Subject: Re: so much crying.
On Thu, Sep 30, 2010 at 4:16 PM, morchella
wrote:
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> thanks guys.
> great advice.
>
Also...it gets better.
The first year with my so
On Thu, Sep 30, 2010 at 4:16 PM, morchella wrote:
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> thanks guys.
> great advice.
>
Also...it gets better.
The first year with my son waswell, it was awful. Since he's turned one,
and since he got tubes in his ears (no more ear infections!) it's been fun
to be a dad, finally.
It will get
thanks guys.
great advice.
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I think I'm just plain more emotional since having a kid.
"Up" made me tear up a bit.
That's a bad example, because I've got emotional stuff about being
able to have kids going on, but still.
All the crying itself didn't bother me so much, I mean, hell, have you
*seen* how cute a crying kid ca
I feel ya, we've had one hell of a year, between me working 300 miles
away and missing everything to MacKenna being in the hospital.
Sometimes you need to just let it out and get rid of it. I see my wife
and daughter on the weekends (when I can get down there) and I'm a
mess on Sundays when I have
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From: morchella [mailto:morchella.delici...@gmail.com]
Sent: Wednesday, September 29, 2010 7:37 PM
To: cf-community
Subject: so much crying.
so almost a year of being a dad. and i dont know if i am starting to get
depressed or what. the crying now makes me want to cry.
if there is a sapp
Do you have any hobbies? Or anything at all you enjoy doing by yourself?
There are times when my wife can sense my stress levels and basically
tells me to go play golf.
Golf, for me, has always been 'my thing'. When I am on the golf
course, I think of nothing but my next shot. I check all the th
sure cooker.
If you dont release the pressure you will explode (and that would be very
messy heheh)
Eric
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From: Maureen [mailto:mamamaur...@gmail.com]
Sent: Wednesday, September 29, 2010 11:43 PM
To: cf-community
Subject: Re: so much crying.
Sounds like emotional over
Sounds like emotional overload and stress. As others have said, get
some rest, take a trip without the kids, find some time for yourself.
Sometimes just a walk outside alone will help you clear your head and
get some perspective. I had two premmies, and I spend the first years
of their lives cry
If all is well medically, then it's time for a break...get a
babysitter and take the weekend off. Have a good time...but, don't
make another one.
On 9/29/10, morchella wrote:
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> so almost a year of being a dad. and i dont know if i am starting to get
> depressed or what. the crying now makes me
more than anything, sleep would help.
On Wed, Sep 29, 2010 at 8:36 PM, morchella wrote:
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> so almost a year of being a dad. and i dont know if i am starting to get
> depressed or what. the crying now makes me want to cry.
> if there is a sappy bit in a movie, i now weep. FOR NO fncking REASON!!
Hell man, with two little girls who enjoy experimenting with destroying
daddy's feelings I sometimes long for the time when all they did was cry.
On Wed, Sep 29, 2010 at 8:36 PM, morchella wrote:
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> so almost a year of being a dad. and i dont know if i am starting to get
> depressed or what.
Don't dry your eyes with those menthol kleenex. ;)
:Den
--
Every church is a stone on the grave of a god-man: it does not want
him to rise up again under any circumstances.
Friedrich Nietzsche
On Wed, Sep 29, 2010 at 6:36 PM, morchella wrote:
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> so almost a year of being a dad. and i dont kno
so almost a year of being a dad. and i dont know if i am starting to get
depressed or what. the crying now makes me want to cry.
if there is a sappy bit in a movie, i now weep. FOR NO fncking REASON i
am tired of every one, dogs, bayby, wife crying for no reason...
no i dont need counseling.
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