> > > > Yes, this was essentially a reaching out. Feel like writing about some > things related to all this on my blog but refrain from doing so because my > brother and other family members will likely not like it. > > Some of the reasons people do not like to share the news of illness, physical or mental:
1. One is bombarded by questions about how, when, where, and often why...at times, one is just not up to answering and indeed, it can feel like a tape-recording 2.Such situations are often quite fluid and can change overnight, it's difficult to update even well-wishers about what's happening right now, 3. One is bombarded by well-meaning advice, most of which one cannot take. 4. One has to listen to a lot of insensitive and thoughtless comments..as Vani says, one cannot always digest it all. ' 5. One has to listen to irrelevant accounts of others' sufferings, sometimes. 6. I often find that even close friends hear something quite different from what I think I am telling them. With a close friend, I can say, "Reach out to me if you need me." With an acquaintance, I might not be able to help at all, except perhaps in listening (and that, too, I might not be reaching out at the other person's time of need.) Vani, I still use that old moribund blog called LiveJournal. It has a "my eyes only" setting. I get rid of the perilous stuff that weighs on my soul, this way, once in a while. I don't know if other blogs (I do use WP but have never tested it...and I know that blogs on github are only-public) have the same feature. Deepa.
