----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, November 13, 2003 11:29
AM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] My stance on
underage drinking
If you opt for no punishment at all then
you have a situation where you have just taught your child that it is alright
to break the rules (and/or laws) as long as you call home before
driving.
The severity of the punishment can be
modified to fit extenuating circumstances, but in my opinion, not punishing at
all is a recipe for disaster.
Charles
Mims
Right, Angela was saying she wouldnt punish
the teenager and she would punish the 8 year old, thats why I said it didnt
make sense. <If Im wrong on what I interpeted, someone can correct
me>
I agree with Angela in the sense that
underage drinking is very common. With most kids, not all, its going to happen
atleast once. Most likely more than once. As for punishment, Im torn on that
one. I had the type of mother that I could call in that situation without
worry of getting severly punished, she would have loked more at the fact that
I called her and didnt risk that drive. It depends on the kid in my opinion.
Some kids are way too easily talked into things by peers, others arent.
<shrug>
Actually, I'd punish the teenager
too. I get them home safely first, but you better believe the punishment
would be forthcoming. It would likely be *mitigated* by them having the
sense to call me instead of driving drunk, but even that bit of intelligence
wouldn't get them out of trouble only lessen the sentence.
Charles
Mims
I actually agree with you on the drinking
thing, I was just pointing out that I can see how Jackie sees punishing an 8
year old and not a teenager is a little well, it doesnt make
sense.
My
point was which is better, punishing them for drinking and calling you so they
don't drive again and them never calling you again and getting behind the
wheel of a car or not punishing them and them calling you whenever they need a
ride. Many times I got in the car with someone that was drunk b/c I knew if I
called my parents (even on the times I wasn't drinking) they would ground me
for life. So I snuck around and did it and was lucky I
survived.
Well, she has a good pont there.
:-0)
In a message dated 11/13/2003 12:10:21 AM
Eastern Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
I know most won't
agree with this, but here goes. I'll explain all now so I don't have to
elaborate on it in any other posts on this subject. I don't feel that
underage drinking always leads to alcoholism or that all teens that drink
are troubled. I think a lot do it just to do it, some b/c of peer pressure
and some just b/c they like it. None are really good reasons, but it does
happen, every day. Now when my kids are in high school and they wind up at
a party and drink, then I want them to call me and I'll come pick them up
w/o really punishing them for it b/c I'd rather if they do get drunk to
call me to come get them than to try to drive home themselves or get in
the car with someone else. Not to mention in a lot of cases the more you
try to stop them from drinking, the more they are going to do it behind
your back just to spite you. I don't approve of underage drinking,
regardless of the fact I did it myself as a teen. But the fact still
remains, it is a part of everyday life. While maybe not normal as Jackie
says, it is part of the norm. Ok, I've put in my two cents now. Good night
all.
so an 8 year old
who misjudged a jump should be disciplined but a teenager who drinks
shouldnt as long as they call for a ride home? that makes
sense.
