----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, November 13, 2003 6:05
PM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] My stance on
underage drinking
Welkl, alot of parents have the opinion
that if they are going to do it, i might as well let them do it in the
house, where I know they are safe. I agree, she should have been lecturing
him and whatnot for the smoking. But on the same hand, most teenagers are
going to do it weather they have permission or not.
well, I know alot
of kids who wanted to please their parents. Not get their
wrath.
Also, I don't
agree to allowing underage children in your home and serving them alcohol.
Not only is it illegal and you could be arrested for it. What exactly is it
teaching them?
That you don't
approve of them drinking out somewhere because they might drink and drive?
But as long as they do it in the safety of your home, it's all hunky
dorey?
My husband's
mother told him he could smoke but not in her house. What exactly did she do
to help him? Not a damn thing..she hurt him. Now he is 35 years old and
smokes almost 2 packs a day. Maybe if she had tried to educate him or even
just make his life pretty damn hard to get any smokes in..he wouldn't have
developed such an addiction to it. He was a teenager and she basically threw
her hands up and said WTF?
She did the same
thing with her youngest and he turned into a dreg of society...all because
she didn't want to say no until it was too late.
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, November 13, 2003
12:33 PM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] My stance on
underage drinking
Ok, I'm just using the way my parents did things and the way my
husbands parents did things. No matter what I did, my parents punished me,
even if I was trying to do the right thing. If I had called them and told
them I was drunk and needed a ride home (which is btw what they always
said to do) I wouldn't have gone out ever again. Even when they always
said if I ever wanted to be put on birth control pills to come to them. I
went to them....what happened. I was grounded for 6 months. My husband
would call his parents and tell them he couldn't get home and they would
come pick him up and he might be grounded for one weekend but that was it.
Usually not even that much. But b/c he knew he didn't have to hide it, he
honestly never drank that much when he was out. I on other hand, did
everything I could just to spite my parents for saying one thing then
doing another. I swore I would never be that kind of parent. Hell my aunt
has a 19 y/o daughter and from the time she was 16, my aunt told her that
if she wanted to drink or if any of her friends wanted to drink that they
could do it at her house. She informed the parents of the other kids of
this and they would all come in and give my aunt their car keys and stay
the whole night. B/C they were able to do this, they hardly ever did it.
Most of the time when teenagers drink it's b/c they know their parents
wouldn't approve and most try to do anything they can to piss off their
parents just to spite them. To this day, my cousin has only been drunk
twice in her life and both times were at her own house under supervision.
And before you say anything, my aunt did this b/c her best friend in high
school was killed by a drunk driver, her own boyfriend that she got in the
car with. If you know they are going to do it, isn't it better to make
sure they do it safely.
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