I don't have TM, my husband does, (8 years now). Therefore, I will try to speak from the standpoint of understanding. However, I don't FEEL his pain, but I SYMPATHIZE with his pain. I sympathize with; his daily issues, his paralysis, his complaints, his clonus, his feeling of inadequacies, his feelings of frustration and pain over sexual dysfunction and bladder dysfunction, his loss of his past life and of OUR past lives. I LISTEN to him. I AM THERE FOR HIM. I encourage him, I apologize for his pain and anything that will make him understand that I UNDERSTAND to a degree. But, I don't think anyone can FULLY understand unless they have TM. He knows I understand more about TM than many. But, as they say, "unless you can walk the walk"...... I, more than likely, will never walk that walk.
I love him, I am committed to him and I will continue to do my best to understand TM thru his eyes. He is very detail oriented about it - so that in itself, helps me understand better. Anyone with a disease such as TM, needs someone to listen to them with compassion in their heart. I will always do my best to be that person. Sandy Parker Has anyone ever figured out how to make non TM'rs understand what we go thru 24/7. If so plase sare the secret! -----Original Message----- From: Robert Pall <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]; tmic-list@eskimo.com Sent: Tue, 15 Apr 2008 12:36 pm Subject: RE: [TMIC] Thanks to the list. Has anyone ever figured out how to make non TM'rs understand what we go thru 24/7. If so plase sare the secret! Rob From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2008 3:30 PM To: Robert Pall Subject: Re: [TMIC] Thanks to the list. Rob, That's the best thing about this list.Everyone knows how it feels to have tm;it's not something that a "regular" person understands. Cheryl in Easthampton,Mass. Robert Pall <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: I would just like to thank all of the people on the list who responded to me in the past few weeks. It helped me thru a difficult time! I have been married for 38+ years and my wife has no idea what I go through on a daily basis….nor do my children, my relatives and my friends. Only the people on the list truly understand what it is like to get sick and never get better! Only the people on the list relate to terms such as banding, pins & needles, freezing/burning etc. Only the people who have TM can truly relate to TM and how (in my case) in just a few hours my life changed for the worse. I am sorry I and all of you have TM…but I am extremely grateful for the people on the list who always find the time to help! THANK YOU ALL! Rob in New Jersey between 0000-00-00 and 9999-99-99
