Akua,
Again, I apologize for offending you... having never walked in your
shoes, I'm sorry your situation seems so desperate. I'm sure it's
challenging to figure out ways around the inadequate services your area
seems to have. But must you knock others for having them?
You are certainly entitled to use this forum to vent your frustrations
about TM and your own experiences; however, I still feel, as is my
perception, that your completely negative appraisal of the Push Girls
show was counter-productive.
I wasn't trying to insult you... only make you aware of how you are
being perceived - this may not be your intention, but it's how you come
off. It's very difficult to "get" people's real meaning from a format
where you cannot see and "feel" the meaning or intention behind what's
being said. Typed words are impersonal and deceiving... just as I may
have mistook what you've said, you you mistook me.
No one who's experienced even a mild case of TM would belittle another's
degree of difficulty dealing with this life of pain and suffering we're
forced to live... but how you deal with it can have a tremendous impact
on the quality of the life you lead from here on out. I only hope and
pray you are able to find some happiness and fulfillment.
On 8/9/2012 4:36 PM, a...@artfarm.com wrote:
Well you certainly have offended me!
I wrote about A SHOW and you've resorted to character assassination.
I said NOTHING about ANYONE'S PERSONALITY or situation
nor unlike you, did I DEMEAN or CASTIGATE ANYONE!
I don't know What "ATTITUDE" you talk about. Your passive aggressive
nasty remarks are anathema!
I thought this was a SAFE place where I could SHARE MY PAINS AND
CONCERNS WITHOUT PUTTING ON THE HAPPY, STALWART MASK THAT THE WORLD
DEMANDS.
IT IS NOW SADLY OBVIOUS TO ME THAT THIS IS NOT A SAFE PLACE, WHEN I AM
ATTACKED FOR DISLIKING A MONEY COMMERCIAL CONCOCTION! You say this to
me because of what i say about a TV show?
BTW -- I'm wondering what treatment you speak of?
The fundraising done by the local arts community so that I could stay
housed and fed when the job I was at short shrifted me? The poets
around the nation who raised money for me when I found out there was a
long wait to get insurance? The alumni from Williams College and
Columbia University who raised tens of thousands to help
make my home accessible?
All of this does not belie the grind of daily struggles. Since I
listen, I know I'm not alone with hiring help that does not help, I'm
not the only disabled person here without paratransit -- it doesn't
exist, so it doesn't exist for more than just me.
But to insult me for my unafraid plain talk, to BLAME me for the ill
treatment I've reported is to blame the victim.
That's LOW and limited.
AKUA
On Aug 9, 2012, at 2:52 PM, Betty Clark wrote:
I'm not trying to offend you, but I wonder sometimes from your
postings if you present the same attitude towards the people you
interact with as the one you exhibit here. If not, I apologize, but if
so, I'm not surprised at the treatment you receive. I have almost
never been confronted with anything less than courtesy, cooperation
and assistance if needed when out in the public. Most folks can spot a
"chip on your shoulder" attitude in a second and will likewise turn
off. You get what you give and unfortunately for the disabled, you
often times have to give a little more than you're used to, want to or
should have to, in order to get back.
