> The stuff he is saying is literally abuse.
No, it is not. What Leah is doing is literally abuse (specifically,
bullying).
> If he is not prepared to insult someone in public where judgement might be
passed, he should not say it at all.
There are all kinds of reasons you might want to say something in public. For
example, if you live in North Korea, you absolutely don't want to say that
you don't absolutely love Kim Jong-Un with all your heart in public. Just
because you don't want to say something in public doesn't mean it's "abuse",
a "personal attack", or even an "insult".