hi, if you have a sighted friend who won't mind registering, and going along with you to those gatherings, that might reduce your awkwardness with a room full of strangers. it usually does help to an extent. i think the awkwardness itself comes from being alone among all those sighted pairs of eyes. so take a friend, but not 1 who might be out to steal your thunder, or your dates! smiles.
good luck. On 1/17/17, Rahul Bajaj <rahul.bajaj10...@gmail.com> wrote: > Hi Shirin, > > Thank you so much for your thoughtful and detailed response; these are > precisely the kind of insights that I was looking for. > I will definitely check out the resources that you have shared. The second > one definitely seems worth trying. The only problem is that I am not very > comfortable in a room full of strangers -- aa problem which is further > exacerbated by my disability. > Your tips are very helpful. I particularly agree with your points about not > dating a stranger straightaway and widening one's social circle to find a > partner. I am definitely working on all these areas and will keep your > suggestions in mind. > > Best, > Rahul > > Sent from my iPhone > >> On Jan 15, 2017, at 8:04 PM, Shireen Irani <shireen....@gmail.com> wrote: >> >> hi Rahul, >> >> here are some resources and a few tips that might help/ interest you. >> >> i paste below, links for 2 websites/ companies who help singles find >> dates, though not virtually, but in real life/ actual meetings. i'm >> not a member with them, but i know of non-disabled friends who've >> tried them out. the 1st company is quite thorough and systematic. once >> u register with them, you will be screened, and your profile checked >> out, to make sure you're a decent guy, seriously >> >> interested in finding a date/ potential match. just a small interview >> with routine questions to establish authenticity of info given. then >> they organise these events/ get-togethers once a month i think, where >> they will invite you, and other members, where you can meet and >> interact with them, and try and find a suitable date. >> here's the link for the 1st 1. >> >> https://www.floh.in/ >> >> the second website also works on similar lines, but a bit less >> serious. they don't check you out themselves. there's no interview or >> info varification. u just go to the events they will invite you to. so >> its more of a mixed crowd, with potentially non-serious folks just out >> to enjoy a good evening. but no harm trying it too. this 1 is not just >> about finding dates, but even just like-minded friends and hang-out >> buddies. >> this is >> >> http://www.covalence.in/ >> >> i haven't looked at the website in great detail, so not sure how >> accessible it is, while registering. also, i think they both operate >> primarily in Mumbai. but do find out for other cities if it serves >> your needs. >> now for a few suggestions. i'm no expert, but here's a couple of tips >> that i'd like to put forward, off the top of my head. >> >> 1. somewhat obvious, but necessary to be spelt out, is the fact that >> an active social life does not necessarily imply going to parties or >> big fun events, it could even be something productive, such as joining >> a music/ dance class, a language-learning course, facebook and >> whatsapp groups that might interest you, such as groups for atheists, >> book/ poetry lovers, animal rights groups, etc. >> >> 2. i personally am not very comfortable with the idea of dating >> complete strangers, so developing friendships and getting to know >> people before the next step, is i think more fruitful, also because >> statistically, i would think that people find it more comfortable to >> go out with a disabled person who is known, rather than a complete >> stranger approaching via an app, or some such thing. >> >> 3. do put it to your sighted friends, that you're interested in >> finding a date. word of mouth is still, 1 of the fastest ways of >> spreading word. i'm not saying it will necessarily work, but people >> are more likely to consciously introduce you to single, interested >> women, when they know you too are looking. i've seen it happen a lot >> even with sighted people. >> >> 4. whatever you do, do not. ever. rush things. even if you feel the >> smallest glimmer of interest or hope from some1, please make sure that >> you are not too forthright or pushy, after you've once articulated >> your desire to date. by you, i mean the generic you, not you >> personally. it does happen, often subconsciously, because 1 is >> desperate to make the most of an opportunity. but take this from a >> girl, it'd be thee most fatal mistake you'll ever make. >> >> smiles. >> these are just my personal, initial views. i'm sure there'll be many >> more concrete ones from others on the list as well. >> >> best wishes! >> >> Shireen. >> >> >> >>> On 1/15/17, Rahul Bajaj <rahul.bajaj10...@gmail.com> wrote: >>> Hi Everyone, >>> >>> I hope this message finds you well. >>> I know I am going to receive some flak for asking this question, but I >>> figured I would ask it anyway. >>> I would be extremely grateful if you guys could share the strategies >>> that you have adopted (both successful and unsuccessful) for finding a >>> dating partner. >>> >>> I know that Tinder is not accessible and the other dating apps that >>> may be accessible aren't sufficiently 'mainstream' to attract anyone >>> except busybodies. >>> I am averse to the idea of dating someone else with a disability, so >>> any apps that may exist for this purpose aren't very useful for me. >>> So I would be curious to know if anyone has any ideas as regards the >>> steps that I can take to find someone. >>> Also, in light of the fact that blind people typically do not have as >>> active a social life as their sighted counterparts, I would be curious >>> to know how those of you who are committed were able to find your >>> partner. >>> >>> I know that this is a subject that not many people would be >>> comfortable talking about on a public forum, so please feel free to >>> email me privately to share your experiences. >>> Needless to say, if you think that dating is a western idea that has >>> no place in India or I should ask questions about more substantive >>> issues, please feel free not to participate in this discussion. >>> With those caveats out of the way, I hope to receive some insightful >>> responses. >>> >>> Best, >>> Rahul >>> >>> >>> Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility >>> of >>> mobile phones / Tabs on: >>> http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>> >>> >>> Search for old postings at: >>> http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ >>> >>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>> accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in >>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>> >>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>> please >>> visit the list home page at >>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>> >>> >>> Disclaimer: >>> 1. 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