Hmm, perhaps Mr Habeeb has hit the nail now. In fact, few years back, I read one survey Published by National association of the Blind (NAB)where more than 50% blind women expressed their inability to bring up children. and they are very sceptical of marrying to blind men due to lack of self-confidence in dealing with struggle in life after marriage. And, to generate more shock, I'm reminded of one survey conducted in Delhi University couple of years ago, where 80% of respondents sighted adult college going girls were of the view that blind people are almost asexual. You may call it lack of awareness.. no? If Disabled are not prepared to make up with their own community fellow beings, then, it is much harder to mingle and intermingle with sighted guys/girls! Now, decide what is better singleton or doubleton? choice is ours! On 2/26/13, habeeb. c <habee...@gmail.com> wrote: > so much has been said on the topic. Yet i want to say a few remarks. > To hemangshu sir, > Even with my reservation on the term Mainstream, sorry to say that > probably it was that single sentence remark of yours that had made me > miss understand your sentiment. Sorry if i have hurt you. With regard > to the role of NGO even though i'm not an executive oficial of KFB, i > can clearly say that we had forced nobody to be a part of this event, > when lions club agreed for such a proposal, we gave an advertisement, > and some people came forward and the lions people helped them. Where > have we committed a mistake here. IN a society where people are not > able to get married on account of their impairment, coupled with > financial and social backwardness, when an NGO becomes ready to help > such people, you all mean that we are to tell them that this may > create a wrong message in the society and we don't want to promote > such a scheme. It inturn means that we prefer such people to remain > bachilors. Even after the encouragement of the NGOs and the assistance > from different quarters of society, Many of our VI friends are > sceptical regarding marriage. So what according to you all "Those who > critisize mass marriages" is the solution for this problem. Last but > not least, What is the objective of Marriage, Is it to become a part > of main. stream. > > On 2/26/13, Subramani L <lsubramani.v...@gmail.com> wrote: >> One thing is, marriages on mass forces people into a bracket of >> recipients of charity which is not a very positive thing. And again, >> it's absurd to look at marriage from disability perspective. If you >> all truely believe that you are differently abled, I'm sure someone is >> bound to find that different ability of your's. The question is >> whether marriages are events of solemnizing relationships between >> loving couples or if they are performed as a reinstatement of the >> charity message. I'm sure most of us have some reservations about the >> latter. >> >> regards, >> >> Subramani >> >> P.S: Thanks to Payal for the correction. Regret the error. >> >> On 2/25/13, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote: >>> I'm glad to read conflicting claims with regard to 'Mass Marriage >>> Melange'. >>> >>> and thought to join in this vibrant discussion and deliberation. >>> >>> Facilitating mass marriages of visually challenged has become an >>> entrepreneurial come social-service self-satisfying practice these >>> days. >>> in fact in many parts of the country, specially in mega metros and >>> mini metros, scores of marriages are arranged, and solemnized. >>> This growing phenomena raises many questions. >>> 1. Is getting married to a non-disabled really take you in the domain >>> of 'mainstream'? >>> When Actor seeks actress for marriage, player looks player for >>> marriage, poet desires poetess for marriage, then why can't blind man >>> marry to a blind woman? >>> >>> Now question begs attention, who defines mainstream? >>> and is marrying to a non-disabled is enough to be called in the >>> mainstream? >>> I don't think so. >>> Choice of marriage is purely subjective. and if so called mainstream >>> occupants are morally bbound to accomodate marginalized, hence >>> marginalised have an ethical duty towards their fellow beings >>> irrespective of jender. >>> Marriage is not a constitutional right which one can expect from so >>> called mainstream people to accomodate the rest from the periphery. >>> Marriage entails: mutual respect, equal concerns, and and love along >>> with sacrifice. >>> And mainstream is a myth, which celebrates untouchability, cheers >>> masculinity, and despises disability. >>> >>> Now will leave with two more questions Which need further >>> contemplation, but I'm not in a position to take any view; hope many >>> people here will put some light on these questions. >>> 1. Why NGOs Which are traditionally supposed to facilitate educational >>> and employable empowerment of visually challenged has picked up new >>> attractive dimention in their spheres to organize marriage of >>> visually challenged? >>> 2. And why adult blind people flock in huge numbers to seek spouse via >>> these NGOs? >>> >>> On 2/25/13, Asudani, Rajesh <rajeshasud...@rbi.org.in> wrote: >>>> I am compelled to congratulate Himanshu for his scientific approach.. >>>> >>>> >>>> -----Original Message----- >>>> From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On >>>> Behalf >>>> Of Himanshu Sahu >>>> Sent: Monday, February 25, 2013 2:20 PM >>>> To: accessindia@accessindia.org.in >>>> Subject: Re: [AI] PARAVOOR:Mass wedding held for visually challenged >>>> >>>> Hello, >>>> Let me be very specific with the topic, >>>> >>>> 1. It does not make any difference to me that which organization >>>> organized the mass wedding or what they have done earlier in this >>>> respect. This may be of liking to those who are involved in it or >>>> benefitted through it and publicizing it. Further I do not deny the >>>> necessity of such mass marriages and appreciate the initiative. But >>>> still my simple question remains unanswered that "how it brings VIs >>>> into mainstream"? >>>> 2. Well, knowing me personally is not going to solve your >>>> confusion, >>>> but for the sake of correcting your hypothesis I am compelled to >>>> inform you that I lost eyesight 10 years back and have been the member >>>> of list for last 4 years. And I too know many of VI couples friends. >>>> But here as well, as earlier, I am not able to understand that being >>>> new or old member of list, and, knowing VI couples or not, is how come >>>> related with the issue of bringing VIs into mainstream? >>>> 3. In answer to your next question, I would only say that marrying >>>> within community or outside community and whether blind couple are >>>> happy or not, is a broad topic and I am not interested to deviate from >>>> the actual topic that is "how it brings VIs into mainstream"? >>>> >>>> Friend, in the zeal of getting your project acclaimed aren't you >>>> trying to establish a plain charitable mass marriage as inclusion of >>>> VIs into mainstream? Definitely mass marriage is a part of >>>> rehabilitation but not the inclusion into mainstream. I would have >>>> rather appreciated it if all VIs were married with sighted >>>> counterparts and then one would have called it as an attempt to >>>> bringing VIs into mainstream. Still the sighted world is well-known >>>> and well-established "mainstream" and all of hue and cry made by VI >>>> community has more or less similar theme to get incorporated into this >>>> mainstream as we are kept secluded from it. >>>> >>>> For the better clarification of the term "mainstream", please refer to >>>> the below mentioned some of the dictionary meanings of the term: >>>> "To incorporate into the prevailing group" >>>> "Representing the prevalent attitudes and values of a society or >>>> groups" >>>> And, "normal", "typical", "conventional" etc. >>>> >>>> So, it demonstrates that what we are talking about is not an attempt >>>> of incorporation into mainstream, and if one wishes to deny it have to >>>> innovate or forcefully create a new definition of incorporation into >>>> mainstream! And I extend my best wishes to those who want to do this >>>> novel Endeavour. >>>> >>>> >>>> On 2/24/13, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>> By Express News Service - PARAVOOR >>>>> 24th February 2013 09:22 AM >>>>> Photos >>>>> The mass wedding of visually challenged couples, held by the Lioness >>>>> Board, the women's wing of the Lion's Club of District 318 C, at >>>>> Paravoor, on Saturday. As part of bringing physically handicapped >>>>> people into the mainstream, Lioness Board, the women's wing of the >>>>> Lion's Club, of District 318 C, held a mass wedding that saw 18 >>>>> visually challenged couples taking marital vows at Paravoor on >>>>> Saturday. >>>>> http://newindianexpress.com/states/kerala/article1476830.ece >>>>> 'Porutham 2013', held at Paravoor Vyapara Bhavan, was inaugurated by >>>>> Lions Club district governor Abraham Panjikkaran. Union Minister for >>>>> Food and Civil Supplies K V Thomas was the chief guest at the >>>>> function. >>>>> >>>>> While delivering the keynote address, Thomas said that the mass >>>>> wedding would be a model for the nation, and the event was an occasion >>>>> to learn how a society could be responsible. >>>>> >>>>> The couples were presented with 2.5 sovereigns of gold ornaments each >>>>> and `15,000 in cash. >>>>> >>>>> The money was distributed by municipal chairperson Valsala >>>>> Prasannakumar and actor Mythili. Aluva Rural SP Satish Bino >>>>> distributed financial aid for enabling self-employment for the >>>>> visually challenged couples. >>>>> >>>>> From 102 clubs under District 318 C, dresses and household utensils, >>>>> including pressure cookers, were given as gifts to the newly-weds. >>>>> Club president Indira Bai Prasad, secretary Susheela Varghese, Prof >>>>> Monamma Kokkad, chief co-ordinator A Rajan, Human Rights Commission >>>>> chairman Justice Benjamin Koshy offered felicitations. >>>>> >>>>> Out of the 205 applicants, 18 couples were selected. The club would >>>>> conduct a mass wedding for 50 couples in 2014, said Indira Bai Prasad. >>>>> >>>>> -- >>>>> Avinash Shahi >>>>> MPhil Research Scholar >>>>> Centre for the Study of Law and Governance >>>>> Jawaharlal Nehru University >>>>> New Delhi India >>>>> >>>>> Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing >>>>> accessibility >>>>> of >>>>> mobile phones / Tabs on: >>>>> http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> Search for old postings at: >>>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ >>>>> >>>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>>> accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in >>>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>>> >>>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>>>> please >>>>> visit the list home page at >>>>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>>> >>>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> -- >>>> Thanks and regards >>>> Himanshu Sahu >>>> Reach: 09051055000 >>>> Skype: himanshu.cute4u >>>> >>>> Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility >>>> of >>>> mobile phones / Tabs on: >>>> http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>> >>>> >>>> Search for old postings at: >>>> http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ >>>> >>>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>>> accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in >>>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>>> >>>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>>> please >>>> visit the list home page at >>>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>>> >>>> >>>> Caution: The Reserve Bank of India never sends mails, smses or makes >>>> calls >>>> asking for personal information like your bank account details, >>>> passwords, >>>> etc. It never keeps or offers funds to anyone. 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