You do not be worried about others comments and observations. Some time visually impaired or people with other disabilities do not get the proper channel or platform to seek a partner for marriage. Such type of mass marriages enable them to be able to find a suitable spouse. I wrote in my another communication, mass marriages are organized in sighted community too. There is nothing to do with mainstreaming. If boy from aggarwal community get married with a girl of aggarwal community, does it mean that they both are disconnected from the mainstream society? No not at all. Similarly, a visually impaired person may marry to the person with same disability.

Regards,

Amit Bhatt
----- Original Message ----- From: "habeeb. c" <habee...@gmail.com>
To: <accessindia@accessindia.org.in>
Sent: Tuesday, February 26, 2013 10:50 PM
Subject: Re: [AI] PARAVOOR:Mass wedding held for visually challenged


so much has been said on the topic. Yet i want to say a few remarks.
To hemangshu sir,
Even with my reservation on the term Mainstream, sorry to say that
probably it was that single sentence remark of yours that had made me
miss understand your sentiment. Sorry if i have hurt you. With regard
to the role of NGO even though i'm not an executive oficial of KFB, i
can clearly say that we had forced nobody to be a part of this event,
when lions club agreed for such a proposal, we gave an advertisement,
and some people came forward and the lions people helped them. Where
have we committed a mistake here. IN a society where people are not
able to get married on account of their impairment, coupled with
financial and social backwardness, when an NGO becomes ready to help
such people, you all mean that we are to tell them that this may
create a wrong message in the society and we don't want to promote
such a scheme. It inturn means that we prefer such people to remain
bachilors. Even after the encouragement of the NGOs and the assistance
from different quarters of society, Many of our VI friends are
sceptical regarding marriage. So what according to you all "Those who
critisize mass marriages" is the solution for this problem. Last but
not least, What is the objective of Marriage, Is it to become a part
of main. stream.

On 2/26/13, Subramani L <lsubramani.v...@gmail.com> wrote:
One thing is, marriages on mass forces people into a bracket of
recipients of charity which is not a very positive thing. And again,
it's absurd to look at marriage from disability perspective. If you
all truely believe that you are differently abled, I'm sure someone is
bound to find that different ability of your's. The question is
whether marriages are events of solemnizing relationships between
loving couples or if they are performed as a reinstatement of the
charity message. I'm sure most of us have some reservations about the
latter.

regards,

Subramani

P.S: Thanks to Payal for the correction. Regret the error.

On 2/25/13, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote:
I'm glad to read conflicting claims with regard to 'Mass Marriage
Melange'.

and thought to join in this vibrant discussion and deliberation.

Facilitating mass marriages of visually challenged has become an
entrepreneurial come social-service self-satisfying practice these
days.
in fact in many parts of the country, specially in mega metros and
mini metros, scores of marriages are arranged, and solemnized.
This growing phenomena raises many questions.
1. Is getting married to a non-disabled really take you in the domain
of 'mainstream'?
When Actor seeks actress for marriage, player looks player for
marriage, poet desires  poetess for marriage, then why can't blind man
marry to a blind woman?

Now question begs attention, who defines mainstream?
and is marrying to a non-disabled is enough to be called in the
mainstream?
I don't think so.
Choice of marriage is purely subjective. and if so called mainstream
occupants are morally bbound to accomodate marginalized, hence
marginalised have an ethical duty towards their fellow beings
irrespective of jender.
Marriage is not a constitutional right which one can expect from so
called mainstream people to accomodate the rest from  the periphery.
Marriage entails: mutual respect, equal concerns, and and love along
with sacrifice.
And mainstream is a myth, which celebrates untouchability, cheers
masculinity, and despises disability.

Now will leave with two more questions Which need further
contemplation, but I'm not in a position to take any view; hope many
people here will put some light on these questions.
1. Why NGOs Which are traditionally supposed to facilitate educational
and employable empowerment of visually challenged has picked  up new
attractive dimention in  their spheres to organize marriage of
visually challenged?
2. And why adult blind people flock in huge numbers to seek spouse via
these NGOs?

On 2/25/13, Asudani, Rajesh <rajeshasud...@rbi.org.in> wrote:
I am compelled to congratulate Himanshu for his scientific approach..


-----Original Message-----
From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On
Behalf
Of Himanshu Sahu
Sent: Monday, February 25, 2013 2:20 PM
To: accessindia@accessindia.org.in
Subject: Re: [AI] PARAVOOR:Mass wedding held for visually challenged

Hello,
Let me be very specific with the topic,

1.      It does not make any difference to me that which organization
organized the mass wedding or what they have done earlier in this
respect. This may be of liking to those who are involved in it or
benefitted through it and publicizing it. Further I do not deny the
necessity of such mass marriages and appreciate the initiative. But
still my simple question remains unanswered that "how it brings VIs
into mainstream"?
2.      Well, knowing me personally is not going to solve your
confusion,
but for the sake of correcting your hypothesis I am compelled to
inform you that I lost eyesight 10 years back and have been the member
of list for last 4 years. And I too know many of VI couples friends.
But here as well, as earlier, I am not able to understand that being
new or old member of list, and, knowing VI couples or not, is how come
related with the issue of bringing VIs into mainstream?
3.      In answer to your next question, I would only say that marrying
within community or outside community and whether blind couple are
happy or not, is a broad topic and I am not interested to deviate from
the actual topic that is "how it brings VIs into mainstream"?

Friend, in the zeal of getting your project acclaimed aren't you
trying to establish a plain charitable mass marriage as inclusion of
VIs into mainstream? Definitely mass marriage is a part of
rehabilitation but not the inclusion into mainstream. I would have
rather appreciated it if all VIs were married with sighted
counterparts and then one would have called it as an attempt to
bringing VIs into mainstream. Still the sighted world is well-known
and well-established "mainstream" and all of hue and cry made by VI
community has more or less similar theme to get incorporated into this
mainstream as we are kept secluded from it.

For the better clarification of the term "mainstream", please refer to
the below mentioned some of the dictionary meanings of the term:
"To incorporate into the prevailing group"
"Representing the prevalent attitudes and values of a society or groups"
And, "normal", "typical", "conventional" etc.

So, it demonstrates that what we are talking about is not an attempt
of incorporation into mainstream, and if one wishes to deny it have to
innovate or forcefully create a new definition of incorporation into
mainstream! And I extend my best wishes to those who want to do this
novel Endeavour.


On 2/24/13, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote:
By Express News Service - PARAVOOR
24th February 2013 09:22 AM
Photos
 The mass wedding of visually challenged couples, held by the Lioness
Board, the women's wing of the Lion's Club of District 318 C, at
Paravoor, on Saturday. As part of bringing physically handicapped
people into the mainstream, Lioness Board, the women's wing of the
Lion's Club, of  District 318 C, held a mass wedding that saw 18
visually challenged couples taking marital vows at Paravoor on
Saturday.
http://newindianexpress.com/states/kerala/article1476830.ece
'Porutham 2013', held at Paravoor Vyapara Bhavan, was inaugurated by
Lions Club district governor Abraham Panjikkaran. Union Minister for
Food and Civil Supplies K V Thomas was the chief guest at the
function.

While delivering the keynote address, Thomas said that the mass
wedding would be a model for the nation, and the event was an occasion
to learn how a society could be responsible.

The couples were presented with 2.5 sovereigns of gold ornaments each
and `15,000 in cash.

The money was distributed by municipal chairperson Valsala
Prasannakumar and actor  Mythili. Aluva Rural SP Satish Bino
distributed financial aid for enabling self-employment for the
visually challenged couples.

From 102 clubs under District 318 C, dresses and household utensils,
including pressure cookers, were given as gifts to the newly-weds.
Club president Indira Bai Prasad, secretary Susheela Varghese, Prof
Monamma Kokkad, chief co-ordinator A Rajan, Human Rights Commission
chairman Justice Benjamin Koshy offered felicitations.

Out of the 205 applicants, 18 couples were selected. The club would
conduct a mass wedding for 50 couples in 2014, said Indira Bai Prasad.

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Avinash Shahi
MPhil Research Scholar
Centre for the Study of Law and Governance
Jawaharlal Nehru University
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