I'm very sorry you're having to go through these things and having to make really tough decisions. We went through all this last year with both my wife's parents. It was very difficult for us. We knew her Mom had advanced Alzheimer's (sp.?), but were under a strong impression that her Dad was okay. So, very reluctantly, my mother-in-law was placed in an Alzheimer's facility, and my father-in-law moved in with one of my wife's brothers, just a block from that facility. Within 1 week, we were slapped hard with the realization that my father-in-law was in just about the same condition as his wife. Plus, the facility where my mother-in-law was informed us that they were not equipped to handle her advanced stage of Alzheimers, so they were requesting she be moved. This was very, very difficult for the whole family, unpleasant facts had to be faced and very tough decisions had to be made. We'll be saying a prayer for you and your whole family as you go through this...We're Christians and firmly believe that if it were not for the prayers and loving support of family and friends and faith in God, things would have been near impossible for us to handle. But, thank God, we were able to do what we needed to do. And whatever you do, do NOT let guilt enter in and try to bring you down. It's something you CANNOT entertain, and you cannot let guilt make your decisions for you. God bless you and yours, jrbentley
[email protected] wrote: > Yesterday was a tough day and I feel like dumping it on someone, so > here I go. I went to visit my mom. She is now living in a nursing > home about an hour from me. She has dementia. My siblings and I > moved her there last summer. > > She couldn't live alone anymore. And she can't live with any of us > because she wanders. Well, she more than just wanders, she takes > off. Even when we have her over for dinner, which she loves, she'll > take off. I don't know where she's going. Neither does she. > > She needs 24 hour supervision. > > So, we found a wonderful place for her to live. She has her own room > with private bath, it's a brand new building, the staff are wonderful, > there are enclosed courtyards where she can go outside. I honestly > feel like God led us to this place. > > So, you would think that with finding a beautiful place for her to > live and the fact that every doctor, social worker and nearly every > family member agreed that she needed to be there that I could rest > easy that the right choice was made. I can't. I still feel guilty. > > Yesterday I went to see her. I go every week and I bring her home > with me for the day when I can. Yesterday she was really sad. She > was still in her pajamas when I got there. She got up and started to > get around to go out with me. Then she turned to me, looked me right > in the eye and said, "I just want to go home. I really just want to go > home." It breaks my heart. > > I know she wants to go home. Wouldn't you just want to go home? I > wish she could be home but she can't. > > And this, I cannot resolve in my mind. She should be home, she can't > be home, she should be home, she can't be home--- that's how it goes > in my brain. > > I read recently that men tend to be more successful than women when > they diet because of a difference in men's brains. They did a study > and found that once a man makes a decision about something it turns > off the emotional part of the brain related to that decision. Women, > however, will still continue to experience the emotions related to > that decision even after the decision is made. > > I want a man's brain. > > Thanks for letting me vent. jess --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "BGG Down" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/BGG_down?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
