I'm going to give it to you straight. I used to work in a wing at a nursing home for patients with dementia. It was a great place. Lots of room for wandering. It was designed for pt.s with dementia. I've also done home care for pt.s with dementia.
I think what you are trying to resolve is this: I am sure you realize deep down that it would be best for her to be at home with 24 hour supervision. Especially if she has lived in that home for many years. If she has only lived there for a few years, it probably isn't the best choice. Your social workers are telling you that the nursing home is the best option, and you know it isn't. Having said that, it costs a lot for 24 hour care in the home. It's probably out of your price range. Also, good in-home help is hard to find. AND good help that has a knack for dealing with dementia pt.s is damn near impossible to find. Often the help sits around watching cable TV and may not give the best care if they are there alone and know that they aren't being monitored. As hard as it is to find good in-home help, the worst part is family interference with the care providers. Family members are the worst. Even well meaning, loving family members. Each has a different vision of the kind of help mom needs, ESPECIALLY WHEN MOM HAS DEMENTIA, AND CAN'T SPEAK FOR HERSELF . Making everyone happy is impossible for the care givers. Due to family interference, the best ones will only stay a short time. Mom needs consistant care, and that is only possible if there is only 1 family member to deal with, otherwise the help won't stick around. It boils down to this: In home care is the best option... if all the blocks fall into place, and the odds of that happening are slim. Doesn't matter how well you and your siblings get along, the stress of having in-home care and finding care providers that all of you can get along with is damn near impossible. You probably made the right choice. --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "BGG Down" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/BGG_down?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
