Thanks for the support Lisa. Its been a really hard few weeks. I do honestly doubt myself and my parenting skills a lot lately.
Katy's daddy and I are married and she has equal time with each of us. She certainly doesn't pull as many mind games with him as she does with me. I've been told that mother daughter relationships can be challenging. Katy is certainly a STRONG WILLED little girl. =-) Now that I think about it she was displaying this personality while I was pregnant with her. She was in no rush to come into this world either. I had to be induced at 12 days overdue and after 3 hours of pushing they were going to give me a c-section. Well I got some strength and managed to avoid the c-section, but they had to use a vacuum to pull her out. Little bum!! I just hope the teenage years are nicer to me (ha ha I know!!) Katy definitely is more drawn to males. Anytime we have friends over or her uncles etc she is more into them than she is to the females. She adores my dad too. Its strange. I just don't know how comfortable I would be with a male caregiver. Thanks again! Sam PS- I just dropped her off at Lori's this morning. So far so good, but she was looking like she was going to make herself throw up when we got out of the car. We distracted her enough so that she forgot about it. I'm teaching her about butterflies in her tummy and that she can breathe them away with deep breaths. Hopefully that will help. Lord Help me through this!! -----Original Message----- From: Lisa Sansom [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Thursday, September 09, 2004 7:28 AM To: canada Subject: [canada] RE: who's who Wow Sam it sounds like you have a really strong-willed child. And it sounds like you're doing really well with the situation - although I bet there are days when it feels overwhelming! Sounds like the best thing to do is not to care too much about her eating - if she's hungry, she will eat. Is she still growing and is otherwise healthy? But what do I know - I just have 2 boys and the older one (2 1/2) eats as much as an adult does! :-) The younger one is still breastfed... hope he doesn't go through this separation anxiety when I wean him! Are there any other female caregivers in her life? It might be interesting to see how she responds to someone completely new - like if you went out for an hour in the evening and she had a different babysitter... Is Katy's Dad around? How does she respond to male caregivers? All the best & sending strength! :-) Lisa >From: Samantha Morris <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Reply-To: "canada" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >To: "canada" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Subject: [canada] RE: who's who >Date: Wed, 8 Sep 2004 14:16:07 -0700 > >Actually I did think about that. She wants to go and get some small >hangers >for her Barbie clothes and she also wants a Spiderman camera. I told her I >needed to see some improvement in her behavior (ie- no throwing up at >Lori's) and then she could get one of them. She seems to forget it though >when its the morning and we are on our way to Lori's. I try to keep her >mind of it while we are going. Maybe if she could actually see the stuff >she might try harder. We think she has trained her brain so much now that >her tummy reacts subconsciously now. We are trying to reprogram her. > >My psychologist suggested spending more one on one quality time with her >before bed. It may be a delayed separation anxiety thing. She never >really >did have that so maybe it is. She nursed until she was 2. All these >things >have kind of come up since she turned 2. > >The other thing she suggested was visualization. At night after her story >I >turn out the light and try to get her to relax. We take deep breaths and I >walk her through relaxing all her body parts (not easy with a 3 year old >let >me tell you). Then we go on an adventure. In the adventure she see's >herself in a few months. This Katy is very strong and healthy. She never >has an owie tummy etc etc. What we are trying to do is get the >subconscious >mind to reprogram itself. If you tell it this over and over it eventually >will sink in. I've got nothing to loose, but who knows if it will work. >She also suggested massage. Feet are a good thing to massage as they have >many acupressure points that work the core body. I have tried this too. >Its only been about 4 days and on Tuesday when she went she didn't thow up >=-) Maybe it will work. Tomorrow is a Lori day, so wish me luck.... > >Sam > >-----Original Message----- >From: Mel and Tim Golobar [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] >Sent: Wednesday, September 08, 2004 1:53 PM >To: canada >Subject: [canada] RE: who's who > > >So Sam, she is only doing this when she has to do something she doesn't >want >to do? So you have tried giving rewards? If food is the issue, maybe try >going to the dollar store, and picking a few little toys she will enjoy , >and telling her that if she has a day without getting sick and going to >Lori's with no argument she will get to choose a toy when she gets home! >Sometimes it will feel like you are giving rewards all the time. I have >not >had to deal with an issue like that either, many other ones but not that >yet! Good luck! >----- Original Message ----- >From: "Samantha Morris" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >To: "canada" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Sent: Wednesday, September 08, 2004 10:44 AM >Subject: [canada] RE: who's who > > > > Hi Julia, > > > > I could write a book about all the issues we are having with her. I've > > actually been seeing a councilor since some of these issues are too big >for > > me to handle. > > > > The biggest one we have right now is her morning ritual with going to > > daycare. She has been going to the same daycare (in home daycare where >she > > is part time and another boy of 3 goes part time too). This lady also >has > > two boys of her own (7 and 5). Every morning she says "Where and I >going > > today". If its a Lori day she complains and then says "Owie tummy". >She > > gags sometimes etc. Last week she was at Lori's 5 days and 4 of those 5 > > days she threw up first thing when she got there basically. Once she's > > there she is fine and when we go to pick her up she doesn't want to >leave. > > > > Katy is a VERY picky eater and would rather not eat if she had the >choice! > > Lori has had the power to get food into Katy from day one. Well we >think > > this is what the issue is. She always says to me "Tell Lori I don't >have >to > > eat anything". I tell her she doesn't have to eat, but what she doesn't >eat > > for lunch she will have to eat for dinner. There will be no treats if >she > > doesn't eat her lunch. etc etc. Twice last week she tested this and I >made > > her eat her lunch for dinner. She has such mind control now that she >can > > make herself throw up very easily. > > > > I have no doubt about Lori. Katy pulls stunts and plays me over my >husband > > constantly. Lori and I are the dominant females in her life and she is > > trying to control us. I can't let her win or I'll never have control >over > > her. We are working on these things slowly. > > > > Eating and daycare are the biggest issues right now. This control with >Lori > > comes and goes. Its funny we just think we have it licked and it >surfaces > > again. > > > > Sorry you asked? =-) > > > > Sam > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Julia Dickinson [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > > Sent: Wednesday, September 08, 2004 10:00 AM > > To: canada > > Subject: [canada] RE: who's who > > > > > > Sam, what sort of challenges? :-) > > We haven't taken Aden out for Halloween but this year he seems keen to >go, > > so I guess I will get a costume for him. Not sure what. He suggested a > > basketball player! LOL I think something warm would be good, more often >than > > not it's snowing on Halloween. Anyone else taking little ones out? >Julia > > > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: Samantha Morris <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > Date: Wednesday, September 8, 2004 10:47 am > > Subject: [canada] RE: who's who > > > > > Hi Melanie, > > > > > > I'm Sam from Vancouver, BC. We have a daughter Katy who turned 3 > > > at the end > > > of April. 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