Yes I've considered taking her out of there, but I really don't like the large daycare settings. Just a personal thing for me. I held off on pre-school this year cause I wasn't sure she was ready for that. Next year we will re-visit it.
The thing about taking her out of where she is that she would do it somewhere else too. This is the way she gets her control. She tries this stuff with me too so that's how I know its not just Lori. Lori is just a lot stronger than me cause she's had two kids and I'm on my first (and probably only...) The other thing is if I take her out she will know she won this battle and then I'll never get control again. I have seeked help with this so I'm going to see how it goes on that front. Given what these professionals tell me that is how I'll proceed. I just never imagined I would be dealing with this kind of thing with a 3 year old. I was expecting this kind of problem at 13!!! Boy I'm not looking forward to her adolecent years. In terms of fussing about how much she eats etc. We have started backing off on that. She can choose if she eats or not. If she doesn't eat then she doesn't get treats or get to do fun stuff. She will also have to eat her missed meal when she decides she is hungry. It tough, but that was one thing they advised I do. Its soooo hard!!! Lord give me strenght =-P Sam -----Original Message----- From: Julia Dickinson [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Wednesday, September 08, 2004 12:22 PM To: canada Subject: [canada] RE: who's who Wow! I would be concerned too. Amazing she can make herself throw up. Have you thought at all of putting her in a different daycare? I'm sure Lori is great and all but maybe a different situation might work better for her. We moved our son from a home daycare to the YMCA this summer. It was an adjustment for sure, it's more like going to school, with all the kids, teachers etc. But I think it is good with so many things to do, much more structured day. Maybe if your daughter was just one of the group and nobody made a fuss of how much she ate or didn't eat she would just do like everyone else is? Just an idea, I only have one son and we have never dealt with anything like that. Julia ----- Original Message ----- From: Samantha Morris <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Date: Wednesday, September 8, 2004 11:44 am Subject: [canada] RE: who's who > Hi Julia, > > I could write a book about all the issues we are having with her. > I'veactually been seeing a councilor since some of these issues > are too big for > me to handle. > > The biggest one we have right now is her morning ritual with going to > daycare. She has been going to the same daycare (in home daycare > where she > is part time and another boy of 3 goes part time too). This lady > also has > two boys of her own (7 and 5). Every morning she says "Where and > I going > today". If its a Lori day she complains and then says "Owie > tummy". She > gags sometimes etc. Last week she was at Lori's 5 days and 4 of > those 5 > days she threw up first thing when she got there basically. Once > she'sthere she is fine and when we go to pick her up she doesn't > want to leave. > > Katy is a VERY picky eater and would rather not eat if she had the > choice!Lori has had the power to get food into Katy from day one. > Well we think > this is what the issue is. She always says to me "Tell Lori I > don't have to > eat anything". I tell her she doesn't have to eat, but what she > doesn't eat > for lunch she will have to eat for dinner. There will be no > treats if she > doesn't eat her lunch. etc etc. Twice last week she tested this > and I made > her eat her lunch for dinner. She has such mind control now that > she can > make herself throw up very easily. > > I have no doubt about Lori. Katy pulls stunts and plays me over > my husband > constantly. Lori and I are the dominant females in her life and > she is > trying to control us. I can't let her win or I'll never have > control over > her. We are working on these things slowly. > > Eating and daycare are the biggest issues right now. This control > with Lori > comes and goes. Its funny we just think we have it licked and it > surfacesagain. > > Sorry you asked? =-) > > Sam --- You are currently subscribed to canada as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To unsubscribe send a blank email to %%email.unsub%% --- You are currently subscribed to canada as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To unsubscribe send a blank email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> $9.95 domain names from Yahoo!. Register anything. http://us.click.yahoo.com/J8kdrA/y20IAA/yQLSAA/BCfwlB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> <a href=http://English-12948197573.SpamPoison.com>Fight Spam! Click Here!</a> Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/kumpulan/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
