Luke, There are many reasons why people choose to homeschool...most I would agree with. some I do not. Based on my experience with home schoolers, you wife's experience would be a very rare situation.
I actually think my wife and I error on the side of caution when it comes to 'grading' tests, so we are likely to be more strict than teachers in school. We have already started planning for college - which is why this whole thread started in the first place. I have agreed that there are parens who probably should not home school their children - and for a variety of reasons. Along the same lines, there are also teachers who should not be teaching public school children. It is a personal decision. The fact that I homeschool my children will likely not impact any one on this list - positively or negatively. The fact that Eric sends his kids to public school will likely not affect any one on this list - positively or negatively. We each made decisions on what we thought was and is best for our children. I think it is kind of arrogant for someone to say they feel sorry for kids kids because we are doing what we feel is best for them. On Sat, Apr 17, 2010 at 11:12 AM, Luke Kilpatrick <l...@lukek.ca> wrote: > > This discussion has been interesting, > > I am very much on the Fence about home schooling, I can see the good points > and the bad. I am not talking completely out of my ass here as My Wife was > Homeschooled from K-12, she never stepped foot in a classroom until she was > 23. I am not going to quote studies nor am I going to say Homeschooling > sucks. I do however want to share my experience of some issues that had to be > worked through so the people on the list can be aware and deal with some of > the issues we have had. > > My Wife was homeschooled not for religious reasons, but for control reasons > due to her Father not wanting to loose control of any aspect of his family. > This fact has soured the relationship with both of his kids as well as his > kids partners when they broke is control. This is not a slight against home > schooling, just please to make everyone's life better, when your kids start > to date, try to be accepting of different ideas and backgrounds. > > My Wifes Mother was a teacher, but left her work to help her husband in his > business and to school the children full time, so the needed to be schooled > by a certified teacher argument on this case is moot. However, I do believe > that having someone that can see no wrong in their offspring does not always > make the best educational choices. The cost of this has been very poor > spelling and grammar skills as those subjects were found very difficult. Also > not learning to read until 9 years old I think was a serious mistake which > has resulted in 2 years extra college to bring skills up to the level. Please > Please start your kids reading as early as possible, spelling and grammar > count so much in this world and this is something not focused on enough in my > Wife's experience. This is not unique to home schooling but, in this case > with out any testing or solid curriculum it has cost my wife several years > and several thousand dollars of upgrading. > > Make sure your kids know how to make friends, also make sure they know how to > deal with people that do not like them. There is a difference of > "socialization" and having to work with people you may not like to accomplish > a goal. Having the kids involved in scouts, 4-H and more is unfortunately not > enough in my experience, I am not sure how to solve it. Not trusting people > is a serious issue that was instilled and has worked against both my Wife and > her Brother. > > Encourage your children to go to college asap. My Wife's Parents did not > encourage her to go, going as far as telling me that College was not right > for her. She has managed to complete an Electrical Engineering Degree on the > honor roll, unfortunately she was 27 when she completed this rather than 22 > or 23. Her not attending college was breaking her fathers control and opened > her mind up to new ideas that were not presented to her. > > Live somewhere where your kids can get into town or see other people on their > own power, this will let them meet people you may not approve of but can > provide experiences that living on an isolated farm 10 miles out of a small > village can not. > > A good thing of Home Schooling is that my wife and her brother are very close > and are great friends, they didn't have anyone else for a good chunk of their > lives. I came into the picture when her brother was 15, he now lives on the > west coast in the large city closest to us. He is currently a Photography > student at a great school and will Grad when he is 23. His Father does not > approve and blames me for moving both of his children 3000 miles away, he is > a very angry man. Please don't be him. > > Like both good schools and bad schools, there are good homeschooling parents > and bad homeschooling parents. I think my wife had Ok homeschooling parents > who were involved with many homeschooling organizations in their state. > Unfortunately in any of the homeschooling events and conferences I attended > with my wife (I attended 3, including her brother's graduation ceremony) the > majority in the community were doing it for religious reasons. Her parents > ended up leaving the local homeschooling group after it began requiring a > statement of faith. I do think this was the right choice but it caused a big > split with the parents of most of my wifes friends, therefore she lost the > few friends she had due to parental stupidity. > > Due to the difficulty in finding good high school curriculum My wife spent > most of her High School years UnSchooling. I don't think this served her well > as it didn't provide testing, transcripts or the sense of completion when she > was finished. Please don't make the first test that your kids take be the > drivers exam when they are sixteen. > > I am still deeply divided on if we will home school or send our kids to > school, but I just wanted to give a bit of my experience in dealing with it. > When you home school your kids please keep in mind you will be responsible > for both the good and the bad, and if the bad outweighs the good, you may > loose your kids as adults. > > This is not home schooling's fault but the fault of a very angry controlling > man who did not trust anyone else to help school his kids. > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Want to reach the ColdFusion community with something they want? 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