and share all expenses with. And, unless he paid in full for the new car,
it's another bill that she'll be sharing. I think.
-d
----- Original Message -----
From: "BethF" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Sent: Tuesday, December 30, 2003 11:37 AM
Subject: Re: Re:I think I'm in trouble
> How does this decision affect his girlfriend he doesn't live with?
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: Ben Braver
> To: CF-Community
> Sent: Tuesday, December 30, 2003 6:57 AM
> Subject: Re:I think I'm in trouble
>
>
> I really agree with Larry. I think a committed relationship, whether
marriage or not, is a partnership. If one goes off making decisions that
affect both without consulting, that's not right.
>
> Eri*K*a and Philip have an excellent perspective on this - if it isn't
significant, then of course go ahead and do it.
>
> Just my tuppence.
>
> -Ben
>
> >Glad it worked out Matt, lesson learned, if you're going to be spending
> >most of the rest of your life with the lady, you'd better involve her
in
> >the decisions.
> >
> >larry
> >
> >At 11:53 PM 12/29/2003, you wrote:
> >>And now, the final word...
> >>
> >>She finally looked at the car this evening and rode in it . LOVED it.
> >>
> >>Says to me: Even when you're wrong, you're right.
> >>
> >>We're keeping it now.
> >>
> >>All this problem was due to the fact that I didn't include her. She
> >>doesn't care so much what I bought, just the approach that I took.
> >>
> >>This is easily proof that God exists.
> >>
> >>:-)
> >>
> >>This girl is wonderful... it's just that she overreacted on this
> >>occasion.
> >>
> >>- Matt Small
> >>
> >>
> >>
> >>
> >>On Monday, December 29, 2003, at 06:48 PM, Andre Turrettini wrote:
> >>
> >> > Matt, I would strongly suggest that if you sell a mustang, then
sell
> >> > hers.
> >> > This car will maintain value better because of its collectibility.
> >> > Plus, she has to drive the minivan and not you!
> >> > DRE
> >> >
> >> > -----Original Message-----
> >> > From: Matthew Small [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> >> > Sent: Monday, December 29, 2003 1:56 PM
> >> > To: CF-Community
> >> > Subject: Re: I think I'm in trouble
> >> >
> >> > The car:
> >> > http://www.hotrod.com/featuredvehicles/96679/
> >> > <http://www.hotrod.com/featuredvehicles/96679/>
> >> >
> >> > On Monday, December 29, 2003, at 02:53 PM, Ben Braver wrote:
> >> >
> >> > > Glad it's all working out, Matt.
> >> > > She sounds like a good person.
> >> > > Happy New Year to you both.
> >> > > -Ben
> >> > >
> >> > > >OK everyone, I have a lot of answers straight from the source...
> >> > > >
> >> > > >1) She's upset because I made a major purchase without
consulting
> >> > > her.
> >> > > > To my credit, I have been telling her that I wanted something
new,
> >> > > but
> >> > > >I didn't find anything until I saw this Mustang.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >2) She would not have been mad if I had bought something
sensible,
> >> > > just
> >> > > >a bit annoyed that I had not included her. This is not because
she
> >> > > >wants to dicate things to me, it's because if I had been
thinking
> >> > > about
> >> > > >what is good for us rather than me.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >3) I was wrong, I will admit it.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >4) She told me that if I wanted the car, I could keep it if it
was
> >> > > what
> >> > > >I wanted, and she meant it.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >5) We tried to return the vehicle. There is no 72 hours right
of
> >> > > >rescission on automobiles.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >5) We were going to trade it for something else (the dealer gave
us
> >> > > >this choice) but there was nothing else in my price range that I
> >> > > liked.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >6) We've decided to keep it and sell it outright. I feel that I
can
> >> > > >get at least what I put into the vehicle since it's below blue
book.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >7) I'm taking her out tonight to Carraba's for some delicious
> >> > mussels.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >8) She's a wonderful, understanding person. She was just
extremely
> >> > > >upset that I did this without her input.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >9) I actually think she likes the car, now that she's seen it,
and
> >> > she
> >> > > >will like it more after I take her out in it tonight.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >10) Thank for your input.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >11) This car is WAY faster than Tim's.
> >> > > >
> >> > > >- Matt Small
> >> > > >
> >> > > >
> >> > > >
> >> > > >On Monday, December 29, 2003, at 11:20 AM, Andre Turrettini
wrote:
> >> > > >
> >> > > >> This is true. Matt, Can you give us more insight into her
stong
> >> > > >> response?
> >> > > >> DRE
> >> > > >>
> >> > > >> -----Original Message-----
> >> > > >> From: dana tierney [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> >> > > >> Sent: Monday, December 29, 2003 8:18 AM
> >> > > >> To: CF-Community
> >> > > >> Subject: Re:I think I'm in trouble
> >> > > >>
> >> > > >> He's right tho, if my SO tried to dictate the car I could buy
I
> >> > > would
> >> > > >> run
> >> > > >> like hell in the other direction. Unless he was buying it for
me;
> >> > at
> >> > > >> that
> >> > > >> point he deserves some say. Sorry Matt but imho this is a
major
> >> > red
> >> > > >> flag
> >> > > >> which you ignore at your peril.
> >> > > >>
> >> > > >> Dana
> >> > > >>
> >> > > >> >Mike,
> >> > > >> > You're either single or have the most tolerant wife on the
> >> > > planet!
> >> > > >> >"perhaps the marriage is just not meant to be"... you're
killing
> >> > > me,
> >> > > >> Man.
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> >~Simon
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> >Simon Horwith
> >> > > >> >CTO, Etrilogy Ltd.
> >> > > >> >Member of Team Macromedia
> >> > > >> >Macromedia Certified Instructor
> >> > > >> >Certified Advanced ColdFusion MX Developer
> >> > > >> >Certified Flash MX Developer
> >> > > >> >CFDJList - List Administrator
> >> > > >> >http://www.how2cf.com/
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > -----Original Message-----
> >> > > >> > From: Haggerty, Mike [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> >> > > >> > Sent: 29 December 2003 15:23
> >> > > >> > To: CF-Community
> >> > > >> > Subject: RE: I think I'm in trouble
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > Keep the car, give it a name, add nitrous, flourescent
lights,
> >> > a
> >> > > >> tricked
> >> > > >> > out odometer and racing seats. Put a big sticker on the
back
> >> > > >> windshield
> >> > > >> > indicating you are part of a street racing team.
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > What was the name of the car Will Farrell's character drove
in
> >> > > Old
> >> > > >> > School? If your wife can't deal with you having a cool
ride,
> >> > > which
> >> > > >> is a
> >> > > >> > part of your identify, perhaps the marriage is just not
meant
> >> > to
> >> > > be.
> >> > > >> > Imagine what life will be like in 20 years when she becomes
> >> > > >> hysterical
> >> > > >> > over a bunch of doylies over or something - you do not want
> >> > that.
> >> > > >> It's
> >> > > >> > going to be lemonade and cucumber sandwiches instead of
beer
> >> > and
> >> > > >> chicken
> >> > > >> > wings, and that ain't right. Put your foot down and keep
your
> >> > > >> dignity.
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > M
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > -----Original Message-----
> >> > > >> > From: Matthew Small [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> >> > > >> > Sent: Saturday, December 27, 2003 11:43 PM
> >> > > >> > To: CF-Community
> >> > > >> > Subject: I think I'm in trouble
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > I pulled a boner today.
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > I'm in the market for a new vehicle, since the truck that
I'm
> >> > > >> driving,
> >> > > >> > while good looking and well running, has 173,000 miles on
> >> > > it. It's
> >> > > >> a
> >> > > >> > 1995 Chevy Silverado, 4x4. My fiancee loves the thing,
thinks
> >> > > it's
> >> > > >> the
> >> > > >> > manliest truck on this earth. For the record, she's 23, I'm
31,
> >> > > we
> >> > > >> > don't live together, and she's never had a FT job before
since
> >> > > she
> >> > > >> just
> >> > > >> > graduated Grad School with an MBA. She's a lovely girl,
just a
> >> > > >> little
> >> > > >> > idealistic sometimes due to youth.
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > So I go out today, just browsing and this car catches my
eye -
> >> > > it'
> >> > > >> s a
> >> > > >> > 2001 Mustang GT. Worse yet, it's a Mustang GT Bullitt - a
> >> > Steve
> >> > > >> > McQueen style race car. So I test drive it, am unnaturally
> >> > > scared to
> >> > > >> > death of it, and then buy it. I figure since it's only got
> >> > > 38,000
> >> > > >> on
> >> > > >> > the odometer, that it will get getter mileage than the
giant
> >> > > truck,
> >> > > >> and
> >> > > >> > that she also has a Mustang that this will resonant well
with
> >> > the
> >> > > >> > fiancee.
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > Anyway, I proceed to call her after I buy it and she starts
> >> > > crying
> >> > > >> > because I got rid of the truck. She's a bit emotional too
> >> > > >> sometimes.
> >> > > >> > Please don't get the wrong idea, she's great, but emotional
> >> > about
> >> > > >> > things sometimes.
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > Let me tell you a little bit more about the car - it's
> >> > > unbelievably
> >> > > >> > fast. I don't know the stats, but the car has some sort of
mod
> >> > > >> chip in
> >> > > >> > it that pushes it to 305 HP. It's a five speed ass haulin'
> >> > trip
> >> > > to
> >> > > >> the
> >> > > >> > hospital then to jail for wreckless driving. I admit that
I'm
> >> > a
> >> > > >> freak
> >> > > >> > for speed sometimes. This is without doubt the fastest car
> >> > I've
> >> > > >> ever
> >> > > >> > been in. Anyway, it's a cool little thing with all of the
> >> > bells
> >> > > and
> >> > > >> > whistles.
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > We're not going to have any children soon, so that not an
> >> > issue,
> >> > > but
> >> > > >> > she did say that she thought I was going to get something
more
> >> > > >> "yuppie"
> >> > > >> > - like an SUV or BMW or something like that.
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > Anyway, that's the boner. I think I'm going to take the
car
> >> > back
> >> > > >> > tomorrow morning and get the truck back. Any comments from
my
> >> > > >> friends
> >> > > >> > on the list?
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> > - Matt Small
> >> > > >> >
> >> > > >> _____
> >> > > ><image.tiff>
> >> > > >>
> >> > > >>
> >> > <image.tiff>
> >> > >
> >> > >
> >> > _____
> >><image.tiff>
> >> >
> >> >
> >>
>
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