about the cruelest in the english language. How's
this for a very rought translation:
"I like you, I want to be friends, but I don't want to jump your bones."
So your choice is to back off for a while, or
permanently, or decide whether your like her
enough to be a friend, without all the other
baggage thrown in. The friendship can be very
powerful, but it does take work. Infatuation is
fantasy.
larry
>When she says that she wants to '"be friends," does that mean that there is
>no more hope? Here is what happened.
>
>I was going out with the wonderful lady for about a month and a half. After
>each date, we could tell that we were into each other. Except for the first
>date, every date ending in a long kisses good bye. When we were together, I
>could tell she was enjoying herself. During the month and a half, she went
>away on vacation for a week and called me back the day she came home. So,
>it looked like she was interested.
>
>Last weekend, we had three dates back, to back, to back. A cooked her
>dinner at home and we watched DVDs, second was a fire at the beach, and the
>third was a comedy show and a relaxing evening in a hot tub. But, after
>that last date, there was no long kissing session after the date, just a
>peck on the lips. When I called her two days later I asked her out to
>dinner on Thursday, and said �call me later and if I fell like it, maybe.�
>With that and the peck on the lips, I though something was wrong. Well, I
>called her Thursday and asked her out and she said yes. She also said that
>she had something to tell me.
>
>After dinner, she told me that she spent the last few days thinking about
>us and looking deep inside of her to find the chemistry, but there was none
>there. She wanted to find it. She told me that I was a very nice guy, great
>looking, and that nobody has ever treated her like a princess before, which
>I did. She almost started to cry and asked me to give her a call so we can
>hang out again, because she would love that. And she then said that she
>wanted to �Be Friends.� She said that she is still a wild person and likes
>to be a little immature.
>
>I know it was only a month and a half, but I really, really liked her. I
>could tell that the chemistry was there, but it seemed like it died off. It
>was weird that at first she was into me, then not longer. I was beginning
>to think that I may have been too romantic and did too much, too soon
>�Cooking dinner at her place, fires, strawberries with whip cream, hot tub
>with music and candles, etc� (or another guy).
>
>So, did I move too fast? I think so. She already knows what I can do for
>her, romantically and affectionately, maybe I just needed to go slower and
>have more fun times first.
>
>I want to give it time. Just avoid contact with her for now and she what
>happens. See is she calls or not. Do not want to make it sound like I am
>desperate. I would like to be friends, on my level, and maybe I can
>re-create the spark by doing something that she likes to do for fun. It
>sounds like we wanted more fun and wild times. Give it a month and
>hopefully we end up going out on another "date", having fun, and I can
>maybe re-light that spark. After 8 years of looking and bad experiences
>with exs, though she was the one.
>
>On the other hand, I am not going to sit here and wait. Have to going
>fishing again...
>
>Yes.. for the first time, I thought I was in love... SUCKS!
>
>
>
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