--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, tartbrain <no_reply@...> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" > > <curtisdeltablues@> wrote: > > > > > > Creating a combative perspective out of nothing. > > > > > Five posts in the first couple of hours of the new posting > > week. Two trying to start a fight with you, one trying to > > start a fight with Vaj, one trying to start a fight with > > do.rflex, and one (go figure!) trying to start a fight > > with JohnR. Five out of five, ALL trying to (as you say) > > create a combative perspective. > > My comments are general, not in reference to any poster.
I hope not, since the above, which purports to describe my behavior, is entirely false. > The phenomenon of looking for an opportunity, anywhere, to vent, blow up, get > angry and/or disparage is pretty common. I have observed it throughout my > life in parents, bosses, peers, friends, etc. And have experienced my self > from time to time. Its a trans-rational state. No rational response can sooth > such a soul in that state. Almost any response simple throws fuel on the > flames. > > Eckart Tolle goes into this phenomenon -- using his model of the "pain body" > -- which I read as the networked mass nexus of active samskaras. When such > dominates, or builds up extensive pressure, some external target is needed to > release it. Some thing that will absorb the current, or ground it, using > electricity as a metaphor. > > The one thing that I have found that works, to a degree, is simple don't > react to it. Don't resist it. Just ignore it and move on. OTOH, if one > engages a person in such a state, it often makes one own pain body flair and > then you have two irrational flaming blobs of pain trying to use the other as > a grounding or conductor to release all of that intense energy within. > > There can be a certain avoidance feeling, perhaps a subtle fear or discomfort > being in the presence of such a person, the apprehension of getting dragged > into a unprovoked, irrational fight. It seems as if the "Painer" can often > smell that subtle apprehension/fear, like a tiger does (at least in urban > myth land). > > Understanding the dynamic, and knowing that the only refuge is > non-resistance, non-reaction, and the willingness to calmly let their energy > get released, flow over and out of you, not getting in you -- no absorbing of > that energy -- creates a calming vibe upfront. And even some compassion. > Understanding the dynamic, and knowing its not "them" but just that their > pain body is exploding. > > In that mode, the Painer doesn't smell any fear (actually I think its an > auric thing, there aura is attracted to the fear component in your aura -- > but that is mystical speculation). They tend to move on, looking for a better > dumping ground for their garbage. >
