Hey Judy how about acknowledging that you got a detail wrong when you said I had replied to 2 questions and I had actually replied to 3? Another detail you got wrong is about the Hatfields and McCoys. It was I not Ann who introduced this reference. I asked you for the wiki url as a joke. And thirdly, I said that I didn't understand Robin and that is what I meant. It's also true that I would understand him less as the amount of his words increased.
Replying to other posts from Mon; all times noted are Central time: Mon 5:04 pm I've never felt Curtis trying to make me compliant. AND disagreeing with Robin does not equal being compliant with Curtis. Mon 6:43 pm Everyone here, including you does what you accuse Curtis of. Defending friends and criticizing enemies. And actually I've not seen you criticize friends, as you purport to do, not even those who can be over the top sometimes. Mon 8:33 pm IF the statement I made about psychological rape says everything about me, THEN I'd say the following statement, especially the "needed to be stepped on" part, says everything about you: "Sal is small potatoes, just a nasty, unpleasant, not-too-bright little person who needed to be stepped on from time to time when she got above herself." Mon 9:11 AND 9:35 pm You accuse Curtis of exactly what you did! Butt in when Robin and I were trying to work out something delicate. Very delicate interpersonal negotiations is how you describe it the 9:35 post. Where was that understanding when it was really needed during the Russian flash mob upset?! Tuesday 12:52 am I did not discuss psychological rape with anyone before I wrote it. Neither friends nor family nor counselor nor poster. Everything that I said about my state at the time of Russian flash mob post was true. What has altered my perception of Robin over time is how he handled the upset between us. And I'm not talking about lack of communication skills here. I'm talking about continuing to complicate matters in more ways than one. And continuing to ignore what I actually say, especially in terms of reconciliation. TO RAUNCHY I don't understand Spanish either. TO XENO I don't mind Robin saying that reality is asking something and there is a should involved. What I mind is his saying that he is the one who has THE accurate take on that. Even about someone's inner reality. Someone he's never even met in person! ________________________________ From: authfriend <authfri...@yahoo.com> To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com Sent: Monday, October 1, 2012 1:24 PM Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: today PS --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@...> wrote: > > I answered 3, not 2, of the questions that pertained to me. > > how I see myself > how I feel Oh, I see, "compassionate and reasonable" is how you feel. I guess I just don't think of those as how one feels. Rather, they sound like personality characteristics, words one might use to describe someone (or perhaps even oneself). > what is at stake here if anything > > The other 4 were Ann's to answer for herself. Ah, I thought she was asking for your opinion. If she were asking herself, I'm not sure why she'd put them in the form of questions to you. And you didn't respond to this one: "Is this a 'feud' or something else?" > My experience with Robin is that usually he becomes less > understanding to me as the number of words increases. Interesting. At first you said you weren't able to understand him, but apparently that isn't what you really meant, was it? No wonder the two of you have problems communicating. > I'm still learning from Xeno and Steve how to be a bridge. > That's the group I aim to emulate. This is a joke, right? A bit of irony? > Hey, you left out the Hatfields and McCoys in your wiki list! Here you go. (You did seem to understand Ann, who was the one to mention them, so I wasn't aware you didn't know who they were.) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hatfield-McCoy_feud > ________________________________ > From: authfriend <authfriend@...> > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > Sent: Monday, October 1, 2012 12:40 PM > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: today PS > > >  > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote: > > > > Still unable to understand you, Robin, but thanks anyway. > > Hey, Share, if you fancy yourself acting as a "bridge" > between the feuding factions, you're going to need to > brush up on your communications skills, be willing to > deal with challenges, and extend yourself a bit more. > > You answered only two of Ann's seven questions; and > you haven't appeared to make much effort to understand > Robin's comment before summarily shutting down any > possible exchange of views. Even just asking "What do > you mean, Robin?" could have opened up a dialogue. > > One might *almost* think you've allied yourself with > the Curtis faction against the Robin faction and have > no intention of helping bring about a rapprochement. > > Also, just a tip: If you aren't familiar with a name > or term, Wikipedia is a terrific resource: > > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Main_Page > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quotations_from_Chairman_Mao > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/9/11 > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taliban > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Improvised_explosive_device > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ayaan_Hirsi_Ali > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tammy_Faye_Baker > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uday_Hussein > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Qusay_Hussein > > > ________________________________ > > From: Robin Carlsen <maskedzebra@> > > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > > Sent: Monday, October 1, 2012 11:10 AM > > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: today PS > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote: > > > > > > I see myself as someone who recognizes that everybody is a mix of > > > developed and developing aspects; and that as such everybody makes > > > mistakes; and that a way to have worthwhile relationships is to proceed > > > on that basis with a willingness to both forgive and apologize, make > > > amends, intend to do better and then move forward.  > > >   > > > > > > > > > I'm feeling compassionate and reasonable as I reply. In your 7 > > > questions in a row, I sense some openness and also some > > > challenge. Are those what you felt when you wrote? > > > > > > > > > As for what is at stake here, seems like life's always either growing or > > > resting. Both good when balanced. Neither good when > > > unbalanced.   > > > > This makes Mao's Little Red Book seem like Hamlet. The stockbroker drinking > > his Latte inside the Twin Towers when the Boeing 767 airplane hit: Share's > > version: He probably spilled his coffee. And the jumpers from the 110th > > floor, did they come down with a feathery landing, Share? Have you had a > > talk with the Taliban recently? Been hit with an IED? You don't feed an > > lion an ice-cream cone. Ayaan Hirsi Ali meets Tammy Faye Baker. Uday and > > Qussay: no quantum light weavers, those boys. > > > > ________________________________ > > > From: awoelflebater <no_re...@yahoogroups.com> > > > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > > > Sent: Monday, October 1, 2012 8:32 AM > > > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: today PS > > > > > > > > >  > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote: > > > > > > > > Also Ravi, do you recognize a third group of posters who act as bridges > > > > between the Robin and Barry factions?ÃÆ'‚ It's not all > > > > Hatfields and Mccoys on FFL!ÃÆ'‚ Some aim to be > > > > compassionate and reasonable, seeing thatÃÆ'‚ BOTH > > > > sides contribute to the disharmony, each in its own > > > > way.ÃÆ'‚ ShareÃÆ'‚ > > > > > > Am I a Hatfield or a McCoy? Am I a bridge? Am I compassionate and > > > reasonable? How do you see yourself? Is this a "feud" or something else? > > > What is at stake here if anything? How do you feel? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > > > From: Share Long <sharelong60@> > > > > To: "FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com" <FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com> > > > > Sent: Monday, October 1, 2012 5:56 AM > > > > Subject: Re: [FairfieldLife] today > > > > > > > > > > > > ÃÆ'‚ > > > > Ravi, thanks for saying this truth about FFL being a dysfunctional > > > > family.ÃÆ'‚ Do you think, as I do, that there is > > > > dysfunction on BOTH sides of the feud?ÃÆ'‚ I know you > > > > place yourself on one side of the feud but I'm wondering if you see how > > > > both sides play a part in the disharmony.ÃÆ'‚ Share > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > > > From: Ravi Chivukula <chivukula.ravi@> > > > > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > > > > Sent: Sunday, September 30, 2012 10:46 PM > > > > Subject: Re: [FairfieldLife] today > > > > > > > > > > > > ÃÆ'‚ > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > On Sun, Sep 30, 2012 at 8:44 PM, awoelflebater > > > > <no_re...@yahoogroups.com> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > >ÃÆ'‚ > > > > >What a truly extraordinary day today on FFL. So much truth, so much > > > > >sincerity, so much wisdom. Are we a family yet? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Was it ? :-). We are dear Ann - one big dysfunctional family. > > > > > > > > > >
