(Wo)Man Overboard!!
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@...> wrote:
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> yes, yes dear Doc, whatever floats your boat!
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> From: "doctordumbass@..." <doctordumbass@...>
> To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com
> Sent: Tuesday, August 20, 2013 11:19 AM
> Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: Chopra nothing without Maharishi
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> Fuck that! :-)
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> --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote:
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> > Yep, I still think it's possible to set boundaries without using
> > potentially harmful language. In this I prefer to err on the side of being
> > too gentle than too harsh even if I have to fake it in public and work on
> > it in private or with my counselor. That seems adult to me.
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> > ________________________________
> > From: "doctordumbass@" <doctordumbass@>
> > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com
> > Sent: Monday, August 19, 2013 8:22 AM
> > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: Chopra nothing without Maharishi
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> > ÃÂ
> > Sometimes you must speak another person's language to communicate with
> > them. Maharishi said this, meet them at their level of consciousness, so
> > rather than going on and on about compassion and my fellow man, sometimes a
> > good go fuck yourself serves equally well. It is not said in judgment, but
> > rather in context. An attempt at behavioral modification, as would be used
> > on a very stubborn and angry adult child. It shows them immediately that
> > there is a boundary there. Not something one would expect to have to do
> > around adults, setting social boundaries, but some are childish in their
> > state of emotional development. Sorry if it looks ugly from the outside,
> > in, but not sorry enough to stop it, if necessary.
> >
> > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote:
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> > > Judy and Xeno, I'm learning, especially here on FFL, that it's best NEVER
> > > to blast someone unkindly. Whether it's *important to* reminds me of
> > > something posted a few weeks ago: that evil takes over when good people
> > > become prideful. Furthermore, I think it's possible to express one's
> > > opinion, set boundaries, etc. without being unkind. Because really,
> > > exactly what does unkindness accomplish? Does it produce kindness in the
> > > abusive person? If so, then all I can say is that I have seen no
> > > empirical evidence of that here on FFL!
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > ________________________________
> > > From: authfriend <authfriend@>
> > > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com
> > > Sent: Sunday, August 18, 2013 9:46 PM
> > > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: Chopra nothing without Maharishi
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> > > ÃâÃÂ
> > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Xenophaneros Anartaxius"
> > > <anartaxius@> wrote:
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> > > snip
> > >
> > > That may well be true. I don't think one ought to blast
> > > people unkindly unless one feels it's important. It isn't
> > > something to be done casually or for fun.
> > >
> > > > Getting blasted by Barry, and getting blasted by you are,
> > > > for me, entirely different experiences. For me, that recent
> > > > post to Share was the only one, of the ones of Barry's I
> > > > have read recently that comes close to your intensity.
> > >
> > > You've missed quite a few posts of his, it seems.
> > >
> > > Did you see this one, for instance?
> > >
> > > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/message/349106
> > >
> > > (Actually this is my response, but Barry's post is
> > > quoted in its entirety. Interestingly, not long
> > > afterward, he decided he was going to go back to
> > > not responding to his "enemies." Oh, BTW, below
> > > Barry's post are my responses to two of yours,
> > > which I'm not sure you saw either.)
> > >
> > > Here's another (also with my response at the top):
> > >
> > > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/message/349548
> > >
> > > > It makes me wonder if somewhere in your life history your
> > > > method of responding to people developed in response to
> > > > some less than pleasant events, or it could a family
> > > > characteristic.
> > >
> > > Neither, sorry to disappoint you. Maybe I was just lucky,
> > > but until I started posting to electronic forums 25 or
> > > so years ago, I'd never encountered this kind of
> > > intellectual and factual dishonesty and gratuitous
> > > obnoxiousness. (You can call that a "less than pleasant
> > > event" if you like, but somehow I don't think it's what
> > > you had in mind.)
> > >
> > > > Some people seem inclined to confrontation and argument
> > > > more than others. So in reply to your last comment, aside
> > > > from the question I asked about percentages, I do think
> > > > you are confrontational and accusatory. I am stating this
> > > > as if it were a fact. But the other side of the coin is,
> > > > do you think yourself that you are this way or not?
> > >
> > > When I think it's appropriate, yes indeed. (The difference
> > > between you and me in that regard is that I'm honest
> > > about it.)
> > >
> > > > Do the people on the forum who are generally favourable to
> > > > you think you are confrontational and accusatory? There
> > > > would seem to be a range of opinion on this issue.
> > >
> > > I guess you've thought more about it than I have. It's not
> > > something I'm concerned about. You probably should ask
> > > the folks you have in mind.
> > >
> > > > I would assume that those who thought you were would tend
> > > > to be more favourable in Barry's direction, and those who
> > > > felt you were not would not be favourable to Barry, and
> > > > even if they thought you were confrontational and accusatory,
> > > > would feel it was justified as you championed ideas and an
> > > > outlook on life they were more comfortable with.
> > >
> > > I have no idea what your point is here. I think people react
> > > to Barry as individuals, not because of how I react to him.
> > >
> > > Maybe you're the exception, though.
> > >
> >
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