All of what I say below said, and meant, I don't think I'm alone here in saying that if the poster banned for outing someone turns out to be Tedious Dickhead, we can consider Doug's short tenure as FFL moderator a total success. :-) From: "TurquoiseBee turquoi...@yahoo.com [FairfieldLife]" <FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com>
From: salyavin808 <no_re...@yahoogroups.com> ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <turquoiseb@...> wrote : Speaking of the Yahoo-Groups Guidelines, I just wanted to let you know that the 1,680-word rant that someone keeps spamming to Fairfield Life in violation of the guidelines has shown up again. Some hacker seems to have pasted it into your post, just after the announcement. Much of it (everything after the first 300 words or so) seems to have been written by a previous poster to Fairfield Life who, as I understand it, was specifically asked by Rick not to insinuate his faux persona into the duties of moderator. Just sayin'... I know you'll want to get right on this. Turq B survived the first putsch. That's a relief. Yeah. Like Michael, I seriously wondered when I pressed Send whether my post would go through. :-) But I think the guidelines will be posted regularly to keep the fear quotient high. Uniform blandness will be achieved! I have absolutely NO PROBLEM with the *actual* Yahoo-Groups Guidelines being posted regularly. What I object to are the 1,300+ words of insulting SPAM that Doug has chosen to follow them with. They were written by a fictional persona named Buck that Doug is not supposed to be channeling in his duties as FFL moderator. And yet Doug is reposting them as if *his rant* is an integral part of the guidelines. I find that remarkably un-self-aware and offensive. Not to mention being contrary to what he promised Rick. From: "dhamiltony2k5@... [FairfieldLife]" <FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com> To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com Sent: Wednesday, June 17, 2015 12:08 PM Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: The Yahoo-Groups Guidelines DearFriends of FFL; Regrettably as moderators we recently received acompliant having to do with protecting people's privacy on FFL thatwas actionable. The offending post was removed and the author of theinvasion on someone's privacy using FFL, a Yahoo-group, was removedfrom the community. -JaiGuruYou "Your use of Groups is subject to theseGuidelines, Keep your content relevant to the groupand moderate it correctly.Be courteous.Moderate your content." “Don't threaten, harass, impersonate, or hurt others, and don'tinvade other people's privacy...the group owner may remove yourcontent — or you — from the group altogether." “2. Don't be unkind. Exploitativeor degrading comments are not welcome in Groups. Also not welcome arebelligerence, insults, slurs, profanity or ranting.” Exploitative, especially: unfairly or cynically using another person or group for profit oradvantage; to use selfishly for one's own ends. Degrading: causing a loss ofself-respect; humiliating Belligerence: a warlike or aggressively hostile nature, condition, orattitude. Insult: to speak to or treat with disrespect or scornful abuse. Adisrespectful or scornfully abusive remark or action. An insult isan expression, statement (or sometimes behavior) which isdisrespectful or scornful. Slur:an insinuation or allegation about someone that is likely to insultthem or damage their reputation. Profanity: abusive, vulgar, orirreverent. To Rant, to speak or declaim extravagantly or violently; talk in a wild over-vehement way; rave. "Keepyour content relevant to the group and moderate it correctly." “Don'tbe unkind”. "We depend on each member to help keepit [FFL] a safe, fun, and positive place for everyone. Yahoo Groups, in its sole discretion,may terminate or remove any content, Group or your Yahoo IDimmediately and without notice if (a) Yahoo believes that you haveacted inconsistently with the spirit or the letter of the Yahoo Termsof Service or the Yahoo Groups Guidelines, or (b) Yahoo believes youhave violated or tried to violate the rights of others. Please helpus keep Yahoo Groups an enjoyable and positive experience." "Ifyou see a Group or content that violates our rules, please let usknow by contacting us [..yahoo-groups]." Yahoo Groups Guidelines | | | | Yahoo Groups Guidelines Yahoo Groups helps you connect with groups of people who share your interests and passions. We depend on each member to help keep it a safe, fun, and positive place for everyone. | | | View on policies.yahoo.com | Preview by Yahoo | | | # [..Some people evidently are notamenable to group collaborations which it seems is why groups,organizations or larger society may well protect and preserve themselves for theutility and well-being of their larger membership by removing orseparating destructive asocial members. There is good reason to lacktrust in collaboration on FFL at Yahoo-groups by what has beenallowed to become a dominant culture of a few here. Of afear of getting needlessly ensnared by any participation of puttingones thoughts and self forward. Folks generally are denied theopportunity to think together with good people on FFL for all thesnark of the ad hominem attack. It takes skills and practice tosee discussion as thinking but it takes allies of kindness to thinktogether creatively. For the engagement within a group [FFL] to beeffective there need be folks and a moderation willing and able to stand up to bullies who would destroy forum, to have athinking forum. Truth evidently won't 'set usfree' until we have the courage, skills, habit and moral courageto kindly explore it. There evidently are few allies of civildiscourse on FFL and Rick Archer in moderation is seldom here toevenly protect civil discourse. Kind thoughtful discussion is up tothe folks left here to seize if it can be had at all. Kind discoursehas been 'thrown to the dogs' on FFL to tear up by a lack ofmoderation let alone any self-control. The bullies have run most wild here unchecked because nice people were not protected and thoughtful folks often inside are afraid of embroiling mean conflict upon themselves enough to invest in it, ..in provoking the bullying Turqb asserting..“For the record, I apologize for nothing. Rien. Nada. Nichevo. Bupkus. I meant everything I've ever said here, and stand by it fully.” In thinking together, peopleoften may fail in process of creative thought out of fears to extendthemselves individually in to the collective, for fear of engagingwith evidently untrustworthy folks. Engagement that may provokeunfriendly embroilment which potentially might be brought on tothemselves by stepping forward in conversation. 'Thinking as process'takes skills and practice to see dissonances as thinking and get goodat it, to get beyond ego and not let it get out of control. Too manyof the writers in character writing here derail creative thinking onFFL by their default to the assault of the personal invective insteadof just commenting on a substance of the material brought. Thatabusive character has been really unfortunate for the larger FFLcommunity. The challenge of FFL as a forum community is to find constructive ways of engaging with people. Thattakes kindness, tolerance and patience as skillsets and practice to be able to think together and be creative, to look at and solve problems together. FFL is a long ways from that by a gripof vice of some folks who dominate FFL. Collaborating in'Disconfirmation': seeking different ways of looking at models, of'thinking' in constructive conflict.Thoughtful conversation seems awilling kind collaborative, a kind cooperative 'process indisconfirmation'. By contrast a trust in kindness as element hasbeen driven out of Fairfieldlife at Yahoo-groups by a dominantmethodical use of personal invective in the ad hominem used as weaponto personally hurt people here. Collaboration in a type of,Love? In kindness to a creative process? Quite evidently thoughtfulconversation takes a civil kind collaboration in self-control to haveproductive conversation. Some have done their poisonous work herewith the communal well-spring.Collaboration? Could many folksdare at all to publicly disagree here on FFL anymore given the lackof self-restraint in the culture that remains on FFL? What is mostlymissing now from the dominant FFL writing is a kindness to process, alove enough of collaboration that seems necessary enough for there tobe creative thinking between people. Instead what we have is aculture of rudeness that has long interrupted the communal thinkinghere and driven people away. The cultural place that was FFLseems to have been poisoned. The place evidently has died for lack ofa willing collaboration as an oxygen that could include other points ofview other than some caustic character of dominant internet hatersand personalities in method. The cost to FairfieldLife atYahoo-groups has been the loss of a forum for communal thinking. A pervasive unkindness in ad hominem-istic snarkparading as 'intellectual retort', it's the dominant 'culture' here atFFL now, as the evident lack in thoughtful community culture here. Folks otherwise have come instead to fear to spend their time thinking here reading let alone posting here. It is a sad commentary on how it has gone down for FFL. Many of the writers left here have in many ways become the people they revile, bullies like they see Bevan or others in the movement community. Salon, saloon or shalom; who would enter in to a place met with the likes of, “You Suck..” or “Fuck you” as first text lines or “You lying Fuck” as a subject heading? MJ, there was a long period of a poisonous malignancy here in the postings between a few people who came on before you came along and added to it in your way. FFL is just not a safe place for well-meaning people to loiter or join in hence most folks wandered out. Meditators and people around Fairfield here always go 'whew-phew' and roll their eyes about the reputation of FFL as a place for thoughtful dialogue whence FFL gets mentioned. FFL got wrecked a while ago as a community place that way. mjackson74 wrote, well Buck how do you account for the departure of all the people who used to post on FFL in the years before I joined? Looking back at the archives, there were a whole bunch of folk who had already dropped out before I came along, so the fact that Judy, Anne, Jimmy the Enlightened and Nappy Nabby jumped ship does not seem to be that much of a recent trend. Yep, even Rick chooses to post substantial material elsewhere now instead of posting to FFL as to just shark-feeding for what is left remaining of FFL. A long list of people is now gone before us who had once helped further the culture of the list, mostly been driven off by an aggressive and appalling unkindness of culture in the ongoing personal shark-like attack by the ad hominem that evidently has become endemic here; that seeming 'professionals' default to use in their writing method instead of simply dealing with material posed. And those same complain about originality, thinking and lack of creativity..Nothing to see here folks. Just another person trying to blame the fact that he and the people he likes can't think of anything intelligent to say on the people they don't like. :-)Good timing, Turqb, Left or driven off? This as your thinking is fine as intelligent retort on one level Anartaxius except, the low post and dwindled active member counts may show something else.Looking in on the culture of what is FFL now, is it a surprise the numbers have dropped off when there is so much about Fairfield or larger spiritual matter being talked about otherwise by others actively involved in it? No, it is like the well was poisoned here by some.Ironically there is an evident invective that is intolerance to conversation here and to divergent idea by a concentration of some few who remain active posting here. It could be we are just getting on with our lives. Now that most of the TB crazies have left, some of the tart, sharp conversation has dwindled, and there are less opportunities for intelligent retorts. I think you would have welcomed the change. 'Intelligent retort'? We've not been very good at discussion here for some time on FFL and the place as a forum is nearly dead.Yep, visiting looking back in on Fairfieldlife at yahoo-groups evidently this is mostly a sad inhospitable place rendered down to some pulp substance of travelogue, movie reviews and the personal bickerings of a few. 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