---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <curtisdeltablues@...> wrote :
Here is how it went down. R was phishing for my professional name. I told him that I keep my names separate on social media to prevent casual searches from combining my business and personal life. He responded by posting my personal Facebook page to out my real name AGAIN. While this was going on Doug was occupied scolding Edg for his word choices that have never given Yahoo groups any trouble since he has been posting here. So I emailed Rick who acted immediately to restore order in the kingdom. Last time R did this he got banned for a month but was brought back because he was being talked about and couldn't respond. Personally I would like to see him stay in his crypt this time. I have not experienced such bizarrely unwarranted online malice since the other malicious R was ousted for trying to F me on the search engines. Both times Rick acted to protect my participation here and I appreciate that. Posting on FFL has been a useful tool for me. I hope it can remain so. That way that happens IMO is for moderators to take out predators with clearly malicious agendas and leave the rest of the adults alone to post their mind freely with having to to worry: " I wonder what another person with more prudish language standards than I have will think about what I write?" We do too. Willytex is one of the very few few people here I won't miss because he really did just come here to stir trouble. What he got out of it is anyone's guess. I've been calling for Rick and Alex to set him free for ages because there must surely be something positive in his life for him to concentrate on. Who in their right mind would want to carry on wasting their time like that? Hope to see a bit more of you old chap. ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <turquoiseb@...> wrote : All of what I say below said, and meant, I don't think I'm alone here in saying that if the poster banned for outing someone turns out to be Tedious Dickhead, we can consider Doug's short tenure as FFL moderator a total success. :-) From: "TurquoiseBee turquoiseb@... [FairfieldLife]" <FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com> From: salyavin808 <no_re...@yahoogroups.com> ---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <turquoiseb@...> wrote : Speaking of the Yahoo-Groups Guidelines, I just wanted to let you know that the 1,680-word rant that someone keeps spamming to Fairfield Life in violation of the guidelines has shown up again. Some hacker seems to have pasted it into your post, just after the announcement. Much of it (everything after the first 300 words or so) seems to have been written by a previous poster to Fairfield Life who, as I understand it, was specifically asked by Rick not to insinuate his faux persona into the duties of moderator. Just sayin'... I know you'll want to get right on this. Turq B survived the first putsch. That's a relief. Yeah. Like Michael, I seriously wondered when I pressed Send whether my post would go through. :-) But I think the guidelines will be posted regularly to keep the fear quotient high. Uniform blandness will be achieved! I have absolutely NO PROBLEM with the *actual* Yahoo-Groups Guidelines being posted regularly. What I object to are the 1,300+ words of insulting SPAM that Doug has chosen to follow them with. They were written by a fictional persona named Buck that Doug is not supposed to be channeling in his duties as FFL moderator. And yet Doug is reposting them as if *his rant* is an integral part of the guidelines. I find that remarkably un-self-aware and offensive. Not to mention being contrary to what he promised Rick. From: "dhamiltony2k5@... [FairfieldLife]" <FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com> To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com Sent: Wednesday, June 17, 2015 12:08 PM Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: The Yahoo-Groups Guidelines Dear Friends of FFL; Regrettably as moderators we recently received a compliant having to do with protecting people's privacy on FFL that was actionable. The offending post was removed and the author of the invasion on someone's privacy using FFL, a Yahoo-group, was removed from the community. -JaiGuruYou "Your use of Groups is subject to these Guidelines, Keep your content relevant to the group and moderate it correctly. Be courteous. Moderate your content." “Don't threaten, harass, impersonate, or hurt others, and don't invade other people's privacy. ..the group owner may remove your content — or you — from the group altogether." “2. Don't be unkind. Exploitative or degrading comments are not welcome in Groups. Also not welcome are belligerence, insults, slurs, profanity or ranting.” Exploitative, especially: unfairly or cynically using another person or group for profit or advantage; to use selfishly for one's own ends. Degrading: causing a loss of self-respect; humiliating Belligerence: a warlike or aggressively hostile nature, condition, or attitude. Insult: to speak to or treat with disrespect or scornful abuse. A disrespectful or scornfully abusive remark or action. An insult is an expression, statement (or sometimes behavior) which is disrespectful or scornful. Slur: an insinuation or allegation about someone that is likely to insult them or damage their reputation. Profanity: abusive, vulgar, or irreverent. To Rant, to speak or declaim extravagantly or violently; talk in a wild over-vehement way; rave. "Keep your content relevant to the group and moderate it correctly." “Don't be unkind”. "We depend on each member to help keep it [FFL] a safe, fun, and positive place for everyone. Yahoo Groups, in its sole discretion, may terminate or remove any content, Group or your Yahoo ID immediately and without notice if (a) Yahoo believes that you have acted inconsistently with the spirit or the letter of the Yahoo Terms of Service or the Yahoo Groups Guidelines, or (b) Yahoo believes you have violated or tried to violate the rights of others. Please help us keep Yahoo Groups an enjoyable and positive experience." "If you see a Group or content that violates our rules, please let us know by contacting us [..yahoo-groups]." Yahoo Groups Guidelines https://policies.yahoo.com/us/en/yahoo/guidelines/groups/index.htm?soc_src=mail&soc_trk=ma Yahoo Groups Guidelines https://policies.yahoo.com/us/en/yahoo/guidelines/groups/index.htm?soc_src=mail&soc_trk=ma Yahoo Groups helps you connect with groups of people who share your interests and passions. We depend on each member to help keep it a safe, fun, and positive place for everyone. View on policies.yahoo.com https://policies.yahoo.com/us/en/yahoo/guidelines/groups/index.htm?soc_src=mail&soc_trk=ma Preview by Yahoo # [..Some people evidently are not amenable to group collaborations which it seems is why groups, organizations or larger society may well protect and preserve themselves for the utility and well-being of their larger membership by removing or separating destructive asocial members. There is good reason to lack trust in collaboration on FFL at Yahoo-groups by what has been allowed to become a dominant culture of a few here. Of a fear of getting needlessly ensnared by any participation of putting ones thoughts and self forward. Folks generally are denied the opportunity to think together with good people on FFL for all the snark of the ad hominem attack. It takes skills and practice to see discussion as thinking but it takes allies of kindness to think together creatively. For the engagement within a group [FFL] to be effective there need be folks and a moderation willing and able to stand up to bullies who would destroy forum, to have a thinking forum. Truth evidently won't 'set us free' until we have the courage, skills, habit and moral courage to kindly explore it. There evidently are few allies of civil discourse on FFL and Rick Archer in moderation is seldom here to evenly protect civil discourse. Kind thoughtful discussion is up to the folks left here to seize if it can be had at all. Kind discourse has been 'thrown to the dogs' on FFL to tear up by a lack of moderation let alone any self-control. The bullies have run most wild here unchecked because nice people were not protected and thoughtful folks often inside are afraid of embroiling mean conflict upon themselves enough to invest in it, ..in provoking the bullying Turqb asserting..“For the record, I apologize for nothing. Rien. Nada. Nichevo. Bupkus. I meant everything I've ever said here, and stand by it fully.” In thinking together, people often may fail in process of creative thought out of fears to extend themselves individually in to the collective, for fear of engaging with evidently untrustworthy folks. Engagement that may provoke unfriendly embroilment which potentially might be brought on to themselves by stepping forward in conversation. 'Thinking as process' takes skills and practice to see dissonances as thinking and get good at it, to get beyond ego and not let it get out of control. Too many of the writers in character writing here derail creative thinking on FFL by their default to the assault of the personal invective instead of just commenting on a substance of the material brought. That abusive character has been really unfortunate for the larger FFL community. The challenge of FFL as a forum community is to find constructive ways of engaging with people. That takes kindness, tolerance and patience as skillsets and practice to be able to think together and be creative, to look at and solve problems together. FFL is a long ways from that by a grip of vice of some folks who dominate FFL. Collaborating in 'Disconfirmation': seeking different ways of looking at models, of 'thinking' in constructive conflict. Thoughtful conversation seems a willing kind collaborative, a kind cooperative 'process in disconfirmation'. By contrast a trust in kindness as element has been driven out of Fairfieldlife at Yahoo-groups by a dominant methodical use of personal invective in the ad hominem used as weapon to personally hurt people here. Collaboration in a type of, Love? In kindness to a creative process? Quite evidently thoughtful conversation takes a civil kind collaboration in self-control to have productive conversation. Some have done their poisonous work here with the communal well-spring. Collaboration? Could many folks dare at all to publicly disagree here on FFL anymore given the lack of self-restraint in the culture that remains on FFL? What is mostly missing now from the dominant FFL writing is a kindness to process, a love enough of collaboration that seems necessary enough for there to be creative thinking between people. Instead what we have is a culture of rudeness that has long interrupted the communal thinking here and driven people away. The cultural place that was FFL seems to have been poisoned. The place evidently has died for lack of a willing collaboration as an oxygen that could include other points of view other than some caustic character of dominant internet haters and personalities in method. The cost to FairfieldLife at Yahoo-groups has been the loss of a forum for communal thinking. A pervasive unkindness in ad hominem-istic snark parading as 'intellectual retort', it's the dominant 'culture' here at FFL now, as the evident lack in thoughtful community culture here. Folks otherwise have come instead to fear to spend their time thinking here reading let alone posting here. It is a sad commentary on how it has gone down for FFL. Many of the writers left here have in many ways become the people they revile, bullies like they see Bevan or others in the movement community. Salon, saloon or shalom; who would enter in to a place met with the likes of, “You Suck..” or “Fuck you” as first text lines or “You lying Fuck” as a subject heading? MJ, there was a long period of a poisonous malignancy here in the postings between a few people who came on before you came along and added to it in your way. FFL is just not a safe place for well-meaning people to loiter or join in hence most folks wandered out. Meditators and people around Fairfield here always go 'whew-phew' and roll their eyes about the reputation of FFL as a place for thoughtful dialogue whence FFL gets mentioned. FFL got wrecked a while ago as a community place that way. mjackson74 wrote, well Buck how do you account for the departure of all the people who used to post on FFL in the years before I joined? Looking back at the archives, there were a whole bunch of folk who had already dropped out before I came along, so the fact that Judy, Anne, Jimmy the Enlightened and Nappy Nabby jumped ship does not seem to be that much of a recent trend. Yep, even Rick chooses to post substantial material elsewhere now instead of posting to FFL as to just shark-feeding for what is left remaining of FFL. A long list of people is now gone before us who had once helped further the culture of the list, mostly been driven off by an aggressive and appalling unkindness of culture in the ongoing personal shark-like attack by the ad hominem that evidently has become endemic here; that seeming 'professionals' default to use in their writing method instead of simply dealing with material posed. And those same complain about originality, thinking and lack of creativity..Nothing to see here folks. Just another person trying to blame the fact that he and the people he likes can't think of anything intelligent to say on the people they don't like. :-)Good timing, Turqb, Left or driven off? This as your thinking is fine as intelligent retort on one level Anartaxius except, the low post and dwindled active member counts may show something else.Looking in on the culture of what is FFL now, is it a surprise the numbers have dropped off when there is so much about Fairfield or larger spiritual matter being talked about otherwise by others actively involved in it? No, it is like the well was poisoned here by some.Ironically there is an evident invective that is intolerance to conversation here and to divergent idea by a concentration of some few who remain active posting here. It could be we are just getting on with our lives. Now that most of the TB crazies have left, some of the tart, sharp conversation has dwindled, and there are less opportunities for intelligent retorts. I think you would have welcomed the change.
