Hello Mr.Kanoji and others After reading moderators views, I am steadily forming the opinion that perhaps some persons who are nearly 100% gay are too rigid in not allowing the possibility of others being attracted to both sexes. It is well established (as I have read expert opinion on this list itself ) that most humans lie on a continuum of being attracted 100% to same sex or 100% to opposite sex. A bisexual may be somewhere in the middle. Also, that this sexuality may change with time due to the cummulative experiences and the response of the human psyche to such experiences. The experiences can be social, cultural, behavioural - for example a nasty physical experience with a gay may temporarily lead one away from the gay world, only to be drawn back to same sex once the memory fades. Also, the response will be very individual- as we are all so different - and one must avoid taking any position to this response or behaviour saying it is right or wrong. The only wrong response would be that which physically or mentally hurts another or his/her right to freedom and privacy. I think we need to be more liberal and try to understand all the small and large differences within the LGBT community rather than postulate what is right and wrong, subject to hurt/freedom/privacy as explained above. Individual decisions about marraige, when to come out if at all, etc must therefore not be judged against any norms, for there are none in the LGBT community. Only the basic human norms of safeguarding freedom/privacy and avoidance of hurt would, in my opinion, apply. So guys, counsel, guide, caution but do not think there is only one right path. In the larger sense, if humans knew the "right" path to happiness and had the ability follow it, there would be no sorrow on earth! Cheers A --- Kanoji Kankhinche <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> > Hello! What is surprising in this??!! On the > contrary it is a surprise that the case of mine and > other like me is surprising to you! Sir!Let me tell > you that its not discovered "after daughters are > married" only. The consiousness was there about my > sextuality that I'm a Bi-sextual since begining that > I get attraction towards men as well as women.....! > > But, only the thing,that due the social atmosphere > surrounding ppl. like us and its pressure and the > fear, we can't come-out openly with our feelings and > express it;but at the same time we're feeling > tremendous force within the self of the same > Bi-sextual tendency that constantly tries to > come-out.....and our social awareness always has to > supress it!We can say it as our weakness,that we > can't follow our consience and do as per what our > society has established the norms....Its a trgedy > for the ppl. like us! > > But at the same time,I would say,its like a > coragious soldier who keeps giving fight on both the > fronts at a time!Its the spirituality!! But the time > comes in the life, that at certain point we can't > supress more;or on getting enough space and > opportunity to follow that hidden feelings and act > accordingly. In the life of ppl. like me comes such > a chance when they are free from all their > social/family responsibilities and obligations and > get to surpass all the taboos!Then they want now to > live as per their own liking/feeling/tendency which > was there hidden originally.... Hope, now you can > understand such thing and try to provide > help/space/atmosphere/plateform to express ourselves > without fear > =================================================--- > In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, "Kanoji Kankhinche" > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Hello,dEAR Owner/Moderator and all members! Thank > you very much to alot me membership in this group. > Since long I was looking for such a > group/forum/plateform where I can meet ppl.like me > and share my feelings. Giving brief intro. I'm > Kanoji,55,a Mumbaikar,doing my own small > mktg.business. I'm Bi-sextual. I'm married;had > twin-daughters both of them got already married. > Bi-sexuality is my inner-tendency.But,I must > say,till now no actual experience with > anybody....But,now I feel,after getting free from my > social/family responsibilities I must give an ear to > my inner-voice....its becoming nowadays bigger and > bigger....I'm in search for a > good-healthy-responsible-longtime relation with a > guy(or GAY!)with whom I can pass my remaining life > -in love- happily soulfully apart and along its > phisical aspect!In short a mature relation.Anybody > can write me on [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > I'm adding my own pics in our photo section. > > Thank you again. > > Kanoji Kankhinche. > ================================= > sigh.. how come ppl are discovering their sexuality > "after daughters are married" and when one is all of > 55?i don't even know how to respond to such mails. > > just moments back, read a private mail from another > person who says he is gay but has children and even > though he has come out to his sister (she stopped > talking to him), he cannot come out at large because > he has 2 children and society will label the > children as offsprings of a gay father. > > regards > > moderator > > > > > Group Site: > > http://www.gaybombay.info > ========================== > This message was posted to the gay_bombay Yahoo! > Group. 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