@ charleston_blue you misunderstand gender-fluidity. it is not a desire to be with other females (which infact, i rarely am) that "confuses" my gender identity.
on the contrary, i am not at all confused. i would not trade my vagina for a penis EVER or go under the knife to change any physical aspect of myself. i respect and love my body as it is and am proud to be born a woman. gender identity is NOT about your physical characteristics or about whats between your legs. its a much deeper sense of awareness that goes beyond physical attributes. its not even about your sexual orientation, just as there is much more to you about being a man than who you are attracted to or what reproductive organ you have. if for any unfortunate reason you lost your penis.. would you not BE a man anymore? you'd still feel, think, behave, IDENTIFY as a man in your head wouldnt you? its ok to accept something that is beyond your comprehension, just knowing that it is a deep part of someone else's ! you expect society to be accepting of your choice of partner, even if they dont "understand" it. but you sound as judgmental, critical and full of anger as the very people who judged you. will post a new thread on the various identities that people ascribe to and why... i hope you read it with an open mind. ________________________________ From: charleston blue <charleston...@yahoo.com> To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Sat, 16 April, 2011 1:14:09 AM Subject: Re: g_b Why i'm here Yopu are who you are. If you have any questions about that just look down there. It's not confusing to have desires to be with another female. The beauty of is, is simply the beauty of being who you are and enjoying who your partner is; female to female, male to male as long as you are true to yourself. If you don't understand that much all you will do is confuse someone elses life with your stuff. Looked, you're either or. I lied for over 30 years about who In was and I ended up deeply hurting the mother of my children in after 16 years of a "happy" life together I come out and discuss my inner feelings (no act out in my inner feelings). I had to leave because my desire to be with her or any other female dwindled to "zilch." My decision devastated her so badly that her resentment has turned inti hate, "hate" for all men not just me. I live comfortably as myself. I call myself "same gender preference." I just can't side with the "gay" syndrome. I'm more than and better than that. Besides, the stigma from the open reputation of being "Gay" torrid, horrid, sleazy and immoral behavior is not something I care to be identified with, or, people who mutilate their bodies to become the facimily of something they are not. "Just because you feel masculine doesn't mean that you should run out and sew on a plastic "peter," or have it cut off and sew in a plastic vagina? No, I'd rather be with a man who knows that he's a man...a man who prefers a man like my self. Personally, I wouldn't have a plastic vagina over a real one... ________________________________ From: Bloot Fontaine <blutfonta...@yahoo.co.in> To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Sent: Fri, April 15, 2011 2:18:20 AM Subject: Re: g_b Why i'm here You are most welcome to be with us! --- On Thu, 14/4/11, Carrera <carrera...@yahoo.in> wrote: >From: Carrera <carrera...@yahoo.in> >Subject: g_b Why i'm here >To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com >Date: Thursday, 14 April, 2011, 11:49 PM > > > >Dear All, > >I've joined the group recently and haven't gotten down to introducing myself. >For those of you who don't know, I'm biologically female, identify as >Gender-fluid, and 32yrs old. >I have a very strange predicament. I don't know if I rightly belong to this >group, or for that matter, what kind of queer-identity I should ascribe to. I >am >bisexual but that's not why I'm here. > > >I find myself extremely attracted to the concept of being gay. Not >female-lesb. >I mean male-gay. I feel like a gay boy in a woman's body most of the time. >This poses a bit of a problem as obviously no gay man would be able to >reciprocate that!! Ideally I would like to eventually end up in an open r'ship >with a bi-dude. But most bi-men DON'T TELL WOMEN they're bi !! Which takes me >back to square one. > >Anyway, I'm unsure of what my role here is, or whether I should pursue contact >with people in GB and at GB events. I'm unsure of whether my presence at GB >meets would be out of place at best or unwanted at worst. > >Most of my friends are straight, and though that's fine with me, it leaves out >a >whole aspect of myself when I relate to them. I don't identify with lesbians >at >all ! >What would you all suggest I do? I would really want to know what are your >honest opinions in this situation, and whether you think it is awkward or >alright for me to be here. > > >Love, >T > >
