On Sat, Jan 16, 2016 at 7:25 PM, Andi Gutmans <[email protected]> wrote:
> On 1/14/16, 7:47 AM, "[email protected] on behalf of Stig Bakken" <
> [email protected] on behalf of [email protected]> wrote:
>
> >I agree whole-heartedly with Zeev here!
> >
> >Anyone who has a clue about organizational psychology will tell you to
> >focus on what you want more of, not on what you want to eliminate. Heck,
> >anyone who is a parent today should understand this intuitively.
> >
> >The main focus of a CoC should be positive, describing or even giving
> >examples of respectful behavior, that way people are guided towards
> >"wanted" behavior, instead of having to figure it out by process of
> >elimination from a list of what NOT to do. Granted, there is such a thing
> >as common sense, but it's not always that common, so providing positive
> >guidance is effective.
> >
> >Several people have suggested splitting the RFC into two: one for the CoC
> >itself (which should be easier to rally around), and another for how
> >to deal with problems. I think this is a very rational approach, it
> allows
> >us to learn from experience with the CoC as formulated before setting up
> >any kind of tribunal or banning system which could backfire badly in
> >various ways.
> >
>
> I agree with Stig and it mirrors what’s happening in psychology - less
> carrot and stick and more focused on positive reinforcement and
> expectations.
> I also question whether the RFC process is supposed to even address such
> issues.
> The RFC process exists to vote on product related issues (features, EOL,
> BC breakage, …). It feels weird to me to use it for such an initiative.
>
> But going with Stig’s suggestion, I think it’d be nice to work on a
> consensus-based (not RFC-based) guideline of the kind of positive behaviors
> we expect from people on internals@.
>
Yes, let's first answer the question "What positive environment do we want
to have?"
Here's an excerpt from *Elephpant Etiquette*, an alternative take on a
"code of conduct":
*As a contributor, you also represent PHP and are responsible for...*
-
*Your words: *
- *Be understanding*
- *Be polite*
- *Be concise*
- *Speak honestly with constructive language*
- *Discuss the position, not the person*
-
*Your behavior: *
- *Actively listen to those who are speaking*
- *Affirm what you hear*
- *Remain calm (strive for equanimity)*
- *Keep your voice down (NO CAPS)*
- *Stay out of other's personal space*
- *Heed the advice of community moderators*
Full text.
<http://cerebriform.blogspot.com/2016/01/proposed-elephant-etiquette.html>
