good? njc

[colin]

I am often criticesd by people who know me because I prefer to see the 
good in people and because I won't condemn people. I see nothing wrong 
in condeming peopl's beahviour or attitudes, but I don't think it right 
to condemn people as bad.
I tend to feel compassion for people who do terrible things.
However, I am finding it increasingly difficult to dismiss the views of 
these friends.
I am aware that people are not always coming from a 'good place', that 
people can be cruel and mean spirited and self centred.

A situation arose again to day where iw as disrespected and abused. I 
did not let it pass tho and stood my ground. I have an adult dog to 
rehome. I rarely make a charge as long as  am sure  it is a good home. 
Well,  went around to the house to meet these people. they were not in. 
I saw immediately that they lived on a main road and had no fenced in 
garden. My dog is not going to live there. So the 'friend' who put me in 
touch got stroppy with me and accused me of being 'stupid'  and then the 
woman who was MAYBE going to have the dog phoned me and was abusive!!!! 
The point, I never said they could ahve the dog. i said I needed to meet 
them. Secondly, what fucking right have they got to EXPECT naything from 
me? And why the fuck should I have to justify myself to them?  am sick 
of this sort of disrespect. i am sick of the way people beahve and am 
sick of getting it the neck from ignorant people who think only of 
themselves.

YET if I start to 'judge' people as 'good' or 'bad', where does the 
authority come from to do that? whos is to say i am 'good' or 'bad'? 
Myself? well i know people who think they are 'good' and they do and and 
say evil. They think only of themselves, don't care about others as long 
as they have what they want.
If we think others don't come up to the mark, how do we know we do? Are 
we to think of ourselves and others as bad for the errors we make? If so 
then we are all fucked because not one us is error free. Do we say 'bad' 
only applies to those who 'think' and who are aware of their errors? 
Awareness can come at many stage in life.

Just writing this , I can see I am not likely to change into thinking 
people are innately bad. But short of living as hermit, it is very 
difficult to avoid shit heads.
I am hurt and angry and probably talking crap. But know you lot are used 
to it and will ignore it or not as you please.
bw
colin