In a message dated 3/17/2003 2:14:34 PM Eastern Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
> So the 'friend' who put me in > touch got stroppy with me and accused me of being 'stupid' and then the > woman who was MAYBE going to have the dog phoned me and was abusive!!!! > The point, I never said they could ahve the dog. I am reading a great book called "Loving What Is" that aims to teach us how to bless situations such as these, rather than stew in anger and bad feelings. Now, I am not claiming the ability to be able to practice this after so many years of subscribing to victim mentality, but according to the author, Byron Katie, if you want to let go of these bad feelings, you could be thankful to your friend and this woman. They have provided you an opportunity to stand up for yourself, to strengthen your intention, and that is a good thing. They are supposed to be in your life at this time to give you this opportunity. True, it is very difficult to withdraw from the perception that you have been wronged. But while you can do nothing to change the behavior of others, you do have a choice in your reaction to their behavior. And I say, good for you for sticking to your guns about your dog. That shows perseverance and integrity! Good Luck Ken
