The nuns never got around to discussing that although I do remember an odd lecture on how to treat servants. I had a blue plate special at 40- my doc knew my marriage was doomed- as was his. It didn't matter who I married afterall which is a sad thing to admit- my family and I raised the children. I am a classic co-dependent/survivor. I am also considered classy. All in a day's work!
On May 5, 4:23�pm, Hollywood <[email protected]> wrote: > rigs, > > Then you better be damned carefull who you have children with. I had > three and then had a vascetomy at the age of �31. > Don't have a co-dependent bone in my body. > > On May 5, 4:17�pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > That's good advice, Hollywood. You just can't leave children, however. > > Or your parents when they are dying. Or the dying dog :-(. Maybe love > > is the culprit of expectations- friendships have been better for me, > > now that I think of it. And I married under the old model- whereas my > > daughter has a very different balance in her marriage. Okay, I won't > > be a hussie. I'll look for a gent who likes to play Scrabble and Gin > > Rummy and is able to remember thousands of jokes- I love to laugh. > > Sandra Day O'Connor's husband has Alzheimers and has two girlfriends > > that keep him busy much to Her Honor's relief! I just like to stomp > > around some thoughts like a Brave on the warpath. They pass or I > > realize I have a short story floating in my head that disappears- like > > a cool breeze! > > > On May 5, 10:22 am, Hollywood <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > rigs, > > > > I never expect and/or demand that someone live up to my expectations > > > of them and/ot MAKE me happy. And I don't exist to live up to theirs > > > or make them happy. That's an inside job. > > > I have a plaque in my bedroom. it reads: "Don't lead, I may not wish > > > to follow, > > > Don't > > > follow, I may not wish to lead > > > Just walk > > > by my siade and be my friend. > > > > A woman can't live with that and I'm gone like a cool breeze. > > > > On May 5, 10:13 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > That's sweet, Hollywood! My mother had a private room for a month at a > > > > fancy resthome and was promised smoking privileges. The plan was to > > > > move her home with private nursing and get my ex to sign divorce > > > > papers. So I am hit on by the director- he invited me to have lunch to > > > > discuss my mother but he spent the entire lunch explaining his "open > > > > marriage" and experiences in Viet Nam. Anyway, I said "NO" so he gave > > > > my mother till the end of the month to find new quarters. She died > > > > exactly at the end of the month. And I thought my husband could help > > > > so we tried again. Man- what a guilt trip! Eventually, I disentangled > > > > myself with the help of a personal injury attorney- what is more of a > > > > personal injury than a bad marriage? He also was stuck in a bad > > > > marriage- an indiscretion run amuck. He had a funny story about his > > > > group getting stuck in a beer factory during the Korean War. A gem of > > > > a man sadly gone. Anyway, the divorce took 3 years to battle out- > > > > sometimes I can hardly believe I survived- but I did and so did the > > > > children. But we were wounded so I guess that's how soldiers must feel > > > > coming home. > > > > > On May 5, 9:40 am, Hollywood <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > rigs, > > > > > > Of course you could, be my guest. > > > > > > On May 5, 9:36 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > lol...lol...lol > > > > > > > I could say the same about men and husbands! I dated tons and wound > > > > > > up > > > > > > with two idiots! Even my last divorce attorney sent me a funny card > > > > > > that read "You're right! Your ex is a jerk!" I guess I will never > > > > > > figure out why I made such dumb choices and try to be grateful for > > > > > > what went right in my life and for my children. Maybe I will get to > > > > > > be > > > > > > a hussie at the retirement home if I can find one that allows > > > > > > smoking > > > > > > and drinking. :-) > > > > > > > On May 5, 9:11 am, Hollywood <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > rigs, > > > > > > > > I hear ya' kiddo. I LOVE women, but just can't stand wives. > > > > > > > > On May 5, 1:54 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > Yes- marriage is in shambles! Even the ones I know that have > > > > > > > > lasted > > > > > > > > bask in bitter humor as a fork plunges into a salad and a > > > > > > > > sinister > > > > > > > > aside slides out of a painted mouth. I suppose we should be > > > > > > > > grateful > > > > > > > > if we escape marriage with our lives and not moan and groan. One > > > > > > > > survives a bad marriage like a wounded soldier. Love is a > > > > > > > > battlefield. > > > > > > > > I used to think my mother was the only one who had totally > > > > > > > > unprepared > > > > > > > > me for the reality of wedlock until it turns out other women > > > > > > > > felt the > > > > > > > > same from my generation. Now, perhaps, women are over-prepared. > > > > > > > > Who > > > > > > > > knows? The best we hope for is that our children avoid our > > > > > > > > misfortunes > > > > > > > > and so far so good. > > > > > > > > > On May 4, 9:03 pm, VT VirtualTruth <[email protected]> > > > > > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > > Civil Unions are not marriages and not family units > > > > > > > > > and frankly when so many marriages end in divorce > > > > > > > > > the unit of society is already undercut! > > > > > > > > > > On May 3, 11:25 pm, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > They undercut the family as a unit of society and I think > > > > > > > > > > there is > > > > > > > > > > undercurrent of revenge or psychotic reaction to > > > > > > > > > > heterosexuals. Lord > > > > > > > > > > knows the family is a complicated affair along with sex > > > > > > > > > > made worse by > > > > > > > > > > the theories of shrinks but I think of gays and lesbians as > > > > > > > > > > spoiled > > > > > > > > > > fruits. > > > > > > > > > > > On May 3, 6:00 pm, VT VirtualTruth > > > > > > > > > > <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > Keith how does a civil union endanger YOUR marriage, > > > > > > > > > > > answer that one for me. > > > > > > > > > > > > On May 2, 11:27 am, Keith In Tampa > > > > > > > > > > > <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > As I said in another thread, I am catching up, its been > > > > > > > > > > > > a busy week. > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hey Rigs!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > I only wish that I had a whole lotta women hangin' out > > > > > > > > > > > > here at the Keith In > > > > > > > > > > > > Tampa Hacienda. I would be delighted to put on a little > > > > > > > > > > > > show!! No, Renee > > > > > > > > > > > > still comes around, mainly to bitch, gripe, and make me > > > > > > > > > > > > take her out > > > > > > > > > > > > somewhere expensive. She would definitely be > > > > > > > > > > > > quashing/putting the hiatus on > > > > > > > > > > > > gals coming over here in the front lawn....It ain't > > > > > > > > > > > > gonna happen I don't > > > > > > > > > > > > think..... > > > > > > > > > > > > > Sugarshack and Holly, > > > > > > > > > > > > > The standard still exists in this Nation, which is that > > > > > > > > > > > > most, the majority > > > > > > > > > > > > of Americans, believe that it is wrong by a bunch of > > > > > > > > > > > > secularist far left > > > > > > > > > > > > socialists attempting to change the definition of > > > > > > > > > > > > marriage. Marriage is > > > > > > > > > > > > still to this day, an ecclisiastical function, there is > > > > > > > > > > > > no such thing as a > > > > > > > > > > > > "civil marriage" as hard as secularists want to make it > > > > > > > > > > > > so. > > > > > > > > > > > > > Most Americans have no problem with civil unions, in > > > > > > > > > > > > fact, California has a > > > > > > > > > > > > civil union law in place now. That was not good enough > > > > > > > > > > > > for folks like Perez > > > > > > > > > > > > Hilton, they want to redefine marriage, and they want > > > > > > > > > > > > to shove their > > > > > > > > > > > > lifestyle down our throats, if you disagree, then you > > > > > > > > > > > > are immediately > > > > > > > > > > > > branded a "homophobe". It has nothing whatsoever to do > > > > > > > > > > > > with equal rights. > > > > > > > > > > > > NOTHING!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > My point being, is your "standards" from the mid to > > > > > > > > > > > > late 19th century is > > > > > > > > > > > > misplaced Holly, and Sugarshack, wake up and smell the > > > > > > > > > > > > coffee!!! Put down > > > > > > > > > > > > the cocktails, step away from the pharmaceuticals, and > > > > > > > > > > > > no more ganja for > > > > > > > > > > > > you!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 11:40 PM, VT VirtualTruth > > > > > > > > > > > > <[email protected] > > > > > > > > > > > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Let's rewind the tape, The STANDARD is stupidity > > > > > > > > > > > > > and that is the dumb blond and YOU identify with > > > > > > > > > > > > > the dumb blond's ideas. So the TWO of you have the > > > > > > > > > > > > > same STANDARDS, So if attaining the STANDARD is > > > > > > > > > > > > > Nirvana, do you need me to continue connecting the > > > > > > > > > > > > > dots, or are you > > > > > > > > > > > > > to stupid to make it to nirvana, Dick? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > On Apr 30, 7:51 pm, dick thompson > > > > > > > > > > > > > <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Nirvana is when you attained the standard. Since > > > > > > > > > > > > > > stupidity is the > > > > > > > > > > > > > > standard, you are not being intelligent and I am > > > > > > > > > > > > > > not being stupid. You > > > > > > > > > > > > > > really need to think things through before you > > > > > > > > > > > > > > respond. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > VT VirtualTruth wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > And you are merely average, Nirvana meaning in my > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > case > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > being intelligent and in your case, stupid. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > On Apr 30, 7:32 pm, dick thompson > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >> You must have attained nirvana then. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >> VT VirtualTruth wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>> Stupidity is a standard we should all be > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>> striving for? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>> On Apr 30, 7:25 pm, dick thompson > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>> <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> You really are a putz. The US had standards > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> for a long while and > > > > > > > > > > > > > this > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> girl reflected those standards well. They > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> served us just fine until > > > > > > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> people like Perez Hilton came along. Believe > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> it or not California > > > > > > > > > > > > > has > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> been a part of the US for a good long while > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> and a lot of the country > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> does agree with the standards Miss California > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> talked about. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>> VT VirtualTruth wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >>>>> California > > ... > > read more �- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ Thanks for being part of "PoliticalForum" at Google Groups. 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