This question is for?those of you who have aids that are not not consumer
employed. I am attending college and am
3 hours away from home. How and where do you draw boundaries with your aids? A
lady I respect told me to keep our relationship a business one.
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?My problem is this in the past I have become friends?with these women (it's
difficult not to.) But then I tart hearing about there problems
and our relationship is no longer a working relationship. Seems they take that
as a sign as they can come, do very little and
or take care of personal calls for instance. My dorm is a small area so I hear
the whole conversation. My aid spoke to her child's teacher
this am.?She was on the phone over 5 minutes then when she got off began to
explain the difficulty she is having with her
daughter. It is not that I do not care I do! (Probably too?nice for my own
good.)? I just do not want to become someones counselor.
Do you listen but make no comment and hope she will keep info to herself?
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I have been working on establishing boundaries. To protect them from me as well
as me from them.?My last?aid showed up with
booze on her breath. I told her boss but instead?of confronting her employee
saying something like, "a consumer?reported that they
smelled alcohol on your breath.... She told her "Shelly tolm me....." then my
aid called me and it became personal. Anyway I just
want to do the right thing.? How do you guys draw those lines or even set the
standards??How friendly or even how much
info do you give up?
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My "accident" was a blessing in many ways and I have learned many valuable
lessons these past soon to be 4 years.I am
grateful for all that I have been given and do believe it's my purpose to be a
blessing.?That does not mean that I let people
get away with things that are unacceptable. Am I making a big deal out of
nothing? She is a sweet girl... I am going to "shut up"
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Blessings~
Shelly?
C6-C7 Incomplete
July 31 will be 4 years
