I am sure that my situation is unique. I have now had the same aid from the time of my injury 10 years ago. Over this period of time, it is only natural in my opinion, that he and I have become good friends. However, he does add to my depression which obviously isn't needed, with his personal problems. The plus side is as a result of being good friends he provides me with better service than I might otherwise receive. I guess my advice would be share information at a slow pace until you get a good feel of the character and professionalism of whomever you're interfacing. William Ray, C4 10 years post ----- Original Message ----- From: shellbell5...@aim.com<mailto:shellbell5...@aim.com> To: quad-list@eskimo.com<mailto:quad-list@eskimo.com> Sent: Friday, June 04, 2010 6:35 PM Subject: [QUAD-L] aids
This question is for those of you who have aids that are not not consumer employed. I am attending college and am 3 hours away from home. How and where do you draw boundaries with your aids? A lady I respect told me to keep our relationship a business one. My problem is this in the past I have become friends with these women (it's difficult not to.) But then I tart hearing about there problems and our relationship is no longer a working relationship. Seems they take that as a sign as they can come, do very little and or take care of personal calls for instance. My dorm is a small area so I hear the whole conversation. My aid spoke to her child's teacher this am. She was on the phone over 5 minutes then when she got off began to explain the difficulty she is having with her daughter. It is not that I do not care I do! (Probably too nice for my own good.) I just do not want to become someones counselor. Do you listen but make no comment and hope she will keep info to herself? I have been working on establishing boundaries. To protect them from me as well as me from them. My last aid showed up with booze on her breath. I told her boss but instead of confronting her employee saying something like, "a consumer reported that they smelled alcohol on your breath.... She told her "Shelly tolm me....." then my aid called me and it became personal. Anyway I just want to do the right thing. How do you guys draw those lines or even set the standards? How friendly or even how much info do you give up? My "accident" was a blessing in many ways and I have learned many valuable lessons these past soon to be 4 years.I am grateful for all that I have been given and do believe it's my purpose to be a blessing. That does not mean that I let people get away with things that are unacceptable. Am I making a big deal out of nothing? She is a sweet girl... I am going to "shut up" Blessings~ Shelly C6-C7 Incomplete July 31 will be 4 years
