Re: g_b Help needed from the doctors in this group! - Query regarding orgasm & masturbation+

[Scott Hatley]

Rahul,

First, relax about the whole set of issues, just as much as you can.  What you 
describe is not all that unusual.

Second, what you are describing are almost certainly psychological issues.

However if you have the slightest concerns that your issues are primarily 
physiological (bodily), get a PHYSICAL check-up with a medical doctor.  There 
should be NO discussion, investigation by him/her unless he/she is just curious 
or prying.

Finally, start working now on finding a good psychologist or psychotherapist 
with training in dealing with a variety of people.  Largely for your own peace 
of mind, you probably need to discuss these concerns .  However, finding that 
qualified person is not easy.  I received my training over many years in New 
York City.  Now I live in a middle-sized American city (700 thousand).  There 
is not one person here whom I have met in 10 years that I would refer you to.

So, in short, I am suggesting what you need -- a good, well-trained 
psychotherapist, sophisticated and relaxed about dealing with gay people -- but 
that isn't going to be easy to find.

Now, let's go back to the beginning:  your concerns are not horrifying, 
extraordinary or rare.  I understand that you are distressed, however.  If you 
cannot find good psychotherapy,   patience (with yourself), perhaps some more 
experience, writing to and for yourself may ease your concerns.

I wish you good luck with all this.

Scott

PS:  Good news/Bad news.  All these issues, needs, wants, wishes and desires 
change over time.  This is bad news only because it would be nice to have 
everything happily settled once and for all.  That is not really how human 
beings work.

S.


On Oct 13, 2013, at 6:17 PM, rahulb...@yahoo.in wrote:

>
> This is related to masturbation, that when I masturbate ( till now i used to 
> do this thinking myself as top - fucking the othr prsn ) I dont really feel 
> that pleasure, but ejaculation occurs. Recently, I came to know of the 
> concept of bottom, and tried to think of myself as bottom during 
> masturbation, and felt a lil pleasure, but not immense.
> So, i wanted to know if this normal or I should consult a doctor for not 
> experiencing orgasm. But then again, what if the doc asks me if i m gay or 
> smthng related? What should i say ?
> Thanks.
>
>

g_b Stephen Fry's OUT THERE Part 2 TODAY

[Aham]

hi everybody and a special hi to people in London. 

as you would have known, stephen fry has shot a documentary about the gay 
rights movement from across the world. on monday, 14 october 2013, BBC2 
showcased the first part of the documentary. please click on this link for a 
wonderful piece by sherlock homo and the youtube link to the documentary. 
http://gaysifamily.com/2013/10/16/stephen-fry-queer-documentary/

The first part showcased UK, US and Uganda.

The second part would be telecast today at 9pm GMT on BBC2. this part would 
feature LGBT people  from India and Russia. If you are in london, do remember 
to catch this telecast on BBC2.  There is no live streaming. 

 
regards,
aham

g_b As we work to create light for others ...

[dunno76]

As we work to create light for others, we naturally light our own way. -
Mary Anne Radmacher (OM | Rekindling the Light Within
 )

  
(Click above for the bigger image)
___

Happiness doesn't result from what we get, but from what we give. - Ben
Carson (OM | Rekindling the Light Within
 )

  
(Click above for the bigger image)
___

Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live. - Johnny Depp
(OM | Rekindling the Light Within
 )

  
(Click above for the bigger image)
___

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. - Ruth Bell Graham
(OM | Rekindling the Light Within
 )

  
(Click above for the bigger image)
___

Every moment of "Are we there yet?" is a moment missed of "Wow, look at
the view!" (and not just when driving!) - Doe Zantamata (OM | Rekindling
the Light Within  )

  
(Click above for the bigger image)
___

There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about
things which are beyond the power of our will. - Epictetus (OM |
Rekindling the Light Within
 )

  
(Click above for the bigger image)
___

The way you help heal the world is you start with your own family. -
Mother Teresa (OM | Rekindling the Light Within
 )

  
(Click above for the bigger image)
___

The True Measure of Greatness by Randall S. Weeks: Have you read this
before? If you haven't, you have to read this brilliant words by Weeks
on greatness. How do we measure greatness? We don't, because we can't
measure greatness just as we can't measure how much someone love us.
Read 'The True Measure of Greatness' here
  and you can share your view of what you think
greatness is.
___

To let go of what is lost, even though letting go is painful.
To reach for what can be, even when it's doubtful.
To live as though we're brave, even when we're fearful.
These are the trials we face,
and the choices we make
along the path to joy.

- Sandra Kring
___

An old man told his grandson, "There is a battle between two wolves
inside all of us. One is Evil (it is anger, jealousy, greed and
resentment), and the other wolf is Good (it is joy, peace, love, hope,
humility, kindness, empathy and compassion)." The boy asked, "Which wolf
wins?" And the old man quietly replied, "The one you feed".

I believe it's an old Native American story that was passed down from
generation to generation, and I hope it continues to reach people's
hearts all over the world. Namaste.

- Buddhist Boot Camp
___

Happiness goes Viral: Watch how a random act of happiness which an
elderly couple did which makes millions of people smile. You can watch
it here
 .
___

Why social anxiety is like a distorted mirror

I emailed the other day about a new series of free resources on social
anxiety created by Mark Tyrrell.

In case you didn't get that, here's Mark's latest video about the
'distorted mirror' - it's such a great way of looking at social anxiety,
and will show you some unusual ways to get over it.

Sign up to get the free resources here


Mark is a professional, with a ton of experience, and who obviously
really cares about people in need.

Mark will be releasing a third free video on social anxiety this Friday
October 18. So be sure to stay tune by signing up here
 .

g_b Guide Gay Rio de Janeiro fun all days!

[Peter P]

Hi Guys:

I like many cities of Brasil, but undoubtedly Rio de Janeiro is the most 
gay-friendly city with both gay beaches:

Copacabana and Ipanema where you have a lot to see on and the sexiest men from 
all over the world. 

And for those who also like culture, exhibitions and parties have events 
throughout the year.
Here the daily guide to ensure your fun>

Guide Gay Rio de Janeiro fun all days!

.

g_b Play safe when u meet strangers at private place, specially if it is yours.

[Tintin Mumbai India]

Hi guys

Recently a close gay friend of mine met a person from PlanetRomeo. My
friend was visiting Chandigarh and hooked up with someone from PR.

My friend called this date at his hotel room and somehow this guy managdd
to lace the colddrink of my friend.

In the end my friend lost his mobile, some money and few important things.

My intention is not to bring the incidence in notice but to make others
aware that when you meet strangers at your place, please make sure:
1. Only entertain the profiles which are old enough ie the profiles with
1000 plus visits, though 8t is not a proof of genuine profile. Still a new
profile is risky. Always doubt why the profile is so new?
2. If u call someone at ur place, make sure that someone knows that u have
a strange visitor. This someone shud be ur wellwisher and someone who
really cares u and who can call u back incase u dont call him back after an
hour or so of the scheduled time.
3. Keep the number of this stranger saved anywhere else too besides on ur
phone. Your phone may be going to be stolen.
4. If u can trust ur wellwisher friend enough then share number of this
stranger with him too.
5. Dont accept any drink etc from stranger. U can use any excuse like u r
allergic to cold drinks, U have cold, u dont drink that flavor. Or just be
drama guy and play extra romantic and tell him that u want to drink from
his bottle only. Read his reactions on ur excuses and to ur romantic lines.
6. Dont leave ur valuables unattentive. If u have safe vault in ur hotel
room, keep ur valuables there.
7. Dont enter the bathroom alone if it does nt have intercom facilities or
if the bathroom can be locked from outside.
8. Show the stranger somehow that u r not alone in the hotel room and some
friend is there in other room or someone is waiting for u in the lobby.
9. Dont show off ur wealth or status or hifi job or so. These things
attract cheaters.

I would like other people who are serious on these matters and who like to
play advisor, to add their points of suggestions too.

Lets help to keep the society safe and secure.

Yours
Abhay

g_b Sri Lanka gays smeared

[Richard A Ammon]

Sri Lanka begins ‘systematic targeting’ of gays.
Buddhist monk arrested for alleged gay pedophilia, transgender schoolboy 
entrapped in smear campaign.


http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/sri-lanka-begins-%E2%80%98systematic-targeting%E2%80%99-gays070913

g_b need an outdoors companion

[bharat_gm]

I am 40 year old single maharashtrian/marathi  guy from Borivali. (Not fond of 
travelling and am dependent on public transport, so prefer someone from the 
vicinity) I am looking for a companion for movies, drama 
(english/hindi/marathi), shopping, dining, etc.  
My hobbies :reading, music (hindi movie oldies, gazals) , cooking. Willing to 
learn new things and develop new tastes. Am a good listener. Occasionally need 
someone to listen to me, too. 
Needless to say that if the companionship gets extended to indoor activities, 
will be happier. But that's not the sole objective.
I believe my social and  religious views are progressive and compassionate. 
 

g_b India’s 1st survey on gay love and sex

[Richard A Ammon]

Please forgive if this is a repeat posting (from September):

India’s 1st survey on gay love and sex busts myth.
Over 25% say they don’t have anal sex, debunking perception that the act 
defines gay sex.

http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/india%E2%80%99s-1st-survey-gay-love-and-sex-busts-myth070913

g_b Hidden Cameras

[Tintin Mumbai India]

Hello Guys

Though we all are sensible and aware of the surroundings, but still I
thought I should write a mail about my recent observations.

Now a days I am seeing lots of "Home made videos" on FB which show either
soft play, or even hardcore sex.

One thing I have noticed in those videos, that Camera is stand still
through out the video, which means, it has been mounted at some place.

Another thing, the angle of the scene suggests that the camera has been
placed at a location, which is really not a right place, if someone really
wants to make an amateur video.
What does this mean? Mostly it means, it is a hidden camera.

Another thing, in the videos, one of the participants will be always at the
angle that his face is not visible, while other guy's face will be clearly
visible.

What I have concluded so far, that such videos are made with some intention
and without knowledge / consent of all of the participants.
My conclusion may be partially or fully incorrect.

But if the conclusion is right, it is an alarming situation that someone
somewhere is being recorded without his permission and even if he is not
going to be blackmailed, he is very much prone to be exposed on the
internet, by such videos.

So far, I have not seen usage of sophisticated hidden cameras, and I have
seen people using camera phone etc.
So I think, we should all be alert when we go to meet someone at his place.

Before we start anything, we should look around all of the places where a
camera / mobile phone can be hidden. Even a laptop, which seems OFF, can be
potential recorder.
Try to change the place... if he says place X, then try to use place Y.
Try to do it in the night or in dark... as of now, thermal cameras are not
so common in India in general public.

Am I being over suspicious?

Abhay

--- Reuse Paper by Both Sided Printing 

FashionAra - An online shopping mall, with Fastest
Delivery.

g_b Tuesday's Torment

[asfan]

Mick and Paddy were fishing on the Irish shoreline when Mick pulled
out a
cigar. Finding he had no matches, he asked Paddy for a
light.

'Ya, sure, I tink I haff a lighter,' Paddy replied and then
reaching into
his tackle box, he pulled out a Bic lighter 10 inches
long.

'Saints be te Jesus' exclaimed Mick, taking the huge Bic lighter in
his
hands. 'Where'd yew git dat monster?'

'Well,' replied Paddy, 'I
got it from my Genie.'

'You haff a feckin Genie?' Mick asked.

'Ya,
sure. It's right here in my tackle box,' says Paddy.

'Could I see
him?'

Paddy opens his tackle box and sure enough, out pops the
Genie.


Addressing the Genie, Mick says, 'Hey dere. I'm a good pal of
your master.
Will you grant me one wish?'
'Yes, I will,' says the
Genie.

So Mick asks the Genie for a million bucks. The Genie disappears
back into
the tackle box leaving Mick sitting there waiting for his million
bucks.

Shortly, the Irish sky darkens and is filled with the sound of a
million
ducks flying directly overhead.

Over the roar of the one
million ducks Mick yells at Paddy, 'What the hell?
I asked for a million
bucks, not a million ducks'

Paddy answers, 'Ya, I forgot to tell yew dat
da Genie is hard of hearing. Do
yew really tink I asked for a 10 inch Bic?'  

g_b Cant confess it anywhere else

[Tintin Mumbai India]

Hello Guys

I don't know what should I do, so I am confessing something here.
Yesterday, in night dreams (actually early morning dreams), I had all types
of sex with a minor. I dont know who was he (though it is said that in
dreams you see persons whom you know. Mind can't imagine unknown - unseen
faces in the dreams), but at least I don't remember who was the guy.
When I woke up, I had hard-on. I am feeling guilt now.
I know I have not committed any crime, but I am ashamed of it, thinking
that I have got attraction towards minors (even though it was in the
dreams).
I am afraid, that I may have stepped one inch towards being pedophile.

To be honest, I really don't want to think even about a minor.
I don't know how did it happen...

With Guilt, Abhay

--- Reuse Paper by Both Sided Printing 

FashionAra - An online shopping mall, with Fastest
Delivery.

g_b Play Reading -Ek Madhav Baug at Rachana Sansad, Prabhadevi, Mumbai

[The Humsafar Trust Advocacy Unit]

*PLAY READING- EK MADHAV BAUG*
*20th October, Sunday, 5pm at Rachana Sansad, 278, Shankar Ghanekar Marg,
Prabhadevi, Mumbai*

The Humsafar Trust with support from Rotract presents “Ek Madhav Baug,” a
Hindi play by the late celebrated playwright Chetan Datar. “Ek Madhav Baug”
is a pioneering play about homosexuality and acceptance of the gay
community. A 50-minute soliloquy, it has been translated into Hindi by Mona
Ambegaonkar and Vivek Anand, and is enacted by Mona Ambegaonkar.

This poignant play tells the story of a 21 year-old youth coming to terms
with his sexuality. The play is seen from the point of view of his mother
who discovers that her son is gay and through his diary, relives his
journey of discovery of his own sexuality.

Free Performance at Rachana Sansad on 20th October, Sunday 5pm, followed by
a discussion with the actor. The play will be presented in Hindi while the
discussion will be in both Hindi and English.

This will be followed by panel discussion with LGBT alongwith legal and
healthcare representatives.

https://www.facebook.com/events/1421532618065388/