It's been my experience that obnoxious, rude, overbearing, opinionated folks most often have an insecurity complex i.e. an underlying lack of self-worth that is often sublimated by grandiosity and verbose, not to mention other less than likeable personality traits. Personality disorder are hard to overcome... Neurosis is easy in comparison. I was once told by a dear friend, " you have no Idea how your words hurt people" and my Xwife once said , " Can you just say it's only what you THINK, before you make your dictatorial assertions of TRUTH? Gosh, wonder why she is another X. ; ) ... topping those, when I was perhaps 50 years old, my dear sweet Father. during a 'conversation', became beet red and calmly said, "You are the most over bearing person I have ever known"... that got my attention, later that day I apologized; and have since then made a concerted effort to temper my speech and to understand why I need to be the "right man." Glad I 'got it'.. works better for all... mostly for me.
larry tankersley; Gainesville,Florida USA
