RE: [Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)

[Angela]

I guess thats the difference, I've been told from a young age that Im a natural flirt but I never mean any harm by it and hubby knew how I was when he even first started dating me. He would rather me flirt than bitch at him. For the record, he's been reading along with this arguement through the whole thing and remember, he did cheat on me back last year and I took him back and he said yes he was responsible for the most part, he was the one that could have said no, but if she hadnt been there trying to seduce him thenthat temptation wouldnt have been there in the first place. But he does claim the majority of the blame for his affair. And I still dont talk to the "friend". But his take on the flirting thing, his opinion and mine are the same.....if you are just naturally flirtatious and you arent trying to flirt with someone with the sole intent of getting them into bed, then it can be harmless. I'm not taking AJ's answer to me personally, but giving my opinion and how it is with me. And I do think that flirting online is just as bad as flirting in person. JMO though. -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of Charles Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 6:56 AM To: 'The Sandbox Discussion List' Subject: RE: [Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized) That is not an easy yes or no question, and are you sure you want to ask it since there is no way to answer it without getting personal?  You likely won’t like most of the answers.   The reason it is not an easy yes or no question is because of many variables including your natural personality, your husband’s personality, whether he gets upset or not, etc.  And of course, it also depends on what you mean by flirting.   Some folks are natural flirts. Their mannerisms are flirtatious, but they don’t “mean anything” by it. <waving at Neecy (g)>  It would be a different story if they were out without their spouse prowling on the make.   Charles Mims http://www.the-sandbox.org   From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Angela Sent: Monday, September 29, 2003 11:00 PM To: The Sandbox Discussion List Subject: RE: [Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)   So when I'm out with friends or even hubby, and I'm just harmlessly flirting, then I'm doing wrong and showing I'm not cherishing my husband, even though he's the one I go home with/to at night and the only one I ever want to be with sexually. -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of AJ Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 1:49 AM To: The Sandbox Discussion List Subject: Re: [Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized) My personal thoughts:  I just don't think it is even okay to go out and "flirt" and carry on.  That is putting attention that I feel is appropriate to another woman other then your spouse.  Can you do that and still show you are cherishing? AJ ----- Original Message ----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Monday, September 29, 2003 12:39 PM Subject: Re: [Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)   In a message dated 9/29/2003 1:38:46 PM Eastern Daylight Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: Ahhh, a smart man. <applause> No, not smart but honest!  When my wife and I split, it was hard for both of us.  We tried to fix things, but it just wasn't there for us anymore.  We just both got lost in our careers.  Don't know exactly when it happened, but it happened.  We are still very close and great friends.  We even go out to dinner every now and then and have a great time, of course we have a daughter that drives us both crazy.  LOL  I know and go out with a lot of guys whose wives want them to go out and play and give them the space to do those things.  Not one of them in that kind of marriage has ever cheated as far as I know.  It's all trust!  Oh, they flirt and carry on, but go home to their wives with open arms.  Gary  ________________________________ Changes to your subscription (unsubs, nomail, digest) can be made by going to http://sandboxmail.net/mailman/listinfo/sndbox_sandboxmail.net

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