I agree with you tim, flirting is flirting whether
in here or in person. Flirting I believe can lead to potential
problems. Like I said devote the attention to the one you
love.
AJ
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Subject: Re: [Sndbox] now flirting
I think it is cool that your husband doesn't mind that
you flirt via e-mail....
*But*, speaking from experience, it can and
does cause trouble in many instances. My enlightend opinion now is that it
doesn't matter if *you* think it is harmless or not.... It's what your SO
thinks....
On Tuesday, September 30, 2003, at 11:01 AM,
Angela wrote:
Now
I agree flirting with the intent of seduction is wrong. I have always
thought it was wrong, but the flirting you and David do with Jackie or even
between you and Neecy can be considered harmless b/c it is done in a
friendly way. I have never flirted with strangers at a bar when I'm out with
my friends b/c I dont want to get into any situation I might not be able to
get out of and I dont want to give anyone the impression that I want to
sleep with them (that kind of flirting is reserved for hubby only *S*) but
then again is it really flirting when its with your SO? But if your intent
isnt to seduce someone, just to flirt and be nice, I dont see anything wrong
with it. This guy and I in another one of my groups flirt with each other
all the time. Sometimes we even flirt offlist, but then again I laugh about
those emails and considering they all come into my outlook and I have it on
all the time, hubby could read them at any time. And most of the time he
does. There are times I have even gone so far as to have him read the emails
to me while I'm doing other things and have him type out my reply, even with
those flirtacious offlist emails, although he does complain about that. But
needless to say, if my intent was to seduce, I wouldnt do it on outlook
where he could see them at any time.....specially considering he fusses at
me all the time for not emptying my folders such as sent items or deleted
items. He was looking the other night and I had 3000 in deleted items and
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[Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)
/smaller>/fontfamily>Well
as I said, it depends on what you call flirting. That’s always been
the problem when we discuss it on this list. Not everyone agrees on a
common definition. Both David and I told Jackie just the other day we
always ogle her. That could easily be called flirting, but the intent
wasn’t to sleep with Jackie as fun as that may be./color>
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I
see Neecy several times a year in person, and we flirt in our way, but
neither of us are interested in each other in a sexual fashion. So, I
would say that if you are flirting with the intent of seduction then it will
absolutely be wrong, and I can agree with Lowell it isn’t harmless. I
would even go so far as to say that it can lead you to that compromising
position that can result in cheating. So for that reason, it’s not all
harmless./color>
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Again,
it boils down to
intent./color>
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Charles
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[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf
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But
anything you read say that simple flirting is harmless. Now I'm not talking
about going out and batting your eyelashes at another guy and putting your
hands all over him, but even being friendly and smiling and laughing at
someone elses jokes can be considered flirting. The important thing in any
relationship is know who you are going home with or to each night. This
trade show I just went to with hubby a few weeks ago, what I was doing with
his companies suppliers could have been considered flirting, simply because
I was being friendly and smiling and wasnt stiff if one of them hugged me or
gave me a kiss on the cheek. But that was all it was. I need to look up this
article I was reading a few months ago where it was talking about flirting
and marriage. But the basic overlook of the article was light simple
flirting can be vital to a relationship b/c it keeps things fresh. It said
never take flirting to the point of making your spouse jealous. It also
stated that flirting is just a simple part of human nature and some people
do it without realizing it. Not putting anyone down, but most of the casual
banter in here between the men and the women can be considered flirting. And
in anyone I've ever asked, a strictly online relationship is just as
damaging to a relationship and can be considered cheating as much as any
physical relationship. So if you feel flirting is wrong, then when you are
online you should watch your comments (not directed at you AJ, just a
generalization). A couple weeks ago when Tim told David and I to get a room,
we were flirting with each other, but not in a way that either of our
spouses would probably think was wrong. Therefore it is harmless./smaller>/color>/fontfamily>
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