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umm, I a glad I am not married to you,
LOL
We would be married long, LOL
AJ
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Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 8:22
PM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] now flirting
If
it offended him or hurt his feelings, no I wouldnt do it. At least not
consciously. The joke in my family is that when I was born and the dr slapped
me on the bottom, I smiled and batted my eyelashes at him and started the
flirting then and there and it never stopped. I usually try to call it
naturally outgoing rather than naturally flirtacious.
But if it offended or hurt your husbands
feelings would you still do it?
AJ
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003
11:11 AM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] now
flirting
I know what you mean. Thankfully I met hubby while still in high
school. And its not alot of flirting, just the occassional thing, like I
told Charles I think, basically like the type of stuff that happens in
here. Playful banter back and forth.
No need to explain yourself. What I am
saying is...
For example.... If I knew a married buddy of mine was
doing a
lot of flirting on the internet I would advise him not to.
If he
said, "Hey.. I am just kidding around and I'll probably
never
see these women." I would still say .... "Don't do
it."
Present company excluded..... I would say that if you
*met*
your SO on the computer... Then this rule applies
double.
On Tuesday, September 30, 2003, at 12:07 PM,
Angela wrote:
In
my case as long as its flirting, which most of the time is just in a
crowd, he doesnt care about my flirting, as long as he knows I'm not
trying to seduce. I think if he ever caught me flirting with the
intent to seduce, he would probably be quite upset and he should be.
And the flirty emails are usually nothing more than what goes on in
here.
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From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of Tim
Harder
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 12:55
PM
To: The Sandbox Discussion List
Subject: Re:
[Sndbox] now flirting
I think
it is cool that your husband doesn't mind that you flirt via
e-mail....
*But*, speaking from experience, it can and does
cause trouble in many
instances. My enlightend opinion now is that
it doesn't matter if *you*
think it is harmless or not.... It's
what your SO thinks....
On Tuesday, September
30, 2003, at 11:01 AM, Angela wrote:
Now I agree flirting with
the intent of seduction is wrong. I have always thought it was wrong,
but the flirting you and David do with Jackie or even between you and
Neecy can be considered harmless b/c it is done in a friendly way. I
have never flirted with strangers at a bar when I'm out with my
friends b/c I dont want to get into any situation I might not be able
to get out of and I dont want to give anyone the impression that I
want to sleep with them (that kind of flirting is reserved for hubby
only *S*) but then again is it really flirting when its with your SO?
But if your intent isnt to seduce someone, just to flirt and be nice,
I dont see anything wrong with it. This guy and I in another one of my
groups flirt with each other all the time. Sometimes we even flirt
offlist, but then again I laugh about those emails and considering
they all come into my outlook and I have it on all the time, hubby
could read them at any time. And most of the time he does. There are
times I have even gone so far as to have him read the emails to me
while I'm doing other things and have him type out my reply, even with
those flirtacious offlist emails, although he does complain about
that. But needless to say, if my intent was to seduce, I wouldnt do it
on outlook where he could see them at any time.....specially
considering he fusses at me all the time for not emptying my folders
such as sent items or deleted items. He was looking the other night
and I had 3000 in deleted items and 1500 sent
items.
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From:
[EMAIL PROTECTED]
[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of
Charles
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 11:45
AM
To: 'The Sandbox Discussion List'
Subject: RE:
[Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)
Well as I said, it
depends on what you call flirting. That’s always been the
problem when we discuss it on this list. Not everyone agrees on
a common definition. Both David and I told Jackie just the other
day we always ogle her. That could easily be called flirting,
but the intent wasn’t to sleep with Jackie as fun as that may
be.
I see Neecy several times a year in person,
and we flirt in our way, but neither of us are interested in each
other in a sexual fashion. So, I would say that if you are
flirting with the intent of seduction then it will absolutely be
wrong, and I can agree with Lowell it isn’t harmless. I would
even go so far as to say that it can lead you to that compromising
position that can result in cheating. So for that reason, it’s
not all harmless.
Again, it boils down to
intent.
Charles
Mims
http://www.the-sandbox.org
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From:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf
OfAngela
Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 7:28
AM
To: The Sandbox Discussion List
Subject: RE:
[Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)
But
anything you read say that simple flirting is harmless. Now I'm not
talking about going out and batting your eyelashes at another guy and
putting your hands all over him, but even being friendly and smiling
and laughing at someone elses jokes can be considered flirting. The
important thing in any relationship is know who you are going home
with or to each night. This trade show I just went to with hubby a few
weeks ago, what I was doing with his companies suppliers could have
been considered flirting, simply because I was being friendly and
smiling and wasnt stiff if one of them hugged me or gave me a kiss on
the cheek. But that was all it was. I need to look up this article I
was reading a few months ago where it was talking about flirting and
marriage. But the basic overlook of the article was light simple
flirting can be vital to a relationship b/c it keeps things fresh. It
said never take flirting to the point of making your spouse jealous.
It also stated that flirting is just a simple part of human nature and
some people do it without realizing it. Not putting anyone down, but
most of the casual banter in here between the men and the women can be
considered flirting. And in anyone I've ever asked, a strictly online
relationship is just as damaging to a relationship and can be
considered cheating as much as any physical relationship. So if you
feel flirting is wrong, then when you are online you should watch your
comments (not directed at you AJ, just a generalization). A couple
weeks ago when Tim told David and I to get a room, we were flirting
with each other, but not in a way that either of our spouses would
probably think was wrong. Therefore it is
harmless.
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