But if it offended or hurt your husbands feelings
would you still do it?
AJ
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Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 11:11
AM
Subject: RE: [Sndbox] now flirting
I
know what you mean. Thankfully I met hubby while still in high school. And its
not alot of flirting, just the occassional thing, like I told Charles I think,
basically like the type of stuff that happens in here. Playful banter back and
forth.
No need to explain yourself. What I am
saying is... For example.... If I knew a married buddy of mine was doing
a lot of flirting on the internet I would advise him not to. If
he said, "Hey.. I am just kidding around and I'll probably never see
these women." I would still say .... "Don't do it." Present company
excluded..... I would say that if you *met* your SO on the computer...
Then this rule applies double.
On Tuesday, September 30,
2003, at 12:07 PM, Angela wrote:
In
my case as long as its flirting, which most of the time is just in a
crowd, he doesnt care about my flirting, as long as he knows I'm not
trying to seduce. I think if he ever caught me flirting with the intent to
seduce, he would probably be quite upset and he should be. And the flirty
emails are usually nothing more than what goes on in here./smaller>/color>/fontfamily>
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[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of Tim
Harder Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 12:55 PM To:
The Sandbox Discussion List Subject: Re: [Sndbox] now
flirting
/smaller>/fontfamily>I think it is cool that
your husband doesn't mind that you flirt via e-mail....
*But*,
speaking from experience, it can and does cause trouble in
many instances. My enlightend opinion now is that it doesn't matter if
*you* think it is harmless or not.... It's what your SO
thinks....
On Tuesday, September 30, 2003, at 11:01
AM, Angela wrote:
Now I agree flirting with the intent of seduction
is wrong. I have always thought it was wrong, but the flirting you and
David do with Jackie or even between you and Neecy can be considered
harmless b/c it is done in a friendly way. I have never flirted with
strangers at a bar when I'm out with my friends b/c I dont want to get
into any situation I might not be able to get out of and I dont want to
give anyone the impression that I want to sleep with them (that kind of
flirting is reserved for hubby only *S*) but then again is it really
flirting when its with your SO? But if your intent isnt to seduce someone,
just to flirt and be nice, I dont see anything wrong with it. This guy and
I in another one of my groups flirt with each other all the time.
Sometimes we even flirt offlist, but then again I laugh about those emails
and considering they all come into my outlook and I have it on all the
time, hubby could read them at any time. And most of the time he does.
There are times I have even gone so far as to have him read the emails to
me while I'm doing other things and have him type out my reply, even with
those flirtacious offlist emails, although he does complain about that.
But needless to say, if my intent was to seduce, I wouldnt do it on
outlook where he could see them at any time.....specially considering he
fusses at me all the time for not emptying my folders such as sent items
or deleted items. He was looking the other night and I had 3000 in deleted
items and 1500 sent items.
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[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of
Charles Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 11:45
AM To: 'The Sandbox Discussion List' Subject: RE:
[Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)
Well as I said, it
depends on what you call flirting. That’s always been the problem
when we discuss it on this list. Not everyone agrees on a common
definition. Both David and I told Jackie just the other day we
always ogle her. That could easily be called flirting, but the
intent wasn’t to sleep with Jackie as fun as that may
be.
I see Neecy several times a year in person, and
we flirt in our way, but neither of us are interested in each other in a
sexual fashion. So, I would say that if you are flirting with the
intent of seduction then it will absolutely be wrong, and I can agree with
Lowell it isn’t harmless. I would even go so far as to say that it
can lead you to that compromising position that can result in
cheating. So for that reason, it’s not all
harmless.
Again, it boils down to
intent.
Charles
Mims
http://www.the-sandbox.org
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[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf
OfAngela Sent: Tuesday, September 30, 2003 7:28
AM To: The Sandbox Discussion List Subject: RE:
[Sndbox] Pick one (immorality glamorized)
But
anything you read say that simple flirting is harmless. Now I'm not
talking about going out and batting your eyelashes at another guy and
putting your hands all over him, but even being friendly and smiling and
laughing at someone elses jokes can be considered flirting. The important
thing in any relationship is know who you are going home with or to each
night. This trade show I just went to with hubby a few weeks ago, what I
was doing with his companies suppliers could have been considered
flirting, simply because I was being friendly and smiling and wasnt stiff
if one of them hugged me or gave me a kiss on the cheek. But that was all
it was. I need to look up this article I was reading a few months ago
where it was talking about flirting and marriage. But the basic overlook
of the article was light simple flirting can be vital to a relationship
b/c it keeps things fresh. It said never take flirting to the point of
making your spouse jealous. It also stated that flirting is just a simple
part of human nature and some people do it without realizing it. Not
putting anyone down, but most of the casual banter in here between the men
and the women can be considered flirting. And in anyone I've ever asked, a
strictly online relationship is just as damaging to a relationship and can
be considered cheating as much as any physical relationship. So if you
feel flirting is wrong, then when you are online you should watch your
comments (not directed at you AJ, just a generalization). A couple weeks
ago when Tim told David and I to get a room, we were flirting with each
other, but not in a way that either of our spouses would probably think
was wrong. Therefore it is harmless.
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