I also read the entire interview given by Nolte and I didn't see evidence of despair or lack of ego integrity either. Yes, he openly discusses the difficulties that have come his way as he ages, such as those infernal aches and pains, losing friends to illnesses and coming to terms with a less close relationship with his son who now has his own family. But are not those the realities most people face as they age? On the other hand, his anecdote about attending his 50th HS reunion was sweetly amusing and upbeat. As he said, at first you don't recognize anyone but the connections are still there and, naturally, he discovers he still was in love with his HS sweetheart.
I feel Nick Nolte is remarkably authentic for a "Hollywood" actor. We simply aren't accustomed to hearing a man express himself with such candor; i.e. he can cry everyday and he can laugh everyday. To me, this is someone who is sharing with amazing frankness how he is in touch with the sadness as well as the goodness of life on a daily basis. That's not despair but a honest expression of an emotional reality. And he certainly is still deeply engaged in what life has to offer. Have many of us will be starring in a film along side Robert Redford when in our 70's? Just BTW, I would highly recommend a small jewel of a film Nolte starred in titled "Off the Black:" "Off the Black" is a coming-of-age story of teenager Dave Tibbel (Morgan) who copes with his own distant father (Timothy Hutton) by forming an unlikely friendship with a disheveled, irascible high school umpire, Ray Cooke (Nolte). As they grow more dependent on each other, Ray asks Dave to go to his 40th high school reunion and pretend to be his son, a benevolent act of deception that winds up opening unexpected dimensions in the two men. Read more: http://www.aceshowbiz.com/movie/off_the_black/#ixzz3SF0szUyh Joan jwarm...@oakton.edu > Now that Iâve had the time to read the entire article, I wouldnât > agree that Nolte lacks ego integrity. The article ends with this quote: > > You learn acceptance and humility. You learn how to find happiness on your > own terms. Just because I cry every day, doesn't mean I don't laugh every > day, too. > > Linda Tollefsrud > UW Colleges > Rice Lake, WI > > From: Beth Benoit [mailto:beth.ben...@gmail.com] > Sent: Thursday, February 19, 2015 4:31 PM > To: Teaching in the Psychological Sciences (TIPS) > Subject: Re: [tips] Oliver Sacks > > > > > > > > José Ferreira-Alves sent a link to the original interview with Nick Nolte > in GQ. > > http://www.gq.com/blogs/the-feed/2015/01/nick-nolte-interview.html?mbid=social_retweet > > Beth Benoit > Plymouth State University > Plymouth NH > > On Thu, Feb 19, 2015 at 9:56 AM, José Ferreira Alves > <al...@psi.uminho.pt<mailto:al...@psi.uminho.pt>> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > I agree fully with your interpretation, Beth. > I think your quote of Nick Nolte as well all the paper of Sacks are > fabulous to teach Erikson Integrity vs despair elements > Best wishes > jose > ___________________________ > José Ferreira-Alves, PhD > Assistant Professor > School of Psychology > University of Minho > Campus de Gualtar > 4710-057 Braga > Portugal > Tel.cel. +351919378514<tel:%2B351919378514> > Tel. office: 253604233 > Email: al...@psi.uminho.pt<mailto:al...@psi.uminho.pt> > http://escola.psi.uminho.pt/docentes_investigadores/falves.html > http://orcid.org/0000-0003-1967-0074 > Skype name: feralves6180 > > De: Beth Benoit > [mailto:beth.ben...@gmail.com<mailto:beth.ben...@gmail.com>] > Enviada: 19 de fevereiro de 2015 14:49 > Para: Teaching in the Psychological Sciences (TIPS) > Assunto: Re: [tips] Oliver Sacks > > > > > > > > Oliver Sacks continues to inspire and present a brave and beautiful > attitude toward life. Interesting contrast in this week's The Week, > quoting from a boohooing GQ interview with Nick Nolte: > > "Nick Nolte has found getting old to be a painful experience, said Davy > Rothbart in GQ. "I cry every day," says the actor, 74. "It's nothing > tragic or anything - it's just life. I cry when I try to get out of bed, > because I'm in my 70s and my body hurts like hell. Once my joints are > moving, I'm all right, but those are my first tears in the morning." > Nolte's acute sense of mortality is reinforced every time an old friend > dies. "That'll always bring on a good cry..." But Nolte says that > perhaps the most painful consequence of growing old is seeing your > children become involved in their own lives and slowly drift away. "My > son is 28. We've had a close relationship all my life, but now that he's > gotten married and had his own family, he's much more secretive. He'll > say, 'That's none of your business, Dad. Leave me alone.' And that's a > sad one - letting go of your children...." > > After reading the above I concluded that Sacks is a good example of ego > integrity in Erikson's final psychosocial stage, while Nolte might be a > pretty good example of the failure of it: despair. > > Beth Benoit > Plymouth State University > Plymouth NH > > On Thu, Feb 19, 2015 at 7:17 AM, Lilienfeld, Scott O > <slil...@emory.edu<mailto:slil...@emory.edu>> wrote: > > > > > > > > > > Sad news about Oliver Sacks; I had not known this. > > http://mindhacks.com/2015/02/19/oliver-sacks-now-i-am-face-to-face-with-dying/ > > â¦â¦Scott > > > Scott O. 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