Hi Cauvery, I can empathise with how you feel. I have 2 older sisters and about 20 years ago, something similar happened. They would get good potential matches but once they realize that I am blind, those families wouldn't pursue it any further. It didn't matter that at the time, I was even running my own business. Your brother is better off not marrying into such narrow-minded families. It is not easy to ignore the feeling of responsibility but it isn't your fault at all.
Good luck with your studies! Regards, Kiran On Thu, Dec 22, 2022 at 10:09 PM Cauvery Krishna < cauverykrishna...@gmail.com> wrote: > Thank you so much everyone for your messages. It helped me. > > On Fri, Dec 23, 2022, 08:49 rituraj meena <riturajmeena1...@gmail.com> > wrote: > >> Nothing can happen to such poor and small minded people. I am a resident >> of Alwar, Rajasthan. I also get to hear this many times that their children >> will also be blind. >> >> On December 23, 2022 8:17:11 AM Aravind R <aravind.andhrab...@gmail.com> >> wrote: >> >> correct. >>> I have mentioned about my banking job, decent salary and my own >>> investment power without any borrowing. >>> Still people has their own fears like this which we cannot resolve and >>> they wont openly express also. >>> 1. first fear is their children might develope disability which nobody >>> can proove. >>> 2. Eventhough we are financially independent, our jobs might be at >>> risk as if, their job is the safest heaven. >>> 3. today we may sound as independent, but tomorrow, we may ask some >>> help by emotionally attacking our siblings. >>> These kind of negative assumptions cannot be cured as its the effect >>> of their own psychological problems, masked as expressing like our >>> defects. >>> >>> On 23/12/2022, BHAWANI SHANKAR VERMA <bsvermad...@gmail.com> wrote: >>> >>>> it is good to read! that >>>> >>>> If you get a very good job, people will understand that you are not a >>>> dependent to your brother. >>>> >>>> it is dificult to prove that you are in good job even if you get a good >>>> one. blindness is blindness, it has nothing to do with your good job >>>> outside your office building. I have 30 years of banking job, but, still >>>> some of my far relatives don't believe it. A complete blind person has >>>> to struggle with the perception in society. only wait and watch rule >>>> works. >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> On 12/22/2022 10:26 PM, kannan balasubramanian wrote: >>>> >>>>> If you get a very good job, people will understand that you are not a >>>>> dependent to your brother. >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> Thank you. >>>>> >>>>> B. KANNAN >>>>> Mobile: +919444049216. >>>>> >>>>> On 12/22/22, Cauvery Krishna <cauverykrishna...@gmail.com> wrote: >>>>> >>>>>> Hi, Access Indians, >>>>>> This is a very personal thing but I don't have any other option but to >>>>>> ask >>>>>> this. >>>>>> I am a person with visual impairment; I have lost my vision at a later >>>>>> stage of my life. >>>>>> I am pursuing my post graduation at a reputed institution, I am good >>>>>> with >>>>>> technology, and I am independent also. >>>>>> But, when people come to see my elder brother for his arranged >>>>>> marriage >>>>>> and >>>>>> they get to know about me and my disability, they cancel the marriage >>>>>> with >>>>>> my brother. >>>>>> They think that I am a burden on my brother but I am an independent >>>>>> person >>>>>> and even I am studying on a 100% scholarship and that too with monthly >>>>>> stipent, and I will soon be getting a good job. >>>>>> They say that they don't want their daughter to do seva of me. >>>>>> My brother is does not have a disability, he looks good and ernes good >>>>>> as >>>>>> well. >>>>>> But because of me and my disability he is not getting married. >>>>>> If some one of you has faced this type of situation please suggest me >>>>>> what >>>>>> can I do now. >>>>>> Thank you. >>>>>> Cauvery Krishna. >>>>>> >>>>>> -- >>>>>> Disclaimer: >>>>>> 1. 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