Mr Cold Fusion, It sounds like you would be considered clinically depressed - and no wonder judging by all the events that have happened to you. Depression is a disease which can often be brought on by stress, which you have had a great deal of. It is surely what is causing your weight gain, your feelings of hopelessness and your wanting to crawl into a shell. However, the good news is that it is controllable via medication.
If you have insurance then see your doctor and explain your symptoms - the weight gain, the sadness, the hoplessness and I am sure he will be happy to prescribe a drug to make you feel better. If you dont' have insurance look in the phone book for a community mental health service agency. They will be happy to evaluate you and will also prescribe you these drugs. Once you are on an anti-depressant you will feel much much better and will be able to get things back on track. when you are depressed its very hard to get motivated - these meds will help you. So all you need to do is get motivated to get to a doctor, ok? If you feel that you cant' do this, please give this email to your wife and ask her for help. Keep us posted, and please keep writing if it helps you. Beth in Alaska. > -----Original Message----- > From: Nathan Stanford [SMTP:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > Sent: Monday, December 03, 2001 4:51 AM > To: CF-Community > Subject: Just feeling Bad > > I hate to ask this since I know there is no one answer... however please > understand I am simply asking because I do not know what to do with > myself. > > > Here is my life... > > I was diagnosed with Type 2 a couple of weeks before Christmas. Since > this > event so many things have happened in my life... > > 1. My feet and the lower part of my legs do not have hair. (Great concern > even though the doctor says it is ok.) > > 2. My Mother-in-law broke her ankle bad it spiraled into her ankle so it > broke both bones and will never heal correctly. So she stayed with my > wife > and I for 3 months or more. > > 3. My Father-in-law got laid off after 29 years and 8 months working at > Firestone. He then took a job at Sears Pest control and did not want > anyone > to know he felt shamed. (I know he should not have) He finally took > another > job at a school in a poor neighborhood and then he and 3 other teachers > due > to race were asked to resign. > > 4. My Mother-in-law got laid off from American Airlines due to 9-11 > > 5. My Mother went in for a procedure and ended up needing a triple by pass > on her heart. (She has diabetes) > > 6. I go laid off of my job in Dallas/Fort Worth, Texas. > > 7. After 3 months I found a job in New Orleans, LA for $20,000 less in > pay. > > 8. We had to sell our house which we had talked about it being our dream > house. > > 9. One year ago my parents moved to the Dallas/Fort Worth Area from > Boston, > MA area to live near us. > > 10. One month ago my Brother, his wife and two girls moved to the > Dallas/Fort Worth Area too. > > > I am a Computer Programmer so I do not exercise at work. I tend to be on > the computer when I get home as an escape and do not exercise there > either. > I need to loose weight bad. My recent test the doctor said was good but I > still have not heard what the actual numbers are. My wife with all that > has > happened is very depressed. My wife now is taking some medicine so she > can > handle what is going on for now. I am worried the loss in pay I will not > be > able to afford our new house and I am worried I am not exercising enough > and > will have complications from my diabetes. My wife is with her mother in > Dallas/Fort Worth letting my two boys finish school until the Christmas > break. I am worried about the fact that I am a ColdFusion Web Programmer > and if ColdFusion does not stay on the up and up I maybe without a career. > Everyone tells me to study other languages and I want to but I can not get > motivated. I also started a website on the side 2 years ago that has been > successful in bringing people however not in bringing money. I started a > new website which charged it started out great then one by one all of my > helpers quit. Sorry to cry on everyone's shoulder but I am at my wits end > and do not care anymore. Not sure what to do. My wife will not be here > for > a couple of weeks. I feel lazy and like a loser to not be able to make > the > money I need to stay in Texas. I have gained weight here and feel very > rotten about that. I started to go to church yesterday and when I sit > down > in my car my pants ripped. I feel very bad. I am at the point I want to > quit both websites and craw in a shell go to work and do what I have to > just > to get by. > > Sorry I should not send this out to you... but I need someone and I do not > want my wife to worry anymore then she already does. You do not know me > and > so I feel I can do this without anyone knowing me. > > > Thanks for your shoulders, > MrColdFusion > > (ColdFusion - A Web Development Tool for Creating Dynamic Web Pages) > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Structure your ColdFusion code with Fusebox. Get the official book at http://www.fusionauthority.com/bkinfo.cfm Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/cf-community@houseoffusion.com/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
