Hm...I had a brief relationship with a bi man. The major issue that I had was that he had told me early on that he "preferred men." To which my reaction was, "hm....well, my lack of penis doesn't seem to be an issue right at this here moment." But, the comment needled its way into my brain and planted itself there - growing into a nagging ragweed in our happy field of daisies. Finally, I just had to say, "you know, I can't always be wondering if you're actually fulfilled - gotta go."
I think that's often the issue - the idea that no one person can be both sexes for someone. So, unless you're into the poly thing, you're always left wondering if you're truly doing it for your partner - which is an icky place to be. On 7/28/05, S. Isaac Dealey <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > No, I'm not anxious about it, I'm quite comfortable with it, thank > you. :) > > But Tiff came across this article on nerve.com > > http://www.nerve.com/personalessays/horwitz/bianxiety/ > > (Nerve.com may not be worksafe -- if wet t-shirts on women isn't > work-safe, I'd check it out when you get home.) > > It's reasonably well written and I thought some of the folks on the > list might find it interesting to read. It does a pretty good job of > explaining how in a lot of places in the US, being a bisexual male > (and being honest about it) can actually decrease your number of > potential romantic attachments. > > I've never been outside of the states for a prolonged period, so I > can't really comment on the culture in other places, but I gather that > it's easier for bisexual men in Europe. > > It's also generally speaking easier for bisexual women as being a > woman and being bisexual is actually horribly attractive to most men > and completely inoffensive to most women (although lesbians still > won't associate with you -- many of them even socially -- gay men are > similar)... > > By comparison, a bisexual man seems to be somewhat unnerving to both > men and women in both the gay and straight communities. Outside of the > obvious opportunities to be a victim of hate-crimes against GLBT > people, even when you're around people who aren't violently offended > by it and your monogamous (I'm not, which makes things a bit easier > for me _in_theory_) most gay men _and_ straight women respond to your > being bisexual with "whatever floats your boat, but I'd rather drown > than be with you romantically". <sigh>... > > Apparently the whole issue is about bisexuality: > > http://www.nerve.com/specialissues/bisexuality/ > > The one above is the only article I've read tho. > > I'd like to see this one about that bs study everybody's talking about > that says there aren't any bisexual men: > > http://www.nerve.com/regulars/rawnerve/026/ > > Unfortunately you have to pay for the subscription to get it. > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Discover CFTicket - The leading ColdFusion Help Desk and Trouble Ticket application http://www.houseoffusion.com/banners/view.cfm?bannerid=48 Message: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=i:5:166964 Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/threads.cfm/5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/lists.cfm/link=s:5 Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=11502.10531.5 Donations & Support: http://www.houseoffusion.com/tiny.cfm/54
