I was "nice" for a while and put a mug with chocolates on my desk. Now I'm getting complaints when it's empty. And when it's not empty I have trouble not eating them. <sigh>
> -----Original Message----- > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > Sent: Monday, February 25, 2002 9:22 AM > To: CF-Community > Subject: RE: Come see the violence inherent in the system! > > > Yes. I'm not that bad but I know people who are. Actually, > during the holidays the secretary over here would come over > like my pusher ans say "pst. Michael, I've got ya godiva". I > had enough to put me off chocolate for almost a month. > > At 12:14 PM 2/25/02, you wrote: > >Have you seen the t-shirt in the form of a ransom note > (letters/words cut > >from magazines) that says "Hand over the chocolate and no > one gets hurt"? > > > >(Just kidding) > > > >> -----Original Message----- > >> From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > >> Sent: Monday, February 25, 2002 9:07 AM > >> To: CF-Community > >> Subject: RE: Come see the violence inherent in the system! > >> > >> > >> And how many people have you beaten up for a candy bar? There > >> are degrees of low impulse control. Personal control such as > >> for a diet is usually lower than public control such as just > >> grabbing something you want. I'm great with the public > >> (wouldn't even use some milk from the work fridge because its > >> not mine) but my private control is a bit shaky. I've sworn > >> off chocolate a number of times to no effect. I've sworn on > >> vegetables just as often but my diet still looks like that of > >> a lion (meat, meat and more meat). > >> A child slowly learns both the personal and public impulse > >> control. Some faster and some slower. Hinda still sometimes > >> grabs toys from Moshe but would never do so to a different > >> child. That shows impulse control (brothers don't count as > >> much :) ). Her internal schema says that strangers and > >> friends are out of bounds for grabbing, brothers should be > >> out of bounds as well but sometime.... > >> For a child to attack someone in public really shows a > >> breakdown in their control. > >> > >> At 11:41 AM 2/25/02, you wrote: > >> >Interestingly, it was Disney movies that helped our son > >> grasp the concept of > >> >reality vs. pretend. We pointed out to him that there was a > >> real boy named > >> >Tommy Kirk who pretended to be other children in a number > of movies. > >> > > >> >And ya HAD to mention candy bars > >> >I STILL have "low impulse control" in some areas <sigh> > >> > > >> > > >> >> -----Original Message----- > >> >> From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > >[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > >>> Sent: Monday, February 25, 2002 8:40 AM > >>> To: CF-Community > >>> Subject: RE: Come see the violence inherent in the system! > >>> > >>> > >>> True. :) > >>> While I am a proud papa and love my kids, I'm not sure that > >>> their taking responsibility for their actions and knowing the > >>> difference between real and pretend is all nurture (or > >>> genetics for that matter). Moshe will come home with a story > >>> and will tell it to us and then say that its all pretend and > >>> didn't happen. He knows the difference. Hinda will sometimes > >>> get upset with herself when she doesn't act right. She knows > >>> that she's not doing the right thing but at the time her > >>> impulses are more powerful than her common sense (like when > >>> she's overtired). That may be the issue here. Rather than the > >>> child not knowing the difference between real and pretend, he > >>> may have low impulse control. This is the 'voice in our head' > >>> that stops us from just grabbing a candy bar when we want it > >>> or beating on > >>> someone when they upset us. Super ego, if you want. > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ This list and all House of Fusion resources hosted by CFHosting.com. The place for dependable ColdFusion Hosting. Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
