And how many people have you beaten up for a candy bar? There are degrees of low impulse control. Personal control such as for a diet is usually lower than public control such as just grabbing something you want. I'm great with the public (wouldn't even use some milk from the work fridge because its not mine) but my private control is a bit shaky. I've sworn off chocolate a number of times to no effect. I've sworn on vegetables just as often but my diet still looks like that of a lion (meat, meat and more meat). A child slowly learns both the personal and public impulse control. Some faster and some slower. Hinda still sometimes grabs toys from Moshe but would never do so to a different child. That shows impulse control (brothers don't count as much :) ). Her internal schema says that strangers and friends are out of bounds for grabbing, brothers should be out of bounds as well but sometime.... For a child to attack someone in public really shows a breakdown in their control.
At 11:41 AM 2/25/02, you wrote: >Interestingly, it was Disney movies that helped our son grasp the concept of >reality vs. pretend. We pointed out to him that there was a real boy named >Tommy Kirk who pretended to be other children in a number of movies. > >And ya HAD to mention candy bars >I STILL have "low impulse control" in some areas <sigh> > > >> -----Original Message----- >> From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] >> Sent: Monday, February 25, 2002 8:40 AM >> To: CF-Community >> Subject: RE: Come see the violence inherent in the system! >> >> >> True. :) >> While I am a proud papa and love my kids, I'm not sure that >> their taking responsibility for their actions and knowing the >> difference between real and pretend is all nurture (or >> genetics for that matter). Moshe will come home with a story >> and will tell it to us and then say that its all pretend and >> didn't happen. He knows the difference. Hinda will sometimes >> get upset with herself when she doesn't act right. She knows >> that she's not doing the right thing but at the time her >> impulses are more powerful than her common sense (like when >> she's overtired). That may be the issue here. Rather than the >> child not knowing the difference between real and pretend, he >> may have low impulse control. This is the 'voice in our head' >> that stops us from just grabbing a candy bar when we want it >> or beating on >> someone when they upset us. Super ego, if you want. ______________________________________________________________________ Macromedia ColdFusion 5 Training from the Source Step by Step ColdFusion http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0201758474/houseoffusion Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
