Have you seen the t-shirt in the form of a ransom note (letters/words cut from magazines) that says "Hand over the chocolate and no one gets hurt"?
(Just kidding) > -----Original Message----- > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] > Sent: Monday, February 25, 2002 9:07 AM > To: CF-Community > Subject: RE: Come see the violence inherent in the system! > > > And how many people have you beaten up for a candy bar? There > are degrees of low impulse control. Personal control such as > for a diet is usually lower than public control such as just > grabbing something you want. I'm great with the public > (wouldn't even use some milk from the work fridge because its > not mine) but my private control is a bit shaky. I've sworn > off chocolate a number of times to no effect. I've sworn on > vegetables just as often but my diet still looks like that of > a lion (meat, meat and more meat). > A child slowly learns both the personal and public impulse > control. Some faster and some slower. Hinda still sometimes > grabs toys from Moshe but would never do so to a different > child. That shows impulse control (brothers don't count as > much :) ). Her internal schema says that strangers and > friends are out of bounds for grabbing, brothers should be > out of bounds as well but sometime.... > For a child to attack someone in public really shows a > breakdown in their control. > > At 11:41 AM 2/25/02, you wrote: > >Interestingly, it was Disney movies that helped our son > grasp the concept of > >reality vs. pretend. We pointed out to him that there was a > real boy named > >Tommy Kirk who pretended to be other children in a number of movies. > > > >And ya HAD to mention candy bars > >I STILL have "low impulse control" in some areas <sigh> > > > > > >> -----Original Message----- > >> From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] >> Sent: Monday, February 25, 2002 8:40 AM >> To: CF-Community >> Subject: RE: Come see the violence inherent in the system! >> >> >> True. :) >> While I am a proud papa and love my kids, I'm not sure that >> their taking responsibility for their actions and knowing the >> difference between real and pretend is all nurture (or >> genetics for that matter). Moshe will come home with a story >> and will tell it to us and then say that its all pretend and >> didn't happen. He knows the difference. Hinda will sometimes >> get upset with herself when she doesn't act right. She knows >> that she's not doing the right thing but at the time her >> impulses are more powerful than her common sense (like when >> she's overtired). That may be the issue here. Rather than the >> child not knowing the difference between real and pretend, he >> may have low impulse control. This is the 'voice in our head' >> that stops us from just grabbing a candy bar when we want it >> or beating on >> someone when they upset us. Super ego, if you want. ______________________________________________________________________ Macromedia ColdFusion 5 Training from the Source Step by Step ColdFusion http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0201758474/houseoffusion Archives: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/index.cfm?sidebar=lists
